Love: a choice or a feeling?

Philippines
March 16, 2010 1:40pm CST
Do you believe that love is a choice or a feeling? If the feeling is gone, can you still love a person? If you don't want to choose the person but you have feelings for him/her, will you call it love?
6 responses
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
love, i d say, is a little bit of both. it s actually a chemical reaction that s makes us feel all fuzzy inside so it s a feeling. and this chemical reaction is produced by the brain, in which, we ourselves have control over, yes, we have control over our brain, so that makes it a choice.
@drkraven (521)
• Romania
16 Mar 10
i think you can choose not to behave like you are in love. You can even make yourself beleive youre not in love. I doubt you can choose if you do or do not fall in love :) Maybe only choose if you let anyone know (including yourself) or you act "cool".
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
Thank you for your point of view but you can actually choose not to fall in love. when you re falling in love, you are actually the one doing it to yourself. not her, not the universe, it s you. it s a process you do with your brain. and of course you can control your brain. if you cant you need mental help. lol. happy mylotting!
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
Love is a feeling and not a choice. How can it be called love when you don't have any feeling with the other person? Love comes from the innermost emotion,it comes naturally from our heart. Love is like a sparkle of light that suddenly struck at the moment we feel in love to someone. It is an undefined feeling of attraction,very strange and a total stranger feeling. We can never describe the real feeling unless we have felt it in our hearts. Love is a sweet feeling thu we can never taste it.
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
Thank you for sharing your opinion but there is another question to that if you'll say that love is a feeling. What if the feeling is gone will you leave the person?
@jlamela (4898)
• Philippines
24 Mar 10
Actually it is both. Love is 50 % choice, 50% feeling, but it is always mind over matters of the heart. Love is not an emotional duty all the time, it does not act the way it feels, people should not act out of feelings alone, it should always be a sensible choice. Ang gulo ko noh?hehe
@trina48D (88)
• United States
16 Mar 10
When love first begins it is a feeling, the butterflies, the warm fuzzies and nervousness of being together. That feeling only lasts for awhile and then you choose to continue loving the person. If it were only a feeling (like most people seem to think) then as soon as the feeling is gone they would get divorced and start over. Some people are actually addicted to the feelijg of being in love so they cannot stay in a committed relationship because they think they need that new love feeling. After being married for so long we can tend to say 'I love you' but forget to act like we love each other. Love needs to be a verb, acted out. Love is a commitment and a choice we make daily to love or not to love. Sometimes what we say is love is really only lust.
@krisnel (498)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
love is a feeling that you feel to a person that makes your heart beat faster. it is a feeling that makes a person to be cheerful and inspired. if the feeling is gone i could still love my partner, i will think about the cherish moment that i spend with my partner. i will reminisce all the wonderful things that he did for me. but i am sure that my feelings for my partner will be forever in my heart.
@scja16 (322)
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
I think that if i dont feel love then I will not have the choice. What i mean a choice will be there for me if i am in love with someone. Because if I am sure that I love the person then at that point I will ask my self then choice will follow. So for me I always follow what my heart says not to the point that i have no choice. God bless