Is it love?

@Niah1976 (733)
Philippines
February 22, 2010 1:20pm CST
My schoolmate and I met again in one of the social networking sites. He said that he is already divorced. He has 3 kids. We chat for an hour. But the thing is I can't get him off my mind. I don't know if I have feelings for him or what. But the thing is I don't know if he is thinking of me, too.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36492)
• United States
22 Feb 10
Hi Niah, I guess only time will tell. Good luck.
@Niah1976 (733)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
Thanks Jo! He already asked me out but I am hesitant. I just told him why he want to see me? Then I said that I am kind of far. I am afraid to fall. I don't want us to see each other because I know I might give in. So what I am doing is I don't go online and I don't reply to his texts. I don't know what I want to happen.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36492)
• United States
25 Feb 10
I think if u have such doubts u better leave him alone. I'm no expert for sure w/my track record. lol.
@Niah1976 (733)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
Thanks. I appreciate your honesty Jo. :))
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
It's INFATUATION...maybe you just missed those old good times of yours girls normally feel that way, If there's no one special in your heart then its like that you are giving him space there inside you, and for sure if he will approach and open up with courting? then I think your answer will be YES. take it slowly, wait for him to open up with you... But hey, Is he your crush before?? Good luck
@Niah1976 (733)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
I didn't really entertained my feelings for him before because I have a bf during that time. But somehow I know that we both like each other before.
@Ritchelle (3798)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
am happy that you're feeling this way but to put things in perspective, love is a deep word. sometimes for anything to be warranted such a term everything has to be in it's place: most of the time this means everything is running smoothly in each other's lives and none would run in disarray when indeed you decided to have a relationship with each other. so, as with everything as is, let it go on for how it is for the meantime. mere friendship and take it on from there.
@maximax8 (27053)
23 Feb 10
I think it can be very enjoyable to get chatting to old school mates on social networking sites. It sounds like you are missing your old school mate and it is normal to think back to the good old days. My school days were happy and my college days were delightful fun. So I do know what you mean about thinking about the guy and not knowing if you have feelings for him. I imagine that he is thinking of you too. I suggest you keep communicating with him and see where it takes you. Over a period of time you are likely to find out your true feelings towards the man. He is divorced so that means he is single again. He has three children so you might like to find out more about how much he sees his kids and what they are like. Maybe you will get back together with him and fall in love.
• India
23 Feb 10
Hello friend!! I don't think that it is love. I think it is just a missing for now and you will forget him soon. You have not mentioned your status whether you are single or married or in some relations... I guess you are single or separated due which you feel loneliness and you are trying to complete yourself when you talked your friend after a long time. I think it is not love at all and just an attraction of short while which will be over soon and you should try to keep yourself in some activities and meeting new people due to which you will feel better and will get to know soon that it was nothing more than a missing because of loneliness... Love is word very commonly used but how often people understand it and really mean it.....I think very few...don't give just your loneliness name of love to complete yourself which might put you in problems in future when you will find yourself not compatible with him... Have a nice time dear friend... Think well before taking any step further...
@cher913 (25897)
• Canada
23 Feb 10
i would say not to rush into anything to make sure it was love. maybe it is nostalgia because you miss your school days. maybe it is something more. i am sure time will tell but take it slow.
@TAZNEM (656)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
its obvious that you still like him but its hard to have feelings for him and he doesn't feel the same way. i suggest that you continue chatting with him until you see if he like you the way you like me. he is the guy so he should be the first to express feelings for you. besides you need to think this over cuz its not easy to marry a guy with a lot kids.
• India
23 Feb 10
i don't think its love.. may be a kind of attraction i guess.. but explore it within you and try to know if he has the same for you and then proceed.. all the best..
