Whats the most STUPID thing you've done in a relationship
@iamexpensive09 (81)
Philippines
March 6, 2010 12:47pm CST
mine was really stupid. i admit i am. "i was". but i wont allow it to happen again.
so, my story goes like this, it was my first love. i thought we are meant to be together forever. i was blinded by her love. we created a perfect world where she could go out easily but not me. get what i mean? it took me 1yr almost just to move on. we lasted for 9 months. the firsts months was really a love story. it was like a story our mother told us before going to bed. but when my girlfriend met my best-friend, thats the time where everything get fuc**d up. i never doubted my girlfriends love for me, i thought she was blinded by my love as well. i thought all she can see was me but i was wrong. i cant blame my girl for having a secret crush on my best-friends because even me, i could tell that my buddy really has the look. so going back to my story, theres this one time where my best-friend ask me if he could stay for a night at my apartment (additional info, i rented a room for the both of us so we could see each other often.). anyway, ive been hearing gossips about him and my girlfriend going out secretly while im in class. so the time we were sleeping, i heard a whisper somewhere in my head to test them. to see for myself what is really going on im not around. and to my surprise, all the gossips were right! i saw them touching each other right beside me :'( it might sound exaggerated but im telling the truth. i watch them please each other with me doing anything. just staring and holding my tears. i loved my girlfriend so much that i dont want her to feel like i never trusted or i doubted her. stupid isn't it?. thats why it took me 1yr to move on. now whenever i remember that day, i cant help but smile. thinking, damn! i was really brave out there. right!?
so whats yours?
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@scja16 (322)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
I dont know if mine was stupid enough. That was a year ago when me and my girlfriend were trying to get to know each other or may I say that we are still on the first week of the relationship when she said yes. At that time she had a doubt on me,so what she did was she went to a somewhere that i dont know and dont have any idea to where she was. I mean no text, no calls and she is not even answering her phone. At that day we had plan date and i was on the meeting plac, waited for 5 hours for nothing. After 24 hours, i kept on texting her but she is not responding so i got worried that maybe something bad happen to her then that leaves me no choice but to look for her. At the time i dont know the exact location of her place since our relationship was a week old at that time. Luckily I got her resume and have her address on it. I ask my friends (almost all of the people that i know) but according to them i must not go there because the place is so dangerous. But that dont even stop me from looking for her, so i took a cab went to the place and i knock every door just to ask if they know my girlfriend. It took me 8 hours of walking under the sun, plus the people around was starring at me and ask what i was doing? then i answered them that my girl is missing. Im afraid that they may get angry for my reason but lucky me instead of them getting mad at me,they've help me look for her. After that very long hours, atlast we found the house.But still she is not there, she went somewhere that until now i dont know where and the good results of my effort was we are still together until now. She just said she is sorry.
Things happen... regardless if its painful there are times that we need to close our eyes and let it pass... for that is pure love... Acceptance
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@iamexpensive09 (81)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
thats very sweet scaj16. your girl must be very proud of you. im happy to hear that you and your girlfriend are still together until now. though forever doesn't exist in this world. lets make every relationship at least a life time! lets spread love and make this a better world! thanks for sharing.
@hofferp (4734)
• United States
7 Mar 10
The most stupid thing I did was say, "no", when the love of a lifetime asked me to marry him. To tell the truth, I thought he was joking, because he wanted to go to Goodwill and pick up a wedding dress and a tuxedo and elope in Mexico. Now what would you have said? Well, it turns out he wasn't kidding, and when I said, "no", he moved on... He's now living in Russia, and I heard he was married. Darn!
@iamexpensive09 (81)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
thats okay at least your happy. i know all those people surrounds you now love you. happiness is a choice. keep safe and have a good and happy life my friend. thanks for sharing :)
@iamexpensive09 (81)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
oh my God! thats sad to hear hofferp. i hope your happy right now. anyway theres a saying that if you guys are meant to be together, someday somehow you'll meet and continue what you have. keep safe and lets spread love to make this a better world! :)
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
6 Mar 10
Honestly, the most stupid thing that I've done in a relationship was to not find out more about the strange behavior of the man I was dating.
