Does it make you feel special when people remember you here?

By Leca
@lecanis (16739)
Murfreesboro, Tennessee
February 5, 2010 1:47pm CST
I know when I first started doing mylot, it took me a while to really start connecting with people and remembering things about their lives, outside of whatever their response to the current discussion was. After a while, however, I had several friends whose names I knew and whose lives I knew something about. The first time I had someone connect me from one discussion to another and start commenting on things involved with my life, I was really flattered that I was interesting enough to pay that much attention to! Now, I haven't really been active on mylot for over a year, because I became involved with other websites, had a lot change in my offline life, and then really just never got back to it. But today I logged on, and found that someone remembered me right away! Have you had a similar experience?
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19 responses
• Canada
5 Feb 10
Hi lecanis! I definitely remember you! I had a similar experience when I was offline for a while because of personal things going on in my offline life, and with my pregnancy. I then came back to MyLot after being MIA for just about a year, And I started a discussion titled Remember Me? and it was basically an update announcing the daughter we had on October 7th. I was shocked at how many people did remember me and how many people responded. It does make you feel special to know that you were not only remembered, but missed as well! And on that note I missed you, and thought about and wondered how you were doing from time to time! Is nice to see your back MyLotting once again!
@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
5 Feb 10
I remember you!!!!!!!!! lol It's amazing how much people get invested in their online friends, and there were times over the past year or so when I wondered how everyone here was doing, but I just couldn't seem to come on! Things were a little too crazy. I'm glad to see you too! And how's your daughter doing?
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• Canada
5 Feb 10
Both of my girls are doing great thanks :) How is your son? Am so glad that you remember me or that could have been a little weird!
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
5 Feb 10
Yeah it would be pretty awkward! lol My son is doing as well as can be expected. His epilepsy is still a major problem for us, and it has caused developmental problems as well. Basically, he's almost four and operating on the level of a one-year-old or so. He's my sweetie, though. Right now we're living in Tennessee and have an apartment just for me and him. Things with his dad finally went 'kablooey', but I really like being back down South and Dusty is getting better medical care.
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@ghieptc (2525)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
Yes, It makes you special when someone remember you because we here. After a long break, you discuss & post, comment. Welcome back lecanis, you're busy in other site. Do you earn much? Update me if you have a good site.
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
8 Feb 10
Thank you! Well, I haven't really done any online money-making stuff during the time that I wasn't on mylot, so no, I don't have any good sites. The types of things I was busy with weren't money-making activities, just fun things, and real-life issues.
@ghieptc (2525)
• Philippines
9 Feb 10
I think you are happy go lucky guy. Enjoy life to the next level & have spare time to earn also. Happy Valentines!
• United States
6 Feb 10
Welcome back! I just sent you a private message. I haven't left but I would find it real flattering that someone remembered me.I have many friends here and I do try to keep in touch.
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
6 Feb 10
It seems like you're in the minority for not having left and been here that long! Most of us tend to come and go, it seems! I'm surprised at how many people I remember! And you're one of them! :D
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• United States
6 Feb 10
Thanks. It feels good to be remembered,
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• Canada
5 Feb 10
To be honest, I didnt notice if people remember me or not but I think a few friends do. It makes me feel a little uneasy..let me explain. Im very bad at remembering people I cant see. Im a visual, so if they say something about their lives, I tend to forget and its not because I dont pay attention, its because I cant make a visual picture in my mind about that person. So maybe I have a lot of people think that Im cold or that I dont care when I do.
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@dasj20 (127)
• India
6 Feb 10
hi i agree with you. i don't agree with some people says that they first take visual images of the people.i think it may difficult because show every one and got visual pictures and their so no enough time.... first talk and do friendship.if you like his habits then continue else say sorry ........
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
6 Feb 10
Hmm. Well, honestly, when I talk to people online I tend to connect to their avatars visually, so I'm one of those people who gets confused when people change their user pics! I know a lot of people are the same way; a couple of years ago I change mine to the one I use now, and people freaked out! :P
• Australia
5 Feb 10
Hi lecanis. You are not someone who is easily forgotten. You were one of my first friends when I joined here more than three years ago. I enjoyed many discussions/debates with you. Even though we are just about opposite in a number of ways, we respect each others opinions. When I returned here a few months ago, after a two year absence, I noted that while your account was still open, you hadn't been here for some time. I'm pleased to see you here again.
@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
5 Feb 10
Hi!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm glad to hear I'm not easy forgotten! You aren't either, you know! I really learned to enjoy disagreeing respectfully with you! :P So you were gone for a while too, huh? I've sort of been toying with the idea of popping back on for a bit, but it just felt weird until now. Hopefully I'll be able to stick around this time.
• Australia
5 Feb 10
I look forward to seeing you on the boards again and enjoying a little fun.
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@doormouse (4619)
5 Feb 10
i'm on here most days,but i do like it when people remember my previous posts,or ask how i am and stuff,it makes me feel good
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
5 Feb 10
Glad to hear it! It's amazing how big a difference that makes, just showing a little bit of interest in someone!
