March 23, 2010 10:47am CST
I put this discussion under questions and answers instead of children or parenting because this isn't exactly about children... though I am very sure that when My husband and I do have children this scenario will play out : Me : I don't care if you don't want to wear that shirt, it's cold out and your not going out without something warmer on! Son : But mom, I'm 35 years old I think I can make my own decisions! heheh, okay but this is actually about a new site I'm on, I've found that I'm quite the nurturer now! Though I go through my mood swings too, I get aggravated and annoyed, but I try to help as best I can, hence the nurturing. SO what's your complex?
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18 Jul 10
My complex is not on my children but probably for my younger brothers and sisters. I keep telling to do this, do that, all for their benefit, and they feel like I treat them like little kids, when they're all grown up and just a few years younger than me, it's also gotten to the stage where I do it to my mum and dad, and my dad just goes; ' For goodness sake, you're acting like my mam!' :D
• Delhi, India
24 Mar 10
Hello SCG! Your imagination is on the dot. Children would always be children for the parents, even if they are 35 years old or even if they are married. Parents always keep concerning about their children and keep giving them unsolicited advice. There is no harm in it. I think, you should always show your concern for your children, when you finally have them with you. All the best! Deepak PS - So when is the good news coming up ? (please do not take my question otherwise, I am just kidding because it is a post about kids )
• Boise, Idaho
23 Mar 10
I am a care giver. Always trying to take care of everyone. Find the right word or herb or something that will help them out in some small way. If you just carry a jacket or have them do that then the problem is solved early in life. hehehe I think we all go through the mood swings. And I think as parents and complexers we always think we have all the answers and can do it better.
23 Mar 10
Haha.. for me, I can be pretty an@l when it comes to beliefs. Or should I say perspective, or sticking to a goal. I make sure I reach it, no matter what.. no matter how slow and the time that I need to complete it. Not a perfectionist, I don't go for that..but just those hard streaks perspectives. Not ego though, lol..it's a mix of many things. Hahaa..
• United States
23 Mar 10
I am also a compulsive nurturer. I love to give advice, even here on the Lot. I will have to say that in real life practice, though, you would have to notice that I believe I am Superman. I can fix everything up just right for everyone, and that is my job, and I will do it, even if it costs me something in the way of health, energy and well being. I need to get over it. Other people are obligated to help, and I can let them, while I enjoy myself.