I feel like such a failure
March 12, 2010 8:01am CST
My sister is has mental problems and my brother is 17 and hasn't finished high school. My brother just left his job and sleeps at friends' houses and makes money playing games and he makes little. Meanwhile, I live with my cousin and go to school with a working scholarship I got into with their help. I don't feel like I have the right to live like this when my siblings need me. I want to get a job so I can support them. We aren't getting enough money for my sisters meds and I can't even feed my own brother. But my cousin just tells me to lay back and keeps on telling me that my life is easier right now and I need to finish school. But, for me, it just feels wrong. I need to play this carefully I think. What do you guys suggest?
12 Mar 10
I hate to say this, but your siblings are not your responsibility. Having six siblings myself (fortunately, they are all successful in their own way), I can understand where you are coming from. You should be able to get some form om Medical help for your sisters meds, if she is low income. It won't be the greatest help, but you'll get something. As far as your brother, he is in that age where he is a child and a man at the same time, maybe you could encourage him to get a job doing something he enjoys. Have him make a list of things he likes to do (playing games etc.) and then brainstorm about what kind of jobs he can get without having graduated. My thought is a game store of some sort. I bet ten to one he will get his GED before he is 28. Also, it is really important for you to concentrate on your education. Graduating and getting a well paid job will give you the chance to help your brother and sister in the future.