Am I to be blame?

Philippines
March 21, 2010 8:07am CST
Once upon a time , early in the morning at school. When I got arrived I let all my kids pick up the rubbish in front and at the back of my classroom. It so happened that my neighbor kids throw their rubbishes or pieces of papers from a big trash can in the middle between our comfort room at the back of my room.I told the kids not to put it cause its not the proper area for that trash. They reported to their adviser and the adviser told them to let me go with her. I did not go w/ her because I have many things to see and guide the pupils in their work. Suddenly the teacher in my neighbor madly go with me pointing her finger to me and say bad words towards me. I amazed of the things she showed to me. The kids surprised of what she did. Then I answered to her also with my principles. Am I to be blame that I disturb her even if I just let the kids do what is right? We are friend but not true friend I think because of what she did to me. Is it wrong to correct the pupils from what they did? I need your brilliant ideas about this situation. Thanks for reading this post.
5 responses
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
From what I have understood, I don't think that you're the one that should be blamed. You just did the right thing and I guess that was just a lesson that everyone should realize.
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• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Thanks that you really get my point of it. I'm not envying with her, I just did whats the good for our school. We are neighbors and we should help hand in hand for the cleanliness and the tidy for the room grounds. So there's nothing to upset with it just early in the morning. I let the kids know that their way of throwing the garbage is not the proper one. So got puzzle of her reaction for that. Might be she has the bad times at that moment and I also cannot hold my emotions after I just saved all the things she did to me to preserve our cmaraderie as co workers too. So its a great surprised to me so far. But I let all this things passed as a trials in our life to challenge our sincerity as friend.
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Well I'm glad that after that incident, you remained to be positive and calm. I hope that you can really find a genuine friend in that particular school. The incident helps you in way that you can be able to decipher from which was really your true friend/s.
• Philippines
24 Mar 10
I have real friends but not she is. At least I know her real attitude and I not rely on her so much. There's a gap already on the treatment for what she shows I'm so careful to join w/ her.
@770876 (151)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 10
Hi, There are a lot of different people in the world, They also have various ideas with us, It is impossible they have same manners with you, So you do not care that. Because you are neighbor , I think you need meet almost every day, So i suggest you just let it go, imagine that is air there. My neighbor kids and their mums are also same patterns. I just think they are air, Otherwise, you will feel very troublesome. How do you think it?
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
How are you there 770876? Nice idea to hear to let it go like an air. Thanks so much for the wonderful advice. Sometimes if you are in the peak of your comtrolled emotions it will blow out. Now I let it erase with nothing to worry and do whatever good things inspite what she did for me. I know time come that she can think all about these good things I ever did to her as a friend but I think she is not real one. She is just good to me if she has something needed but if nothing forgot all ways I have shared. This is life and it must go on.
@770876 (151)
• Malaysia
30 Mar 10
It is my pleasure that it is useful for you. P.S sorry for my late reply, I am new on this site, I can not find our discussion until I just dig your information from my emails.
@williamjisir (22903)
• China
20 Apr 10
Hello geniustiger. I am sorry that you have had such a bad experience with the so-called friend as to say rude words to you. I am very sorry for it. I think that you are absolutely right to tell the kid to do the right thing. That friend of yours was not supposed to treat you like that as a teacher, who is only supposed to set a good example to her students. I am sure that she will be sorry for it later on when she spends some time thinking about her own behavior. I hope you are ok now from the matter after five weeks. Take care and enjoy your work.
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
Yes thats the deminishing factor of being an educator not showing good examples to kids. I don't know what happened to her temper it early in the morning and that is the way she respond to me and also I got not good temper at all too. But just suprised of what she did. But now she already talked me first but I answer to her but not the total trust I give to her it is something far away behind. From now on I can not rely her anymore.
@mikoiks2 (216)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 10
I can't understanding your post, bro. But I try to learn more your discussion, just think positive for your do. I can't give a lot of comments about what happened to you. but clearly you are right there on the side, That I think. Just keep doing what's the best for themself and people.
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
This is wHat happened, when I saw her pupils throw garbage from their trash cans in between of our classdrooms at the back area. That area is not the proper place to throw it out. I told the kids not to do that thing but they still put it out. They told to their teacher what I said then she began to get mad at me. She thinks why I correct them for that action? So she wanted to let me go w/ her. And I did not go to her. So she go to me angrily and pinpointed me and utter words that is not good to her. So I amazed with it. So thats the real thing. Thanks for sharing her, Im so happy to hear you then.
@Devilova (5396)
• Indonesia
21 Mar 10
Hmm.I think You have done the right thing, just explain it with cool and smooth.Don't confrontate with Your neighbor, cause someday we will need them.Let the GOD who judge it. Don't fight a fire with fire, but give a water to handle it.
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Good day Devilova! Very touching idea you have, I agree with it. This is true buit sometimes our anger cannot be controlled if you have it saved and it spills out. Seems it so over I cannot take it anymore that's why I will show to her that I will also depend myself towards her reaction about the rubishes.I know that we are sensitive sometimes to hear and responds what they showed to us. I stand my principle that nothing is wrong with it. She just put it in other way. What I do is the cleanliness of our surroundings as we both neighbors in classrooms.