best reward for kids, money or in kind?

@bea_29 (321)
Philippines
March 7, 2010 7:04am CST
between punishment and reward, reward is proven good as to how to motivate a child. but how do you reward your kids? is it money for them to buy what they want or in kind such as treat to movies, tour or clothing?
6 responses
@phoenix8606 (4978)
7 Mar 10
hi! I really don't think that one kid will be very happy to get some money as a reward for something- for being good, for its school notes or something else. When I was kid I always have been glad to receive something from my parents when I get a good note from school :) some ice-cream or some surprise !!!
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@jugsjugs (13045)
7 Mar 10
I have nearly finished a course that was very interesting into a childs behavior and i must say that the reward thing is a good idea until a child comes to expect a reward all the time.I think that if you just spend time doing something with a child like making a jigsaw or even playing a game with them it is a special moment like a reward as they come to not do things to get paid off so to speak.There are alot of people out there that throw money at their children and when there is no money to throw to a child that is when problems start to show.I treat my children every now and again aswell as take time out with them todo the things that they are interested in,i have 6 children so i try to divide my time so they all get time with me aswell as one of them having adhd and another one having dyspraxia.It pays off not to throw money all the time and just make time todo the things they like.
@bea_29 (321)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
wow!! i salute you. having 6 kids and spending time with them. thanks for your valuable response.
@common_man (1799)
• India
7 Mar 10
To reward for achievement is really a good step in making child behave the way we want. The reward should be in form of the things the child desire. I remember i was desirious of having a particular type of school bag, which my father told me if i stood first in class he will buy me. I stood first and he bought it for me. But there is a catch, always giving reward, or giving reward for normal behaviour may have negative impactt and child may learn to work only if rewarded other wise he /she may not like to work. So balance should be maintained.
@bea_29 (321)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
i agree with you. rewarding is good but it should be done in moderation.. thanks!!
@gi2h_san (162)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 10
i think giving money to kids are not wise decision.. maybe they would really like if you give them money, but they will happier if you give them a kind gift or maybe treat them to movie or whatever. beside, as a child they dont really know how to spend the money.. they will use it to buy something useless.... and if you give them a kind gift , they can remember that they had ever been bought these goods by their parents..
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
7 Mar 10
I would say offering money would be equal to punishing the kids... Punishments always spoil a young mind.. Money would do the same! It will be better to give them the things they want... like a new toy... Or a new kiddie movie... or favorite cloths... or a picnic...
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
i guess the good reward for kids is a tour so they can experience to go to different places as im sure they will tend to do a lot more better next next coz they cant wait for their next tour. but only if theres money if not then going to the movie will do.