Love Stinks (well for me anyway)

I am sorry you miss understood me. I am not married to the guy who I have to kids with and in the passed 4 years he has told other women that he loves them more then I have talked to other guys when I met him I stopped talking to almost every guy who I used to talk to but he just kept telling them he wants them and was just with me for the kids and there is just not the same thing between us there that there was before I had our son. I want to marry him but not till he gets all of his stuff in the right order like our kids come before his ex and his mom. I should have fixed it before I posted it.

I'm so sorry. If this guy that you have 2 kids with goes around with other women and says he loves them and not you, refuses to marry you even though your children are already rather big, not babies but a few years old, why do you stay on? He is not worth your time and staying on is going to adversely affect you, your family and maybe even your children. You should start thinking for yourself even if you don't want to think for your family and children(can't think so much when you are already in so deep a mess). I feel very sorry and sad for you. Please forgive me for misunderstanding your situation. I know it's difficult to be a single parent. Can you think of or share something good in him, like he is a responsible and doting father, that he supports you and your children? Tell why you are still with him and we will see what is the problem, what's holding both of you back from marriage or holding both of you back from moving on with your own lives.

I guess both of you were very young when you got together. Being young, many are not able to take the stress of babies , especially when they cry. This might have started the drift. Next, many young men cannot take the big responsibility and the feeling of losing freedom. However, one must grow up somewhere, the trouble is he hasn't grown up yet when he went together with you. Now, the trouble is your parents didn't insisted both of you got married when you were first pregnant in the initial stage when both of you were in love. Now that you have both stayed together in his parents' place for a few years, it isn't going to happen anymore. His parents as well as him won't spend this type of money (marriage) on you. The children are already big. So it is now simply your very own choice, to carry on living there and doing chores like free maid or leave. They won't chase you away but they won't treasure you either and definitely won't hold you back if you want to leave. He doesn't give you household expense, is it because his parents are supporting both of you? You don't have to earn money to support the family, you eat what there is in the house, correct? Both of you are staying in his parents' place, yes? How old are you now? If you stay on, you will have to wait till he is past 45 to see a difference in your relationship, where there's more caring. But that is only if nobody else got him to marry her. My advice is request for a marriage, even if it is only registering (in law as a couple) with no dinner or church wedding. If there is no legal binding, then move on. Ending it is the only way to find someone that will truly love and treasure you. You can't start when you are still with him. You only made yourself as a one night stand, someone not for treasuring. Always remember one thing: if even you cannot love yourself, then no one else can. You HAVE to love yourself first. Always treasure yourself, with or without him.