The guy I was dating at the time was in my state as a contracted worker. He actually lived over 1500 miles away. He was a bit strange about keeping in touch with me when he visited home every 4-6 weeks and really didn't like the idea of me having a photograph of him. I considered simply that some people REALLY don't like to have their picture taken and let it go.
About 11 months later, he was called to go to a different location and I never saw or heard from him again. I got curious and began to do some research. He told me that he was divorced. I've never found any information supporting that he was married at the time or divorced, but I did find a news article dated only a few months after the last time I had seen him that mentioned his wife. The article mentioned both her name and age, and I knew that this is the woman that he was supposed to have been divorced from. I also found a birth announcement... so... it rather looks like he had been married the entire time.
I may never know the truth and I'm not sure that I want to.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
6 Mar 10
You didn't really understand my post at all.
He lived in another state, 1500 miles from where I lived.
His job had him working temporarily in my city.
Every 4-6 weeks, his work paid for him to go to his home for the weekend.
When he was staying in my city, we saw each other 3-5 times a week, for several hours each time.
This all happened in 2004/2005. I found out about his wife in early 2007.
@iamexpensive09 (81)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
ow sorry about that. i thought you see each other only every 4-6 weeks. thanks for making it clear to me. keep safe :)
@iamexpensive09 (81)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
hi zoey7879, at least you've found out that he's been lying to you all this time. and sorry, i don't wanna judge him but i cant see his sincerity to you. i mean, if i really like someone, i would make some efforts in order for us to see each other often. 4-6 weeks? that 1 month and a half. anyway thanks for sharing! :) keep safe
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
i guess shes the one whose stupid and not you, as you only showed her the kind of love that is true but she never appreciated it. its her lose anyway and not you knowing you love her so dearly and perhaps she will realized it someday. its better you know her true color early so just let them go and find someone better for you someone who really deserve for your love. i used to be stupid also believing someone really love and care for me for in fact he didnt, i was just blinded with his lies.
@iamexpensive09 (81)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
thank you for your sympathy homeshoppers. anyway like i've said, i really learned a lot. i really hope that ill find someone more derserving than her. even though i've experienced such things, i would never ever get tired of loving someone. i really think thats what im good at. lets spread love and make this a better world! keep safe homeshoppers. hope to hear more from you! :)
@universe2o6 (356)
• Brazil
6 Mar 10
In my first ever relationship, I was madley jealous. Wherever she would go, I would want to know where she was going, what she was going to do and who was going with here. I would fuss in her orkut about 5 times per day and I would always checkl her phone when I would go out with her. I was utterley paranoide.
Jealousey only destroys a relationship and today I am much more open and careless in relationships. It works out for both parts, where I am caring and loving but not jealous. People need their space and I have learned to respect that.
@iamexpensive09 (81)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
yes i do agree with you universe2o6. jealousy will not make any relationship stronger rather, it can be the cause of more problems and fights. you are right when you said that people need their spaces. though were committed with someone, they still need their individual life and so are we. lets spread love and make this a better world! thanks for commenting universe2o6
@betty2005 (3)
• China
7 Mar 10
and i agree with you, love a person we must believe him, jealous make things worse.
@kyleuy (270)
•
7 Mar 10
The most stupid thing I have done is not really towards the relationship anymore.. its about me already being in a relationship because I always act like a martyr when it comes to relationship no matter how harsh my partner is to me already, just like in this one relationship. One time my ex approached me asking for money because that ex of mine badly needs money that time. Yes I do know that my ex really needs it since her money is not yet arriving but I do know that she will not just use for herself to get over the day in school but to celebrate her monthsarry with her new partner. Well.. just like what my friend told me recently. she sees me as the submissive type of person when it comes to relationships. Well now, I know better and I am very happy with my love life right now and I will do everything in my power to take good care of my partner and the relationship that we have. In fact today is a special day for the both of us.. I just cant wait to see my partner!! Im looking forward to see my partner during my day off.. ;p
@iamexpensive09 (81)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
wow congrats kyle. how long have you been together? :) i hope you last not forever but at least lifetime. we all know that forever only exist on fairy tales right? your partner must be very lucky to have you in her life and i know she loves you. anyway thanks for sharing and have a good life together! lets spread love and make this a better world!
