Would you take him back?

February 10, 2010 8:44am CST
If a person had cheated on you a few times but through the course of years, you think that he has changed for good and he is now very devoted to you, would you be willing to take the risk and take him back?
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8 responses
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
11 Feb 10
I would be reluctant to give someone who cheated on me a second chance; especially he had done it several times! If the betrayal happened once and he realised the gravity of his mistake I would carefully reconsider but a serial cheater, no way! I like to think that I care for myself more than putting up with someone who would treat me so badly! Having said that, I realise that each and every situation is different but I would require concrete evidence that he had changed and if that entailed him visiting a therapist, for example, I would want a consultation with that person before allowing my ex back into my life. I also think that for me it would be difficult for my feelings for him not to change for the worse.
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• Philippines
4 Mar 10
It depends how many times he cheated on me. I don't know but I get really fed up If I am given the same excuses to cover up for cheating. I can extend my patience but I have to keep some respect and dignity for myself. I believe that if my partner cheated on me more than once, he is no longer in love with me. That is one thing that is difficult to have back, the "spark".
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
14 Feb 10
I would probably be friends, but I would never trust him anymore I'm sure someone can change, but I won't be too trusting after being fooled
@johndur (3049)
• Pasig, Philippines
14 Feb 10
as you have said he cheated a few times then for sure he will do it again and again.men can really make you believe how devoted he is and how loyal he is to you but once a cheater is always a cheater.so be very cautious and try to watch him more closely because for sure he will do it again.
@piya84 (2591)
• India
13 Feb 10
No if it is a me at your place i wont take cheater back at any cost.No matter how good he is behaving now.I know that sound bit a harsh but thats how it is.I dont trust people easily.
@cdparazo (5768)
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
I think i could forgive almost anything but never that. My husband had done so many things that really made me so angry that we had separated for over 2 years. But in the end, i still managed to forgive. Now, if its about fidelity issues, it's really a different matter. I think I am just not the type of person who could forgive something like that.
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
hello berry, Well,it depends on each individual person. No matter how devoted he is,or how much remorse he showed to prove that he really has changed ,what matters most is...do you still love him? Can you still trust him and are you sure things will be back to normal just like the way when everything is fine and you were loving each other so much? You need to be sure of yourself...it's not how he changed. It's not how he shows his changes and say sorry. It's not how he regret things he has done. But...it is how you feel about him. In my opinion...i am always open to anyone's sorry and changes. But maybe...to take another risks and live with him after all the cheating and hurtings...i don't think it would be easy. I will let the pain fade away...make friend with him again. But living again is not to be consider. Sometimes...when too much pain is experienced by heart...it stops trusting the person who caused that pain. So...it all depends on each person...some maybe can forgive and live again with that person. Some may remain forever friends.
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
Change is a continuing process, good or bad... If he has changed for the better, then a second chance is a very good option especially if you still love him. The feat of him having to constantly prove himself to be worthy of your trust would somehow reflect the true change. To err is human, to forgive is divine.. Happy MyLotting!