Do you still hug and kiss your parents even you are old ?

@jaiho2009 (36773)
Philippines
March 20, 2010 4:16am CST
hello dear friends,mylotters,mere bhai/s,sister/s, Do you still hug and kiss your parents even if you are old,i mean at your age now? You are also a parent..a mother or a father of your own kids. Do you feel comfortable hugging and kissing your parents?...in front of your kids? My mom is coming home this March 24,she will spending a month long vacation with us. She is visiting us once a year and,i always missed her. I had kids of my own,and everytime my mom arrives home...welcoming her at the airport gives me so much missing and excitement that,i can't help myself being a child. The moment i saw her emerging from the airport gate...or even seeing her at the screen coming out from the plane walking the ramp...i can't help but jump with my kids in excitement. I wonder how many mylotters feels same way as i do every time you visit or see your parents. I don't care other welcomer at the airport looking at me,what i had in mind is to hug and kiss my mother soon as i touch her. Waiting for your comments and share your feeling too dear friends. Happy weekend every one
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@dpk262006 (41842)
• Delhi, India
20 Mar 10
Hi Jai! As per our traditions and culture, whenever we meet our parents, if they are not staying with us, we touch their feet to receive their blessings and we touch feet of all our elders to get their wishes and blessings.
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@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
hello dpk, Nice to see you around friend. yup.i could understand about it... Here in my country,the traditional way of showing respect and love is hug and kiss. It is a normal gesture of showing our affection to our parents and loved ones. Thanks for sharing your custom dear,and have a good weekend too
@dpk262006 (41842)
• Delhi, India
20 Mar 10
Yes, customs differ at different places. We hug sometimes, but touching elders' feet is considered most respected way to show respect. Have a great weekend to you too.
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@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
i would love to touch my friend's parents too soon they'll arrive here in my country. my Indian friend here in my country,their parents will be arriving soon...i will be grateful to show my respect by following your custom dear
@siliguri (4035)
• India
20 Mar 10
Nope... I never hug or kiss my parents till date...because it is not our culture..to giving respects to our parents we have to touch their feet...and i didn't like this thing hugging or kissing..It hassle me a lot...I'm happy that this thing is not in my culture..
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@voldrox (7202)
• India
20 Mar 10
whoa dude, take it easy, it's not like it's a bad thing to show our love like that. I know we touch their feet and get blessings from them but it's not like hugging and kissing is something weird.
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@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
@siliguri, oh dear...i am thankful that hugging and kissing is our culture...(hehee) i really love to hug and kiss my kids very muchhhhhh... @ voldrox, yes dear...it's a sweet gesture to hug and kiss our loved ones
• China
4 May 10
^^ i am a chinese. in old chinese we knee down to parent to show our respects. today, we don't do this often, but i still don't kiss my dad. but i hug and kiss my mather
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
20 Mar 10
I always hug and kiss my mom when i see her. She is my whole world. TATA.
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@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
hello saphrina, yes,i always love to hug and kiss my mom too..she's everything to me... Thanks for sharing same feeling with me here dear
@ksmita (481)
• India
20 Mar 10
hi sister jaiho. personally iam not comfortable hugging and kissing anyone. as for parents , i touch their feet . with others , i just shake hands or greet them with smile even if iam seeing them after long time. generally, there is nothing wrong in showing your affection to the dear ones in the public place. some people control their emotions and some show with excitement . don't care about others. just be yourself. happy mylotting.
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@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
hello dear sis ksmita, I know about your tradition and culture dear,if you only had the chance to kiss and hug your parents...you will surely understand the feeling. The time comes you had your own child and you hug and kissed your kids...you will surely miss the feeling of being kissed and hug by your parents. It's a great feeling of warm embrace and loving touch from our beloved ones dear. have a good weekend
@ksmita (481)
• India
20 Mar 10
hi. its nothing about tradition and culture. i don't hug anyone for that matter. there are different ways to show affection and i like doing things for them and taking care of them . i don't hug or kiss my nephews also. but they still love me and i love them. i will not miss anything which is not relevant for me.
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@siliguri (4035)
• India
20 Mar 10
I'm very much convince with view ksmita has on it...
@ckyera (17202)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
hello jaiho my friend, well i am not really that close to my father before and so i didn't grow up or didn't get used to hugging & kissing him, but with my mom, i do. when i was still with them, i don't usually do it coz maybe i took them for granted since we are just living under the same roof and seeing each other everyday. but now, since i am living away from them, everytime i go home, i always hug & kiss my mom as if i am a kid again! haha and i usually hear my grandmother(father's side) saying that i am like a child...hehe i just can't stop myself from doing that coz i really miss her, her hugs, her kisses, how she take care of me, how she pampers me... and everything! with my father, a 'beso beso' will do! hehe my father & i are closer now and having good relationship but the hugs & kisses is just not for us..i mean the way mom & i hug & kiss... its just a day before your mom comes and i feel how excited you are...i wish you all the best amiga and hope your mom will enjoy and have a lot of fun staying with you & your kids...
