Why do people always talk behind peoples backs?

@ANIME123 (2473)
United States
March 1, 2010 6:30pm CST
I really don't get it as to why people need to talk behind someones back I don't understand why they just can't tell it to someones face. I just find it to be so rude when someone feels like they can do anything that they pretty much want. I guess people will continue to do this and even friends do this to each other it really is a sad thing though. Still why do people find the need to talk behind someones back????
11 responses
@smileonstar (4016)
• United States
2 Mar 10
HI, I know what you mean but it is just like that for people who are really jealous with others. I had many friends doing like that and I never talk to them... they just can't face the truth and there is only one way to talk to release the jealousy thing... is talking behind your back.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
2 Mar 10
In order for them to get their jealousy out they talk behind my back or other peoples back that does make sense. Still it's not very nice when friends do this because it is just so depressing that a friend can do this because it actually does hurt. It feels like betrayal in other words when friends talk behind your back.
• United States
2 Mar 10
I know but you have to face it cuz that is way they like to do and nothing going to change them either. Let me tell you my story, I had this friend from high school and I was the best student in class and I always got good grade on my test. She was one of my long time friend since 5 grade till high school... One day, we just had a test on math and I got like 10/10(mean prefect) and she got 9/10... she came to me and wanted to see my paper... I gave her and she went through every single thing, just to see if she could catch any mistake that the teacher didn't get... if she found one, she would run to the teacher and asked for fair number again on my paper. Not even that, she talked behind my back about how I dress, and how I talked to guys and such and such.... I didn't find out until a guy friend of mind told me about it. I didn't want to believe it but it was truth... I went up to her and confronted her... she denied it. But guess what, it was totally over cuz I yelled out so loud, talking about she had a crush on my exbf( I was still dating my bf by the time)
@Gany15k (1674)
• India
2 Mar 10
@ anime123 It will hurt very badly if a friend did as you said.But there are some friends of mine who just..say whatever they like in front.Really i'm great to have good friends.I also used to say in front of people.We are used to be like that.
• United States
2 Mar 10
People who talk behind backs want to see if others agree, but it doesn't help except to get others backup ideas
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
2 Mar 10
That's true it never does help really so it's best to just not do it in the first place.
@fattymc (141)
2 Mar 10
I'd probably think that they are too scared to say it to your face because they are afraid of what they might think of you after what you say. I once had a friend who used to always talk behind our backs and once we figured it out, we acted differently just because we found that out. I think we are afraid of what might come back at us. My friend still doesn't know that we know that she talks behind our backs, and she senses a difference in us. I think she won't say it to our face because later, she will be hurt back or treated differently. We are afraid at what might come back to us later.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
2 Mar 10
That really stinks that she talks behind you and your friends backs thats really horrible. That's true though usually when you find out that your friend has been talking behind your back you tend to act different towards them because you know they they are not really your friends if they be doing that.
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
Because some people are ENVIOUS of what other people's achievement & what they have. Those people who always talk on somebody's back are not happy of what they have & what they achieved. Hurting somebody are making them happy because of the negative point of view they have in life. I pity those people who have that attitude.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
2 Mar 10
Thats true that some people are envious because you know why they be doing that in the first place. People need to be happy with themselves and not talk behind others back.
• Canada
2 Mar 10
I cannot tolerate those kind of people. Back talkers are the most untrustworthy people I know. I once had a so called friend that use to tell other friends my business. Once I found out I gave him a piece of my mind and cut him off. I knew him since middle school, but once you talk behind my back about my personal matters that just breaks it for me.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
2 Mar 10
You did the right thing in giving him a piece of your mind because he is not supposed to be doing that since he is your friend.
2 Mar 10
Because they are to scared to say bad stuff to your face.
• India
2 Mar 10
i also dont knw......why people do like that....may they r not so strong tht can speak in front...also such people r dual in nature....not trustable......i dont like such peoples.....
@Gany15k (1674)
• India
2 Mar 10
In my point of view I just say that they have no guts to talk in front.Thats why they talk back.They should be ashamed of what they are doing.No one can change them unless they feel their mistake.
@namiya (1599)
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
Talking behind a persons back or commonly termed as backbiting is a sign of one's insecurity in life. It is human nature to desire for recognition and attention. Some people however who maybe are not satisfied with what they are getting tend to be jealous of other people's achievement and wanting to prove that they are better or at par with this person, will seek means to discredit him or her, not realizing the "boomerang effect" it will bring to them too. Just asking, would you trust someone with this habit?
@cgobble (171)
• United States
2 Mar 10
I've been guilty of this myself. Really. It's always my luck that the person I'm talking about walks up when I'm doing it too. At least none of them ever really get angry because I don't say anything behind someone's back that I haven't said to their face first. And it's always something I've said to them at least a couple of times.
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
yes thats true, those people who have nothing to do with their life but to do gossip against their neighbors. look like its already part of their life and without it they will die. some did that due to jealousy or envy. coz they think that that person is more pretty, more successful or that everyone loves her. and so she will do everything to ruin that person so that other people will dislike that person and make fun of them.