Have you told everything to your bestfriend? Are friends worth our trust?

@chiyosan (30206)
Philippines
February 28, 2010 2:52am CST
I just thought of this when i was browsing through the friends discussion. Im not sure if i have ever seen a topic that could say how close and how we trust our friends that all of our secrets are told to them. as for me, there are some issues about me that not much people know. I am not really into telling anyone about me, my family or anything that is not a general knowledge about my life. Im a private person and usually i keep everything to myself... i have also been through a lot of problems and i feel my friends have somehow changed over time and have made me feel left out so i would rather not be "too close" to the new people i meet at work, or anywhere else. to you think that people around us, even those who we have known for years - are they really worth our trust? or are we better of solving our problems by ourselves and our families to help us?
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26 responses
@cloud31 (5811)
28 Feb 10
No i don't, i never trust fully to my bestfriend, i can talk to her about things but not with sensitive matters and cases,I have heard so much for that and i think there's not worth to trust but yourself sometimes bestfriend turn to be an enemy once things get worse between you and her.So i don't really have that so called bestfriend i can say all friends if choosing a bestfriend i will still go for my mom,my bestfriends of all time.. Happy Lotting!
• India
1 Mar 10
u r right if time turns and best friend becomes enemy, we will be in great trouble, if every secret has been shared with best friend.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=)
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
There are friend who you can trust. I know we have different beliefs on this. Me I do share some secrets me and my family have to my one close friend because she is the one who started it all. She have no siblings and I am the only person she said she can trust. She even shared her deepest secrets which I do hide for a long time. Her secrets is safe with me that is an assurance. While me I don’t share those secrets that I know me and my family can give a bad reputation, although there are no perfect family but I still wants to have a secret to be still a secret. About problems, I don’t usually open up with my family about my personal problems, because I have the thinking I can only add to the burden my parents already have. I tried to solve my problems on my own. I share my problems to my close friend and she is the only one I share it with, but unfortunately we are not together. She can only give me some advices but she can’t thoroughly help me dealing with it, I am still the one who solve it. I believe there are still friends who worth of our trust.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=)
@chi2nasrin (1102)
• Malaysia
2 Mar 10
If you have a bunch of best friends and they are all friends with each other as well, there's a good chance that your secret won't really be a secret anymore. Ever heard of this: "If I tell you, please don't tell other people because she/he asked me not to tell anybody else."? This happened a lot among my friends. Sometimes it is so hard to trust them to keep your secret.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Appreciate your response to the discussion, thank you very much and have a nice day! see you around the site! =P
@primeaque86 (8112)
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
Hi chiyosan, I have a bestfriend, and think she is still my bestfriend right now... we became friend right there at our church in the province, before that I am not yet living here in the city, I used to tell her all my personal problems and she helped me... But now, we have a rare communication already so I could not tell anymore about my present problems... Right at this time, I have another trusted friend, we met at the university and became classmates for two subjects... and we are still close right now... I used to tell her all my personal problems and she always tried her best to help me... (I am more prefer on a female bestfriend though I have a male close friend but I think I could really rely on him in terms of problems.) Until now she is always visiting me at my rented house... I am so glad I find her... I am a weak person so I need really somebody's help... Before I was so negative minded, because of her I am able to overcome a little. Before I used to easily give but she told I should not... Because there is God, who would always guide me... and help me whatever problems in my life... Thanks to her.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
thank you so much for your response to the discussion... sorry though for the late reply. see you around mylot and have a wonderful time here! Godbless!
• India
2 Mar 10
I do tell many things to my best friend but not everything. I always believe that few things has to be kept apart from all around you. I can share good things about me to everyone and to my best friend as well but at a time I do not want to remember few things about me and that is the primary reason I do not tell few things to even my best friend.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
thank you so much for your response to the discussion... sorry though for the late reply. see you around mylot and have a wonderful time here! Godbless!
@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
2 Mar 10
Only you will know whether your friends are worth your trust. There are friends who are not trustworthy and are friends only when there are benefits to reap. Such friends are not worth having. I have friends who have weathered with me through storms and I believe such friends are worth trusting and sharing my woes and happiness.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=)
• China
2 Mar 10
i must say , i'm really true to any of my best friends, so i tell them all my truth. but not all truth to one close friend. maybe this think i'll tell this friend, while another think i'll tell another friend. i tell the related friend, and also can get some advice. but most of the time, i'd prefer to solve the problems alone.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
thank you so much for your response to the discussion... sorry though for the late reply. see you around mylot and have a wonderful time here! Godbless!
• United States
2 Mar 10
No, not everything... like the fact that I slept with his sista!lol
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=)
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
2 Mar 10
Hello There is one person that I can tell anything too and not worry about it getting out, sometimes its good to share things with someone just to get their feedback, I consider myself a private person as well, people tell me all the time you don't tell anything I respond with that only says something about you, if I don't share then your not the person to share things with,I have seen people tell others peoples secrets like its nothing and that really stinks. Thanks.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
thank you so much for your response to the discussion... sorry though for the late reply. see you around mylot and have a wonderful time here! Godbless!