• Canada
5 Feb 10
I agree! It's also nice if you do a discussion about advice or help with a problem and the person cares enough to follow up and ask how you made out! Or if they just randomly message you a quick note saying they are thinking about you and/or ask how your doing!
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@Thoroughrob (11771)
• United States
8 Feb 10
It is nice when people remember you. It is nice to making new friends that you can associate with, even if it is online.
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
8 Feb 10
That's true! Online friendships are something to treasure as well as offline ones.
@calai618 (1781)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
yes it sure does. :D a lot of people here in mylot are really very warm. it's even extra more special for me since I dont have an avatar and yet people still remember me and my posts. :D
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
8 Feb 10
Aren't there just tons of friendly people around here? OOoh I hadn't thought about the avatar thing. It's true that people really must pay attention if they remember you without one!
@phoenix8606 (4978)
6 Feb 10
hi! I am still new here and still take a look around, but I will be very happy if many of the members here remember me, because it will mean, that I am a very useful person and make some quality work here, and that's why i am trying to help to the people here who need some help about some problems!!!
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
8 Feb 10
Good luck!
@machivado (529)
• Indonesia
6 Feb 10
To have someone remembers us is a blessing in this life. By remembering our lives then we can find our real identity and answer who we are. And it's a blessing to have someone remember who we are.
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
8 Feb 10
That's very true.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
Hello, Lecanis.:-) I am a newbie here in Mylot but gained quite a few number of good friends. It is truly flattering, not to mention heartwarming, that a friends here remember even though they are just your virtual friends. It is always a wonderful feeling when you feel that they seem truly care about you and your well being. Somehow, they make me feel like I belong here and I am special and loved.:-) Have a great weekend.:-)
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
8 Feb 10
Hi! It sounds like you're really enjoying yourself here and making good friends! That's great. I really feel the same way, now that I'm back.
@binagupta (628)
• India
6 Feb 10
yes, ofcouse i really feel nice when some one remember me it makes me feel higher i think someone is there who rember me and i also start carring for him, i think i have done really a good job so thats why some one rember me.
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
8 Feb 10
That's awesome! I'm glad that you're doing well!
@myzire72 (1157)
• Singapore
6 Feb 10
Hi lecanis, that goes without saying. Everyone wants to be remembered. It really feels good, especially when someone still remembers your name even if you have not contacted him for a long time. As for me, since I am new and has signed in to myLot everyday since the day I joined, therefore I don't think I'll be remembered or missed as of now. And I think the best way to make people remember me is to impress them with quality posts, and I am working hard towards it.
@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
8 Feb 10
Sounds like you're on the right path! :D
@abitcurious (1423)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
I'm new in mylot so I haven't really started with connecting with someone yet. I joked around with a few, though. I joined here because I wanted to make new friends apart from my friends from school. I'm looking forward to the day that I'd have friends to talk about my personal stuff, too. For now I'm just enjoying it. Maybe in time I'd remember some and I'd be remembered too.
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
8 Feb 10
It does take a while to start connecting with people, but keep at it! :D I'm glad that you're having fun here at least!
@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
6 Feb 10
Hiya lecanis...I most certainly do remember you and you were one of my first friends here when I joined a looooonnnnnggggg time ago. I often wondered what happened to you and kept hoping you would show up again eventually, so imagine my surprise when I came here today and you started this discussion....glad you're back While I'm not always as active here, I pretty much check in daily to see what's happening and if anything reply to discussions I've started
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
6 Feb 10
You've still got your good old black cat there, I see! *giggles* Been a really long time! I'm amazed to see so many people I knew were either still around or had left and come back again like me! I hope things are going well for you!
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@Hazelrose (2186)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
Hi lecanis,Glad to hear that they still remember you here in mylot.For me,it is a great pleasure.Good day!
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
6 Feb 10
Thanks for responding! Sounds like it really does make everyone seem special!
@Zhizho (1352)
• Indonesia
6 Feb 10
Yes.I felt it too.When I was not active on mylot for few months, someone send me massage and ask me to active again.It's mean that he make a mark on me.I think,Mylot can help us to make a friend and build a network.
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
6 Feb 10
Wow, that's really cool! I think I had a few people message me while I was gone, but I sort of wasn't up to coming back at the time. It's great that you were able to reconnect though!
• India
6 Feb 10
Yes.... I'm happy to here those who remembered me here...............
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• United States
10 Feb 10
Who could forget you!! Some of the best conversations I have ever experienced is the ones you and I were in together. WE have had so many laughs, shared many many heart aches, talked though serious issues and I felt I learned so much from you. I missed you when you stopped posting. Then I as well kind of let mylot drop to the wayside. I had found myself taking to many issues with mylot Politics, friends issues to heart. I also had alot of my own drama going on with family that I just did not need mylot adding to my stress. This was my own fault, as I was personalizing what was not really mine to begin with. When I started seeing your posts again in email, ( I always read my notifications from my friends still here that are posting)I realized how much I missed everyone, and you have brought me out of hibernation. Back to your question, yes it is a great feeling that maybe I was missed, that a least a few of my words and discussions touched someone that they remember me and go out of their way to tell me. Welcome Back Home :))))