• India
23 Feb 10
i dont think that it is love. u jst have feelings of friends or may be its infatauation. its not love
@ghieptc (2525)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
I think you have to evaluate yourself if what you feel is love because it has been years that no communication suddenly you have something in your heart. The heart is the worst enemy it's only cheating you. Find some one that comprehend your likeness. Forget the past & move on. There is a lot of opportunity to love someone.
@kieszha (18)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
wow that is really cool... i am scared if that will happen to me espcially if it is my long tym x bf...coz love is sometimes really crazy..
@sasalove (1710)
• China
23 Feb 10
You schoolmate is your ex boyfriend? Have you been together in the previous days? Have you ever met him again off the social networking sites? Do you think that your schoolmate is honest and do you think you have a good master of his family background? Sorry for a lot of question. From your simple words, what I can see is that you are fascinated with his words, his personality and just letters communication online. I hold a prejudice against those divorced men with kids, no matter whether it is his fault to lead the consequence, but as least this man is not good at maintaining the couple relationship, which is very important to handle the relationship after the romantic love. You should be prudent while you are considering this man if he confessed his love to you. We always need the sense to judge a guy before we are together.
@dhysanne (451)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
I think you just miss him. Of course you knew for some time. And it's really a good feeling that you've met again. And the thing that he told you about his status and everything about his present life, it's feeling of excitement. And sometimes even if you don't say it, you feel like you want to be special friends. For a woman that is something. But for a guy, you better think about it. For now, you're just inspired that you found an old friend and seems that things are getting along well. Just keep the friendship and who knows what comes next. Don't be in a hurry! Have a nice day and Good luck!
@Mike4me (567)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Oh i felt that before, when I was still single. It's when your heart is still not set to someone special. It's like your heart longs for a partner and you normally feels that to people you ones knew, people that you shared a part of your life with, but don't worry, there's nothing to be worried about it, it's all up to you if you want to process your feelings towards him, and in your case that you don't even know if you like him or not, well you have to give it time, if he contacts you again, then maybe you have a future together. :)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
I don't think that you've fallen in love with him, I guess it's more of an infatuation or maybe you just feel comfortable being with him just like the good old days. Or possibly you have feelings for him already, and him to you, but you just don't know it. You see it's hard for us to distinguish if you're really in love with him or vice versa because falling in love is very objective. And for you to know how he also feels towards you, just ask him how he feels.
22 Feb 10
I don't think it is love. You have to remember that over time people do change. if you have not had contact with this person for many years, then it would be almost like meeting a stranger. The things that happen to us in our lives can change a person, and growing from children to adults also gives us a different outlook on life. I guess what I am trying to say is that this person, your friend from way back when, is probably not the same person you remeber from those times. If you do feel you have some kind of connection then just take it slowly for now.
@tommyj (46)
• United States
22 Feb 10
Its amazing how our minds work when it comes to the good old days. We see friends the way they were back in high school . They may be old now but we still see them in our minds the way they were back then. Love or the thought of love is the same way. Our feelings back then are the ones we think about when that special person comes to mind. Chatting with someone on messenger is totally different than meeting and spending time with them.
• China
22 Feb 10
If it is me ,I think I would not began a romance with him even through I have feelings for him. To be 3 kids s stepmother,this sounds not easy,I will have to face many problems,....
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
22 Feb 10
I do not think it is love at this moment but it is some kind of an attraction definitely since you cannot get him out of your mind.Also it could stem from a sense of dependence that you both are unconsciously having in your minds at this point of time,in his case due to the fact that he is alone and in your case may be from your experiences in life and the need for a good friend which perhaps you are finding in him.I think you can safely let the bond grow and then decide whether you really have fallen in love with him.If so go ahead and tell him.There is nothing to lose and you might end up securing your happiness for the rest of your life!
@jaiho2009 (38820)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
Maybe you just missed him and the gold old days. Just wait till you chat again with him,and observe what you were feeling when you happen to met him in person. But,you must be very careful...sometimes,missing or admiration often mistaken as love or endearment. Just give yourself enough time before you decide or claim if it is love or not.