What should I do when she doesn't respond?
@vishalshah852004 (80)
India
March 24, 2010 3:16am CST
Its a very funny situation. I saw a girl at an event and fell in love with her. I think she also liked me as she was also looking at me a number of times and giving a small smile. But I didn't have guts to go and talk to her..From sources I found out her name, age, and other details. I sent here a facebook friend request in which I wrote a message about myself, how I met her etc. She accepted my friend request;. I was too happy to see that. But, he didn't respond to that message. After some days it was her birthday so I sent her wishes through facebook but still she didn't respond.. Before some days I again sent her a message but she is still not responding.. I see updates in her profile i.e. she logs in(may be in 15 days) but she doesn't respond.. Why does she behave in such a manner?? It really hurts..
8 responses
@sheen13 (567)
• India
24 Mar 10
It's not a funny situation but yea it is a very sad situation according to me. If you are saying that, she saw and smiled at you that too a number of times then it is sure that she likes you or something like that. Not only this, she accepted your friend request, taht's another thing to get happy but on the whole after this, she doesn't respond to your messages, that's really bad. Maybe the girl likes you but maybe she have some reasons that she cannot talk to you. Or maybe she is not interested in you. I am saying this all as I am a girl and I know such things. Happy mylotting!
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
24 Mar 10
I think this is just a mere infatuation you just attracted this person maybe because shes pretty and at the same you might be looking good too thats why you got her attention that night. But that doesnt mean she feels for you already , first thing u have to know is that most girls likes flirting,not in a bad way i mean they send out gestures body movements etc. Now its up to us guys to respond and the reaction that we will get from the girl will be dependin on how fast or slow your move will be . Some like it fast some like it slow now maybe this chick didnt like the way you reacted maybe shes looking for someone whose more intimate and someones whose willing to gamble and talk to her in person than just writing a message in short you might not just be her type. U can even confirm this by asking her directly or maybe talking her casually for you to find out more about her feelings. Lastly, relaz thats not love yet, i believe the meaning of love is way deeper than what you just experienced ;)
@vishalshah852004 (80)
• India
24 Mar 10
The problem is I have not seen her after that day and have not talked with her too.. May be I was a little bit slow in getting to her to show my feelings. I am a bit introvert which she may not be liking.. If its not love why am I not able to forget her nearly after 6 months that I had seen her
@roughneckjon (175)
• United States
24 Mar 10
I'd have to agree with setsuna26. I think you missed your opportunity to talk to her. In past experience, it seems girls are expecting a guy to make the next move and if you don't then they might think you're not that interested after all.
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
24 Mar 10
Well, you lost the opportunity, if you just talked to her that moment, it will be a different situation now. But of course you still have chance, if she is still single and no commitment now. Just continue on sending her a message. Or you can also send a message to her friends, they maybe the ones that can help you about your feelings with her. First, make her friends your friend. If you catch the attention of her friend and found out that you are really a nice guy, then she/he(her friend) will be the one who will recommend you to her. Just prove that you are good guy and all your intentions are good. Well just keep on trying since she has no boyfriend, and you already got her smile at the event. Good luck! Do your best! Have a nice day! Happy myLotting! 
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
24 Mar 10
Ok, then stop sending her a message for the moment, focus on her friend, it's better if the one you will choose is a girl. She will understands you more. Choose a friend of her that is really close to her, or a best friend of her. Tell her your real intentions. Introduce yourself and if you are already close to her friend, you will be able to know more things about the girl you love. The key is make her friend the bridge for you to reach her. Well, your success will depend on your communication with her friend. Well, just do all your best, at least you have given your effort for her. If she will still ignore you after all the effort you've done, then maybe you are really not meant for each other and better let your feelings free and search for the right one. Still, good luck!
@vishalshah852004 (80)
• India
24 Mar 10
Thanx alot.. Its really a nice idea. I will try to find out who are her friends and be friend with him/her. But I think still sending her messages would hurt my image, she may think that "this person doesn't understand even if I don't respond to him"
@tess_quinain (1149)
• Philippines
24 Mar 10
probably, she doesn't like you or she has a boyfriend already. Have you ever thought of that? Surely, there's something that hinders her to respond in your messages. But don't lose hope. If you really love her, then you can wait. Right?
Time will come she will notice you.
Goodluck!!
@vishalshah852004 (80)
• India
24 Mar 10
I think she doesn't have any boyfriend.. I don't know what is hindering her to respond me... If she doesn't like me why should she have added me to her friends list. I think the time is to wait and watch... If she likes me then she will automatically contact me..
@vishalshah852004 (80)
• India
24 Mar 10
Nope, she knows how to see and reply to messages..Bcoz I saw her message in one of my friends facebook inbox..
@meimeibaobei (292)
• China
24 Mar 10
many girls usually refuse other's request by negnecting him.i think you should try to make friends with other girls.the most important thing is you should show youradvantages to others.if you do that,i belive you will find your love.
@vishalshah852004 (80)
• India
24 Mar 10
How can I show my advantage to her,, I have not met her since... I know there are many other girls may be better than her but still I am not able to forget her
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
24 Mar 10
No offense but I think she's staring at you for a couple of times because you were staring at her too. When a girl doesn't give a damn effort to respond you, remember two things: it's either she wants to test your patience/effort or she's not really interested about you. After all, I can sense that it's only admiration... I would really suppose because you don't have any intimate bond.
@roughneckjon (175)
• United States
24 Mar 10
Just make sure you don't seem like a stalker by sending her a ton of messages and trying to talk to her friends. Don't get me wrong, that seems to be a pretty good idea as far as the friends part goes, but she may take it the wrong way so just be careful. You don't want to appear obsessed either. I've been in situations like this and sometimes you just need to move on and take her silence as a polite way of saying she's not interested because she may not have the guts to tell you this and it's sometimes easier to just ignore someone. This is just reality and it can be harsh, but there are plenty of other girls out there so don't feel like you've failed. Good luck!