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@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
24 Mar 10
hello amiga, Same thing with me my dear,i am also close to my father when i was a kid. The close relationship between me and my dad comes later,and now we enjoy each company. Maybe becoz,i did not grow under their care,it's my grandparents who care for me since i was a kid.(spoiled one coz,i'm the first grandchild on my mother's side) And,i only lived with my parents when i am 16 yrs old,after graduating from highschool. Anyway,my mom arrived this morning dear..and so much joy and excitement. Now,i am sad again...we just welcome her from the airport,and drop her to the bus station going to Baguio,my second is with her now. She will come back by March 30,to attend my daughter's graduation,then,we all be going back to Baguio to have vacation Have a good day always dear
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@ckyera (17202)
• Philippines
24 Mar 10
really? then we are the same! hehe i am also the first grandchild! but difference is that i am the first on both sides, but im just spoiled to my mom's mom coz the other grandma do have other favorite...hehe but its ok with me. its just sad that my maternal grandma already passed away years ago... usually grandma's child is really spoiled but kind people...hehe am i right? nice to hear that your mom arrived safely, but why don't you join them in Baguio?
@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
yes,dear..i agree with you,being the fav and thu spoiled one,i can say that,grandparents teach us all the good manners and values since they are trying to pass to us the old ways,traits,behavior and morale. Well amiga,my kids still have school days,so,we only welcome my mom at the airport yesterday and,my second son accompany her with the trip. My mom and other siblings will soon coming here in metro to attend my daughter's graduation,and will stay few days before we go back to Baguio and spent the rest of the summer vacation. I don't have good sleep last night missing my mom have a good day always dear
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@voldrox (7202)
• India
20 Mar 10
hi jaiho, you know, to be honest i am quite shy of hugging and kissing my parents ... i don't remember the last time the last time i showed them my affection that way, when ever i am home on vacations mom would kiss and greet me and even when i leave home, i guess, since i never hugged them even as a child so i am a little hesitant to hug now, anyways... i guess the important thing is that my parents know i have my own way of showing them i love and need them so much.. i am glad for you jaiho
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@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
hello dear, When we are not used to do things,we would surely felt awkward/hesitant and even feel odd doing it. But,sometimes,you need to make one move,or even try it,then,you can feel how to be a child again. yes,that's what i feel every time i embrace my mom,and she will run her fingers thru my hair,or pat my back and hold my face then give me kiss... ohhh,can't wait the day she comes. I always had the same excitement like i was 5 years old every time she kiss and hug me on my first days to school,when she had to leave me for school time. It's not too late to do those things dear...just give it a try and you'll realized how much you missed your childhood and how much you are missing your mom. Have a good day always
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@voldrox (7202)
• India
22 Mar 10
yes you are right jaiho i should try it, you are going to have such a nice time with your mom. .. good day you too.
@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
hello dear, i am too much excited...just counting the hours now
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@Ladyslipper (1330)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Hi Jaiho! Same here. I still hug and kiss my parents whenever I get to see them. I can still remember the last time I visited my parents. My father was the one who accompanied me up to the airport gate. I kissed his cheek and said goodbye and I saw him got teary- eyed. He turned his back to me as fast as he could so that I won't see him crying. It gets touchy whenever I see my parents as I'm living far away from them. I miss them so much. Whenever I give them a visit my Mom would stay with me at bed until I go to sleep. She told me she misses the time that she would send me to bed and make me sleep by singing lullabies. I already have a child of my own and I can understand now how parents feel towards their children. The love is so great, pure and unconditional. That's how much I love my son and having a son made me love and appreciate more my parents.
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@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
hello Lady, Yes,it is becoz,embracing our parents is worth more any words spoken. A thousand words can describe a feeling,yet,warm touch of embrace and loving kiss launched a feeling of emotion that no one can define or,no words is enough to describe the feeling. Even if we are old and had our own family...hugs and kisses given to our parents brings back the time when we are still their little kids...so dependent. Now,seeing us being a parents ourselves,and yet,acting like a child to our parents surely brings back a lot of memories. I always love to hug and kiss my parents...for no one knows what tomorrow may brings. Better make them feel how much we thank and loved them the way they loved us too. Thanks for your response dear and have a good day always
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
You're welcome! I agree with you so much on this one. Whenever I look at my son while he sleeps and whenever I kiss and hug him it makes me think if my parents used to do those things to me and if they feel the same way I feel now with my son. You take care always. :)
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@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
20 Mar 10
I really think that to hug or to kiss somebody is a very good way to show love. I really wish that it should have been in our culture. Well to talk about me I was always taught and induced that I must never show my emotions out. Too much has been bottled inside over the years I guess. Great discussion, Didi.