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
1 Mar 10
Hi chiyosan! I think you have definitely brought up a very good point! I have made the mistake of trusting the wrong people many times during my life and it has cost me! But, you need to be able to trust someone sometime because it isn't good to keep everything to yourself. Sometimes you just need to get things out! That is why alot of people come here to mylot! We use this place to vent, to ask others for help with our problems and the best part of all is that we can do this without being too personal and if we don't want anyone to know who we are we don't have to! I have made so many wonderful friends here and have been able to "trust" them! Try to use this site for the things that are bothering you! I can tell you that you will make alot of good friends and will feel so much better!
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=)
• India
1 Mar 10
In the present time we may not find a best friend. I have no close friend.And I do not reveal my problem to any one and I try to solve it. My relatives whom I helped in their sufferings understand the situation and volunteer to solve the problems and there are some problems of mine got solved like that also by them.My view is that We should cooperate and coordinate with our relatives forgetting the differences and help one another in all the possible ways.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=)
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
1 Mar 10
n my opinion there are friends and friends. You have to distinguish between the good and the bad. The true friends and those who will peril at the first difficulty you might encounter in life. I am a bit reluctant to share personal intimate details with Tom, d*ck and Harry. however when I am passing through a difficult stage in my life there are two best friends whom I have know since I was a teenager, and I am sure that I can rely on them for help. They would be willing to listen and give their advice if needed. We have been there for each other quite a lot of time. Have supported each other in times of need, when one of our relatives passes away or other difficult times. I do feel comfortable sharing most things with them.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Thank you for your time to reply to the discussion. appreciate your effort in this. have a great day and see you around the site! 0_o
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
1 Mar 10
Through my life i have met several people, but i must say that the notion of true friendship was never that strong. I never confided much in any 'friend' because I have been betrayed and made fun of several times. I prefer to confide in my husband and parents because I know they are my true friends.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Appreciate your response to the discussion, thank you very much and have a nice day! see you around the site! =P
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
I trust all of my friends. I tell them every thing about me. I am a kind of person who is always in need of a friend because I always need to have someone I can talk to because if I dont then it will give me so much heartache. I value my friends and I trust them. But once I know that a friend is a traitor then there would be no chance of trusting that person again. There was one incident that my friend was making fun of me because she thinks it was funny. After that I never trusted her anymore. I still talk to her but I dont allow myself to be close to her anymore.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Thank you for your time to reply to the discussion. appreciate your effort in this. have a great day and see you around the site!
• India
1 Mar 10
I tell my best friend mostly everything. There are somethings in life though which have to be kept private for only yourself, which you woudnt want to tell anyone. But thats only a few things, otherwise you should trust your friends as life wont be fun.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Appreciate your response to the discussion, thank you very much and have a nice day! see you around the site! =P
@common_man (1799)
• India
1 Mar 10
Weather to trust a friend or not, is delicate issue. Actually it depends on individual friend. Some are trustworthy while some are not. One has to make one's own decision. However as a safety or precautionary measure, it is not advisable to pour out every thing about us to our friend, even the best friend.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Thank you for your time to reply to the discussion. appreciate your effort in this. have a great day and see you around the site!
• Canada
28 Feb 10
I really learned the hard way. I believe that friends that you knew the longest are the main ones that you should not trust fully. My girlfriend had a friend that did something so deceitful to her that it basically changed our views on how to trust friends. Especially the closest ones. All I can say is that jealousy is here and in return we have all have our guards upon when pertaining to friendships and trust.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Appreciate your response to the discussion, thank you very much and have a nice day! see you around the site! =P
@hofferp (4739)
• United States
28 Feb 10
I have a few best friends. Do they know everything about me? No, because we haven't discussed everything. But when a topic comes up, I tell the truth. My best friends are best friends, because I trust them.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=)
@kgwat70 (13396)
• United States
28 Feb 10
I have not told my best friends everything about me as there are some things that I feel should be kept to myself. We do not need to know everything about each other, unless the other feels comfortable sharing that information with their best friends. I trust my friends but do not feel it is necessary to share everything and would not expect them to share everything about them either.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=)
@stand87 (667)
• Bulgaria
28 Feb 10
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. You should know your friends pretty well to trust them. My father always tells me that you can not say you know somebody until you have already eaten 1 kg of salt with him/her. I think you understand what my father means. And he's right at all. I even had a good friend of mine who cheated me. I told him some secrets because he had many questions about me. So, I answered and told him the truth about a lot of things. I thought I can trust him. Guess what? After only 1-2 days he told other people about what we were talking about. They were even laughing and humiliating me! Thank God that another friend of mine heard what this basta** is doing and told me. Now I don't want to see this person to the rest of my life. I don't want to know such people! If he say "sorry" I'll maybe forgive him. But as I know him, this person don't know how to use this word. He even don't know it. So, beware of friends :) And remember - " You can't say you know somebody until you have already eaten 1 kilo of salt with him!"
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
thank you so much for your response to the discussion... sorry though for the late reply. see you around mylot and have a wonderful time here! Godbless!