Are you the type of person that worries about hurting another feelings and so

Hello Friend, I have been like that in the past for many years. When I was a kid, I was always afraid of telling the rude and bitter facts. I just couldn't! Many times I went out of the way to make the other person feel better... Result: I degraded my self-confidence, gradually! Trust me, people take advantage of this good quality in you. I am sure your friend knows that you don't like it and as long as you are not going to say anything, she will keep invading your personal space at your own home. That is ridiculous! My advice to you is to tell her what she is doing and how it causes annoyance and irritation to you. That is the only way!!! I know it going to be tough, but there is always a first time, right? You are getting hurt, while you have been trying not to hurt her. Why do that???

yeah sometimes. when it comes to my youngest brother. he always gets what he wants so if i said no he would get angry. but most of the time i dont mind saying no. i just let them deal with it. if they cant it s their problem. usually to other people, even my friends.

Not when it comes to my things. I do worry about saying things that might hurt a friends feelings. If it is my stuff and they are wanting to do something, I can say no very easily.

In the school that I'm working in, I'm one of the young teachers here. Most of the older teachers give me some paperworks to encode in the PC and I just can't say no because they are seniors here. Actually I applied as a teacher here and not as a clerk but they are treating me as a clerk. Do you think just letting them do this to me is alright?

I know the feeling. I also have a hard time saying no. If I know I will make a friend or a person sad if I say no, I wont say it. Even if I'll be burdened. But I think I came to a point where I realized that sometimes, it's okay to say no. No to some favors, no to some work. This is because sometimes, you are being taken advantage of. If that's the case, you definitely should say no. Especially if the person is a dear friend because in that way, you can teach the friend to be a better person by not making advantage of other people. Also, in your case, you can teach your friend to be more organized with her stuff. You could have some bonding time with her by offering to help clean her house as an advantage. There are definitely stuff there she doesn't need. Another reason why you should learn to say no is that it's also for yourself. Sometimes, it isn't right anymore that you are the one suffering because suddenly you have more load than what you're supposed to have. If your friend is truly a friend, he will understand your situation.

Yes i am a person that really worries about hurting other peple's feeling. I am like this because of the influence of my mother who really didn't wanted to hurt others as well. But in your case, i think its ok to tell her in your most discreet way to explain why its not fine for your friend to live with your family because she has her own in the first place. If you will be honest i think she will understand...

As regards me. it is really a sin hurting others' feelings.

Don't make that thing as a pressure,i think many persons has suffered from that situation,in fact,saying"no"is truly more difficult than saying"yes",especilly the target who you want to deny is an aquaintance!So just distinguish whether the situation is in the range of your tolerant,if not,saying "no",it is not worh hesitating!