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@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
hello dear bhai, It's really warm to feel the embrace from our loved ones. Esp when it's a mothers hug. i felt like i am back into my childhood days,where my mom use to embrace me and wrapped around her arms. It's always good to show our emotions and feeling. to express how much we love someone and how much we care. Have a nice weekend dear bhai
• India
20 Mar 10
Yeah Didi, its always good to show that you love and care. It makes you feel so blessed. One must always express the love you render deep within. I must say again its a very nice discussion to participate in! Bodhi
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@Sreekala (12532)
• India
20 Mar 10
Hi dear, According to our culture hugging is not way of showing the love and respect. But this trend is changing due to the western influence and many are living in western countries changes are coming up in a fast way. I can’t remember any situation where I hugged my mother or father after become an adult. I born and brought in such a back ground so I may hesitant to do the same. Now our beloved mother is not with us and I can’t do it any more in my life. But I won't mind to hug you as you are showing much care like a real sister.
@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
hello dear sis, I can understand about your culture dear. I would like to give respect the same way if i am there in your country,but will give you a big hug and kiss too It doesn't matter how we pay respect and show our love to our loved ones. What matters most is...in our hearts..we know how much we loved them. it just happen that,my country is one of those western influenced country,and that,we express our love by hugs and kisses. How i wish really to have you hugged in person dear
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@Sreekala (12532)
• India
23 Mar 10
So sweet of you dear, hope we can meet sometime in future.
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@bomii14 (182)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
of course~ ^^
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@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
hello bomii, What a brief response yet very precise. I can feel how you always hug and kiss your parents. No need to explain much...it's the feeling that counts. thanks for your response and have a good weekend
@bomii14 (182)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
have a good weekend too~! :D you're BLESSED~! ^^
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@AvI0907 (231)
• Malaysia
20 Mar 10
Hi jaiho... Yes.. by hug and kiss is my prinsiple when i meet my parent especially my mom.. I did evry moment when i back from High school holidays.. I feel sorry to say which i never ever hug and kiss my dad because i feel weird do this kind of expression with same gender.. I knw it is nothing wrong but it was my phycological sense on that actions... Please allow urself love ur parent and take care of them wherever u are.. parent is the worthiest things in the world and no one's else can be replacing them!!!
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@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
hello Av, I guess boys doesn't really show much affection to their dad..i guess mostly. But boys will always be close to their moms too. I had observe this with my kids. My son,esp my youngest i can feel his dependency on me,compared to his dad. And,he always love to hug and kiss me...and even sleeps with me(hahaha)he's 11 yrs now turning 12 soon,yet acted like a baby. Thanks for your response and i am glad to know that you always show's love to your mom. have a good weekend
• India
21 Mar 10
Actually, I sleep on my mom's lap whenever I feel so and she gently touches my head that is a huge pleasant feel for me. My kids, I just enjoy kissing and hugging them. Especially my elder daughter who is 2.8 yrs old is funny often with her activities which I enjoy and hug her with joy and kiss her often.
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@madhuvamsi (1185)
• India
30 Mar 10
Well I am male, so my parents are always with me, so no chance of missing them like you for your mother. I do hug them like a kid when I share my happy moments or sorrow moments. Recently done that when my father birthday came.. It is normal to get excited in public and hug your closed one's. When someone close comes after a long time we do tend to feel happy...
