how do you feel if your friend does not mind you?

@rosey19 (952)
Philippines
February 24, 2010 1:02am CST
it happened to me yesterday when a friend of mine did not smile back at me when we saw each other along the corridor of the school. and then today when i saw her i never bother myself to say hello or smile at her because i might embarrassed again. i do not know what she feels about me. if you are in my situation, how do you feel about it? what is your move to do?
6 responses
• Spain
24 Feb 10
maybe she is not on the mood yesterday. sometimes we do not have to inflate our feeling of pride in our superiority to others. does your smile good enough? there is a smile called "dog smile" a ridicule teasing smile. you know smiling is greeting but if only accompanied by hello, or how are you! if she is far we could wave our hands also accompanied by wearing our cheerful smile. peace out to you!
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• Spain
24 Feb 10
i just came fr your profile so i should say.. salamat. magandang araw sa'yo! smile...
@rosey19 (952)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
yes i got your point but we are so near which we almost bang each others face ang i greeted her with a smile which we usually did before. anyway i still give to her my deepest understanding because i know her feelings right now because of the big problem but i hope she would not treat other people like that because it might be that other people could help her problems out.
• India
24 Feb 10
it feels very bad buddy... but your friend might be having a lot of other problems.. being her friend.. you should know if there were any.. but if you are sure she wants to avoid.. give her that pleasure.. of not being with you...
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@rosey19 (952)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
she has really a problem and i know about her problem but i think its not a big obligation to smile back at me or just wink her eyes to recognize me. it's embarrassing on my part.
• India
25 Feb 10
i can understand your feelings buddy. but you should also think in her shoes. she might feel like you are her friend, you can understand her. more than saying hi or winking her eyes its the heart that maters a lot. and between friends the worst of quarrels might happen, but deep down in your heart you know you cannot do without them.
@anc457 (186)
• Thailand
24 Feb 10
preoccupied mind cant respond well to the his/her environment. might be that she's got problems or she's in a bad mood. maybe she doesnt want to talk at that time so just give a smile hehehe. they said smile can melt a hard heart. just give her time to compose herself, just give a smile, even when you'll not get it back.
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@rosey19 (952)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
i guess that's the best thing i've ever do. i hope she will realize how embarrassing it was to smile to a person who doesn't smile back at you. anyway understanding is a virtue.
• United States
24 Feb 10
it might have been she had a bad day or maybe she diidnt see you smiling at her. i hate whn i say hi to somebody and they dnt say hi back, or act like they dont no you i think its very rude so i know how you feel. sometimes people place other people in different social groups and tend not to say hi to you if your not in the same socail group. if i were you i would go up to her and say hi and ask if everything is okay , you never know maybe she didnt see you ?!?
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@rosey19 (952)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
i know she has a big problem and crisis in her life today and this is the moment in her life that she should confide to us her problems not by ignoring me. anyway i understand her and i am willing to make all things right if she will approach me.
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Well, I have to go and ask him/her what was wrong. Maybe I did something or he/she heard something from other people. You have to know why he/she is acting like that. If this happens to me I always ask over and over until they would talk. I think its not fair that your friend is not gonna treat you right and you didnt eve know why. This person is your friend anyway, you know your friend.
• Malta
24 Feb 10
It is what I would do too, especially if you do concider her a friend. As another said, she might have been with her head in the air with some problem, and could not have seen you smiling at her. Go and ask if anything was wrong? I would. And it saves you from having thousands of thoughts on why she would try to avoid you!!! If it's not the case, she would apologise and expain herself or maybe even open her heart to you... but if there is anything from her side in your regards, at least you would know about it, and you'd need not keep wondering what could have been!
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@rosey19 (952)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
thanks p3ks626! actually i know her problems that she is facing now but we already advise her on what to do but she did not listen to us and she still continue her actions which lead her to face legal matters against her. maybe she was just ashamed to face me. anyway we her friends have done our part to help her. i just hope that she will cope up all that is happening to her life now.
@rosey19 (952)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
thanks quattra! you are right she is in a floating situation right now because of the big problem she is facing. but i have done my part to help her but she is so persistent in continuing her decision that is why even if she felt bad to me which i observed from her actions, still i gave to her my sweet smile but she does not recognize it though i was hurt but i still be here to understand her.
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
yes thats very embarrassing specially if you give then an effort to smile and they dont even say hi. i really hate those kind of people as if its hard for them to appreciate those people around them even if they dont consider them as friend. i also used to have that during college as if shes pretty to give attention for in fact shes not. and so what i did, i just ignore her and dont even bother to look at her.