@kyleuy (270)
•
7 Mar 10
Actually today is our first month together but it seems like we have been together for such a long time already! I am very happy right now and I could not ask for more! I love my partner so much and I am ready to settle down with him. Yes I do hope that this would be my last relationship already and that it would last for both our lifetime. Thanks iamexpensive09! You are right we should spread love! I hope that you are very happy with your partner right now as well, I am pretty sure that your partner loves you so much as well. Havea great one my friend! God Bless you and your loves one/s! ;p
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Mar 10
Two things, first not speaking up when I had a problem with something. Letting it fester for years and years until it wasn't fixable any more. Second, not fighting for a relationship with somebody I really, really loved. Ah well, moving on...
@iamexpensive09 (81)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
dawnald thanks for sharing. well, we are different in terms of speaking up when there is a problem. im the type of person who wants problem to be settled as soon as possible. i don't want hanging question or arguments because those left questions and problem will surely be brought up the next time you and your partner had a fight. so it will make situations more complicated and much harder to resolve. anyway, i hope you moved on from the that somebody you really really loved. if i were in your shoes, it would be hard for me to moved on specially when i really love and i want to be part of that somebody's life. this experience teaches us that "we cannot have all we want in life" right?.. i really appreciate that you've shared yours dawnald. hope to hear more from you! keep safe :)
@onlyprincess (782)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
The stupidest thing I've ever done in the name of love is being too jealous and paranoid. I even made a "fake" account to stalk my bf and the girls linking to him. I regularly check his emails and social networking accounts. I even got to the point I "test" his faithfulness by texting him from an unknown number and pretending I'm this girl interested in him just to see how we would react. Stupid moves, isn't it? Pain and hurt and paranoia is what it caused me. I learned a lot from this lesson and vowed never to pry in his privacy again. I should never doubt his love for me.
@iamexpensive09 (81)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
yes your right. we should never doubt their love for us. well, its normal to feel jealous sometimes but i dont agree on the fact about stalking your boyfriend. thats too much. i mean if thats done to me, ill feel very upset. i know you've learned your lesson. thanks for sharing your onlyprincess. hope to hear from you more. keep safe! :)
@melloncollie (661)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
oh my my... Honestly dude, if I were in your position I would have dashed to give them a multiple stabbing. That was horrible! Really horrible! I cannot believe they had the nerve to do that with you around. I feel sorry for you.
You know sometimes, even a blind trust can hurt your eyes. Even more... coz when it's time to open 'em... the light will hurt your eyes.
Hang in there buddy.
@iamexpensive09 (81)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
"even a blind trust can hurt your eyes. even more... coz when it's time to open 'em... the light will hurt your eyes". i like this one. thanks for the sympathy, i do really appreciate it. anyway the important thing is i've learned a lot. after that incident, i also learned to love my self more. that experience thought me that at the end of the day, theres no one you can hold on to but your self. only your self. thanks melloncollie! lets spread love and make this a better world! :)
@nekonette (28)
• Brunei Darussalam
7 Mar 10
Stupidest thing I've ever done is being too jealous of my partner. Well, it's something I can't really help, really. He is a most charming person with absolutely great personality. I am so afraid some girl would come along and take him away from him so I feel insecure almost all the time. I get paranoid easily and that really exhausted me. I'm still like that. I know I'm stupid that way, but, ah, can't help it.
@iamexpensive09 (81)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
thats okay nekonette. but sometimes we should trust our partners. its natural to feel that someone may take our love ones away from us but again, we should trust them. if they do really love us then there is nothing to worry about. thats not stupid for me, i think its normal. sometimes i feel the same way. anyway thank you for sharing nekonette! hope to hear more from you. lets spread love and make this a better world
