how a person can love a stranger more than his or her parents?
By kooltiger
@kooltiger (848)
Pakistan
March 24, 2010 9:13am CST
i dont really understand our nature... its strange... people mostly gives more care to their lover rather than giving that care to there parents who gave birth to us... this part of our nature is really strange... some people leave their parents for the sake of their lover...
can u people share Your views about it..?
8 responses
@kooltiger (848)
• Pakistan
24 Mar 10
lolz... i dont think that they think this stuff at the time of leaving...
@niitesh (1653)
• India
24 Mar 10
you don;t really know the value of the person until and unless you stay away from them, our parents are with us for the whole life and we start taking them for granted, that is one reason we think we love someone more them our lives. Sometimes when ur parents leave you for a week or so ,don't you get restless ,don't you want them back as soon as possible.
@kooltiger (848)
• Pakistan
24 Mar 10
yes u r absolutely right... but i m talking about my observations... this situation is not with me... i love my parents more than any one.. more than my life... we have heard this dialogue saying to our love... but its more suitable saying to our parents... they standby with us every time... they never leave us in any situation and dont get angry for more than an hour... its a lovely relation... but your lover can get angry or even can leave u forever...
@amorlife1 (370)
• South Africa
24 Mar 10
are you talking about a stranger or a lover? because a lover isn't a stranger is he? And I take it that you're not married yet, or even engaged. Because whether you like it or not, your husband or fiance will demand more of your attention than your parents. If you give all your love and attention to your parents, then your husband or fiance will leave you.
You say your lover can leave you forever, but what about when your parents die?
@amorlife1 (370)
• South Africa
24 Mar 10
If it's just a lover, then the reason has to be that they're really infatuated with their lover at the time. They want to spend all their time with their lover. They have been staying with their parents for a looooooooong time, and want to experience the company of someone else. I don't think it necessarily means that they don't love their parents anymore.
If it's a husband or fiance, then they're SUPPOSED to leave their parents for them. That's what marriage means. A marriage will never work if they're still attached to their parents. They need to detach themselves from their parents and put time and effort into their marriage and growing their family.
@kooltiger (848)
• Pakistan
24 Mar 10
yes u r rite that the marriages wont b successful... but i m trying to point out those people who ran away from their home.. with their love.. mostly happens here in asia..
@dimitarivanov (228)
• Netherlands
25 Mar 10
It's only normal, don't you think so? We can't hold on to our parents, we can love them/respect them hate them/alienate them. However we need to be with someone and this is just the way Mother nature made us. I don't think it's strange, but you should pick your lovers carefully...
@virtue0773 (8)
• China
24 Mar 10
You have much time with your parents,so less lovely in your heart(In fact,it'S a false impression).When you to meet with a stranger,beacuse it's a short period,so you can much love than your parents,but this is a short time too.
@kooltiger (848)
• Pakistan
24 Mar 10
friend i m not just talking about a lover... i m talking about marriage relation also... we give more priority to the life partner...
@amorlife1 (370)
• South Africa
24 Mar 10
We're meant to leave our parents and start a family of our own when we get married. It doesn't necessarily mean we love our spouse more than our parents. we just love them in a different way. We have to give priority to our spouse and build our family. Our parents have done their job and are now enjoying their lives. they still love us, and we still love them, but it doesn't mean we must neglect our spouse and spend all the time with our parents. One day, they'll be gone and all we'd be left with is our spouse and our own kids.
On the other hand, I'm not saying we must completely neglect and ignore our parents... but we must also not completely neglect and ignore our spouse because of our parents.
I hope what i'm saying makes sense?
@FabSexy (7)
• United States
24 Mar 10
That is not right, morally speaking. What that person feel towards that stranger is not love but infatuation. You should not compare your love to your family with other people since they belong to different levels. The only reason i can think of to not loving your own parents that much is if they are evil parents. LOL. I just don't have a lot of respect for disrespectful human beings.
How much do you want to bet their relationship will not last long?
@kooltiger (848)
• Pakistan
24 Mar 10
i m talking about my observations... i've seen some people running away from their homes with their lovers forever... leaving their parents... its really common here in south asia... commonly pakistan and India...
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
24 Mar 10
Having given birth to someone doesn't automatically equal to that person acting loving and caring to the child. Many parents are really horrible with their kids, so it's only natural that they prefer the kindness of another person instead of being illtreated by his or her family.
@arreolabryan (856)
• Philippines
24 Mar 10
Some people just want something new. Get out of their boring lives. So when meeting a stranger and enjoying the life that makes you happy. You will really say you love them more than anyone.