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@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
25 Apr 10
hello madhu, That's good to know that your parents stays with you and you always had the chance to show your love and care for them. My mom is living away from us,that's why i always missed her. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
I absolutely do! In our family we keep a very tight relationship specially my mother is old already. I mean im not hoping that she leaves me but i dont know until when will she be staying with us . Thats why we make sure that everyday we make her feel loved and we make sure that we tell her how much we care bout her too. Specially because we dont have our father anymore , we are the only ones who keep her happy and feel loved most of the time. If i were you its not too late to do the same thing. Make sure that your parents know how much you feel about them. That is if you love them that much ;)
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@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
hello setsuna, We should always show our parents how much we love and care for them. We never knew what tomorrow may brings,so,each time we had a chance,we hug and kiss our loved ones. I always show my love to my parents,even if we don't live near. I call then each time i had the chance,say i love you. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@mobhomeir (7567)
• Philippines
24 Mar 10
Hello bnita mia..am sure you're all happy now because I am pretty sure your mom is already there with you. In our family we seldom separate for a long period of time. I could not remember any of our family members went anywhere for a long period of time because I was the one who were fond of gallivanting anywhere else. I was the one among us before who was fond of traveling around. I was always the one who is being miss so much even until now since I live away from them. We miss each other so much that we hug each other when I would go home in our home province. We never had a practiced of hugging each other when someone departs. It is only when someone like me, going back home after a lot of years being away from them... Oh kindly extend my regards to your mo'm.. Enjoy your vacation!!!![em]niceday[/em Just take good care guys!!! Mobhomeir here
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@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
hello Martin, My mom safely arrived here in our country yesterday after 18 hours of flying(hehehe). And,directly travel again for another 5 hours going to Baguio. my second son accompanied her,they'll coming back this March 30 to attend my daughter's graduation,then,we will be going back to Baguio for summer vacation. I guess you have traveled a lot dear amigo,been to many places huh? lots of memories to cherish too,i wish i have traveled too many places like you do. Sure,will give your regards to my mom...
• India
23 Mar 10
Hello this discussion reflects your feeling for your parents, every kid irrespective of age should have this, well my parents are no more, but daily in the morning after performing puja i also bow down my head in front of their picture, they are god at par for me, my grown up kids give me equal respect Happy posting, cheers Professor
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@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
24 Mar 10
hello Prof, You are right sir,kids pay respect and shows love to their parents regardless of age. And,you are too good to keep their pictures and give respect till now. Your kids surely gives you same respect for what you were showing them. And my kids do the same thing too...they loves to kiss and hug me esp when i am angry,my youngest will hug and kiss me,then,it cools me down and just make me smile(ugh...kidssss,they know what to do and when to melt my heart) Thanks for your response dear and have a good day always
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
You're a sweet daughter! I am like that too. Ever since I was a kid, I always hug and kiss my mother. Until I grew up, I still do that. And I think even for the next decades to come, I'm still going to do that.
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@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
24 Mar 10
hello autumn, Thank you dear,yah,i always like being sweet and act like a child with my mom(hahaha) Same thing dear,i will always hug and kiss my mom even when i get older... thanks for your response and have a good day always
@enix119 (101)
• China
21 Mar 10
It's so nice to find this question. I will hold my parents' hand instead of hug or kiss. I just feel my love for parents is deep and contained rather than extravagant. I have ever meant to hug them but I failed to that beacause I know my parents have same thought with me.
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@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
hello enix, The warm touch of embrace and kiss is worth more than any expensive material things. We had our own way of showing our love and affection. We had our ways for making our parents feel how much we care for them. It just happen that,in my country,we are used to do this customs. We hug and kissed our parents and our loved ones. Thanks for your response and have a good day always dear
@ebuscat (5950)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
For me I don't want to kiss my father and my mother i only hug them because I'm a person who have a malicious attitude.
@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
hello ebuscat, Well,we had our own way of showing our love. But,the warm touch is one of the greatest way to make our loved ones feels how much we love and care for them. thanks for sharing your opinion here and have a good day always dear
@shaggin (15047)
• United States
21 Mar 10
That is so sweet how excited you are to see your mom at the airport and to hug and kiss her. I cant even tell you the last time I hugged my parents. I stopped when I was very young showing signs of affection like that. It embarrassed me. I rememeber it being probably at least 10 years or more that I went without hugging my dad and then I hugged him at my wedding and it felt very akward. I hope my children always hug me. The hugs I get from my kids are the best. Nothing compares to that. I dread the day that they no longer want to hug me.
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@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
hello shaggin, Kids were used to hug and kiss us...then,let's wish they won't depart from doing it when they get old. I am used to kissing and hugging my parents when i was a child,so,till now that i am old and had my kids,i never get tired doing so. The warm touch and loving embrace always gives me the feeling of being a child myself. Yes,i am so excited that i can't wait till that day when my mom comes home. Thanks for your response and have a good day always dear
21 Mar 10
yeah i always hug and kiss my parents even i'm old now, i always care. because i love my parents,that give me a life now!every wikend always bounding with my family and i'm so happy.like malling and shopping then playing a badminton.and i realize i dont want to waste my time..my time always give too my family
@jaiho2009 (36773)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Hello maricel, Nice word here dear. yes,every minute counts. We never knew if we still had the chance to hug and kiss them the next day. So,every time we had the chance to do it..we must,and should let them feel how much we love them. Hugs and kiss is worth more than any material things...worth more than the most precious gems. The warm touch and loving embrace is worth more than a thousand words... it is love unspoken... Thanks for your response and have a good day always