Where I can find my lover.

March 17, 2010 7:53am CST
I don't think I am young enough. I am busy with my job all the day because lots of things always are waiting for my dealing. Till now I am single, maybe something should be changed, I feel tired ,I don't want to be a lonly woman. People always say 30-year-old is the special turning in our lift. I hope I can find a lover for myself. He should be like my friend more. I just care about our communion,our thinking. Can I find him? Where is he?
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@LadyMarissa (12162)
• United States
17 Mar 10
You should be thinking of love NOT a lover. Anybody can be a lover, but it takes somebody SPECIAL to love you!!! I was raised that if you weren't married by the age of 20, you were a useless woman. Well, that just is NOT so!!! What would you do if your love comes to you today??? You have a very busy job that requires a LOT of your time & energies!!! Are you prepared to put less time into your job & more time into a loving relationship??? Bosses only like you when you're willing to give them ALL your time!!! At 20 I felt desperate to find a husband. I found one & got married only to realize that he didn't love me!!! After several years of abuse I was divorced & right back where I started. Then I realized that having a man in my life did NOT define me as a woman. I quit LOOKING for love & accepted my life as it was. I started dating & having a good time WITHOUT expecting to find love. Then there was a news report saying that finding a husband after becoming 40 year old was almost impossible. So, I gave up on the hope of EVER finding my true love!!!! Then I met a man & fell in love & he LOVED me back!!! I was 50 years old when we met & I was SOOOO glad I hadn't rushed to get married before. Had I lessened my sights & married just any man so I wouldn't be lonely, I would have NOT been in a place to meet & marry the man of my dreams!!! DON'T be in such a rush to "find" your love...instead ENJOY your life & let LOVE FIND YOU!!! I promise you that love is WORTH WAITING ON!!! Fill your life with your work, your friends, your family & what ever else you enjoy so you are not lonely. I've always felt that as long as you are looking for love, it will allude you. STOP looking for love & love will come to you!!!
18 Mar 10
Thank you so much. Maybe you are right. I am 30 years old, and I am really puzzled between LOVE and lover.In face,I never date with boys till now.
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@LadyMarissa (12162)
• United States
18 Mar 10
If you have just started dating, you really shouldn't be in such a rush. Once you find your true love, you will understand more of what I'm saying. Once again, I PROMISE you LOVE IS WORTH WAITING ON until it comes!!! Until then, stay AWAY from the married men as they are only USING you...they make you feel as if they love you, but they DON'T
@tsurjan (25)
• India
17 Mar 10
every one has to go through this phase,find someone at your workplace.he will be able to understand you best
@ralphido (843)
• India
17 Mar 10
imho, that's a bad idea.. never go for someone at your workplace .. for, if you end up breaking up with him/her that would be an embarrassing situation for both of you.. you will not be able to ignore each other.. so to be safe, always go for someone who has no relation with your professional work whatsoever..
18 Mar 10
Thank you. I also think it is the bad idea to find someone at the workplace. I work so hard that many boys think me the man.
@elizam (75)
18 Mar 10
Take heart my dear. You will meet your mate when you list expect it. Just dont rush into anything simply because you are desperate. Be more out going and social like create time to pamper your self. Love your self and then you will be loved. And remember, age is just a number.
18 Mar 10
Thank you. But I am still worried and feel sad.
• India
18 Mar 10
i can see my lover on my birthday party nad park and my favorite way.when i need her ,i am call her mobile ,she come on my favorit way and i meet her.
18 Mar 10
Lucky man.
• Brazil
18 Mar 10
More you look for love, more love run away from you. Try to meet new people, make new friends, find new places to have fun. Don't give up, then someday when you were not waiting, you'll find your soulmate.
18 Mar 10
Thank you. Yes, I agree.
• China
18 Mar 10
I understand what you said. But I believe you will find your Mr. right sooner or later. Please be patient, you should believe in few days, your happiness in your life will show in front of you.
18 Mar 10
Thank you very much.
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
17 Mar 10
Hi Cindy... I know being single becomes tough, at some point and I have been through it. Many people experience it! Try dating a few guys from your office, whom you know well.. just a coffee date or dinner date would help you know them well and you will be able to decide... Also, you can join the reliable dating sites, where you can find decent and educated people... Generally it begins with friendship and after some time, love happens.. The most important thing is, don't feel down because you're single. Use this time, to do things that you'd not get to do when you find your Prince Charming. Good Luck!!! :)
18 Mar 10
Thank you. Oh,no. Those guys think me the man. Because I work hard and strong. Sometimes I will quarrel with others for working. I am like the tiger in their heart.
• Bulgaria
17 Mar 10
The same question is in my head too. Unfortunately I don't have answer. The esasiest possibility that appear in my head is meeting someone on-line. But that's not a good idea at all. Most of the men who would be interested in are married and are just looking for an affair.
18 Mar 10
Thank you. I think so. All the men I am interested are maeeied. I felt sad. I don't want to be lonly, but where is my love, where is my lover. I am also puzzled.
@pilson (94)
• United States
17 Mar 10
Many people have your situation, but don't worry, I am sure you will find antoher part of your life, god will arrange a perfect guy for you. I think it is a good way for you to attend many parties to know new guys and make communications. Since you are usually bussy in your job, you can also know new guys via internet, where there are many websites designed for making friends and lovers. Actually, I knew my gf via internet on website: http://www.renren.com, a chinese website.
18 Mar 10
Thank you very much.