How much are kids important in to a relation between a man and a woman?

@icesmile (7160)
Romania
January 30, 2010 3:09am CST
I have a good friend, woman friend, who divorced just because his husband want to have kids, and she can t have, just because of shes health; doctors forbid this woman to have kids, just because she can die. You can imagine how much she suffer, because she really love her husband. but he want babies a lot, and now will marry with other woman. They don t want adopt kids, she because don t want to stay with her husband just for kids, and he don t want to adopt because he want his own kids. All blame this man just because let his woman because can t have kids, but are peoples who blame her too, just because she can t have kids, and they think that in a couple, woman and man must to have kids. He blame his ex wife just because hide that she can t have babies. before marriage i mean. what do you think? who you will blame? of course that i am sure that 2 can be happy with adopted kids, or they can live toghether withaut kids, if God want this.
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@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
30 Jan 10
I feel very sorry for the lady whose husband divorced her just because she wasn't able have children. It was not her fault it was because of a medical problem. He wouldn't have wanted her to get pregnant and then die during childbirth. There are many babies, toddlers and children that can be adopted. They could have adopted a child from their home country or abroad. My mom's friend got married and they tried to have a baby. Medical tests showed that it was impossible. Therefore they adopted a little girl who came from a teenager. Next they adopted a little boy who came from a business lady. Those children are now grown up. Adopting children is very rewarding. There is another option and that is being a foster carer. It is possible for a married couple to be happy without having children. If they want children but pregnancy isn't possible adoption is usually a good option.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
30 Jan 10
Hi, you are so right, but are man who want a woman just because they want baby; is not fair, but you know that man sometimes don t see in a woman a person who need love he see in this woman just a way to have something with his name....
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
sorry to hear about that =( that's really sad. Although couples / individuals differ in preference or opinion when it comes to having kids or not, I personally think it's important. Because I love kids, and having a kid with the man I love I think would only strengthen our relationship, our bond. Kids make me happy. Seeing them happy brings me a feeling of contentment and hope in life.