is it okay to slap some one when did sometrhing realkly hurt you?

Japan
March 29, 2010 6:23am CST
This is about my friend in work she is older then me i respect her too much and i help her a lot,well i have a lot customer that come to the club to have a drink and want to listen i am singing,last night i was very busy in work when my one of my customer calling me i can not answer the phone then he call one of my friend that i talk about,i don`t know she jealous or what at me but she did told my customer this and that like that i have boyfriend even not:)like i have children this and that my private thing that should not tell to any one,some of my customer was leave me and come to her i don`t mind with that but she did telling thing that should not to i really hurt last night this is not the first time she did to me,well i lost some of my income is no problem with me but i was shy and feel not good when my customer think that i am lie to them,i want to tell my boss but that will no work i keep my anger but i really want to slap her at one:( how you think my friend?
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12 responses
@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
29 Mar 10
Hi anitarei, I believe you have the right to slap, kick or punch her at her face. This is backstabbing and very bad behavior. You should break your friendship with her because she definitely not worth anything to be called friend. She will make your life even worst. Telling your friends private life to some strangers, even to your clients, is definitely no no thing. I think she try to steal your client and in entertainment business, the older you are the lesser your clients especially when you can not keep your mouth shut. Tell you so called "friend" this.
• Japan
29 Mar 10
I was decide if 10 person say is right way to slap i ll go for it:)i keep anger since last night and i am not work today cause still mad and don`t want to see her is my show in club today but i pass it i don`t want look mad in my face better feel good for tomorrow that why i am resting now:)thanks
@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
29 Mar 10
Yeah ... it is better if you could cold off first before you go back to your work. It is really not a good thing for you to show with all the fire still burning inside you. It might be a catastrophe. And you definitely would not want them especially if you depend much from your clients.
• Canada
29 Mar 10
Id love to tell you to slap her silly but not sure if it'll get you in trouble or not. Here if I were to slap someone, I could get arrested and Id be in a lot of trouble. So if you think you wont get in any trouble with the law.....hey, if you really feel like it, why not !!!!
• Japan
29 Mar 10
may be i ll ask her...can i slap you at one to make me better and ill forgive you,i am sure she will say no...
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
sometimes, if the situation is getting worst and you feel so upset already, we're likely to hurt someone. If you cannot control your anger, you may slap somebody. But as we all know it's not a good idea though because we don't have the right to hurt people. But sometimes, we cannot control it. Just try to talk with her seriously. I mean heart to heart. In that case, you can't hurt her physically. It's not a good idea to slap her because she might feel worst and do something more to destroy you. Just initiate a talk anitarei321.
• Japan
29 Mar 10
can not talk heart to haer with her cause her heart is too hard:)
@machivado (528)
• Indonesia
29 Mar 10
You really have to think through if you really intend to slap her. In short, be prepared for the consequences...It's very frustrating when that someone is related to your work, but most of the time, problems can be solved with just telling the truth and tell her how you feel about it.
• Japan
29 Mar 10
this is not the first time she did and i lost a lot of my customer just because they know i have children,and this and that you know work in the night we all just lies and i don`t have to make special friendship with all customer all i do is make them happy when they drink to talk and listen i am singing after work finish nothing to do with them and with myself,why every one must know about me and my family from her just because she want more customer come for her is not fear for me right?
@mitchann (303)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
I haven't slapped anyone though, I haven't found myself in that situation. Why don't you confront her,tell her your uncomfortable of the private things she is spreading around. And if it doesn't work, stop becoming friends with her or stay away from her. She is not worth your trust.
• Japan
29 Mar 10
i was thinking yes every one trying hard for work and get some money but is not right way to put some one down just because the mall money that she want and is pulling down my reputation she should not doing it and is no right thing to do she knew it we all understand about it but she did it many time she should be stop talking people private thing:)
@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
I don't think so... you can just ignore her or tell it to your boss, or talk to her face to face--battle of words..?
• Japan
29 Mar 10
We did it many time but is not work:)she keep say that she don`t do nothing but customer come to her cause not happy with me that is fine...but how come some of them calling me and talk this and that said that i am lie about myself they know it from her,she have to keep all our secret is not right thing to open people secret on work don`t you think so?
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
i dont slap anyone coz i know its painful and i dont want them to slap me back. if someone hurt me, i only tell them what i feel and as long as they didnt hurt me physically then i will not do harm to them also. i just give them a warning that once they hurt me physically then they will see who i am and i dont care of who they are even if their parents is president or king or queen as long as im in the right track, i really stand for it.
• Japan
29 Mar 10
sound cold but hot....:)for long time i am like you,i don`t like to hurt no one but i can`t take it no more that why i am asking:)
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
29 Mar 10
Haha..thats really nice question. Well i did sometimes my brother when he hurts me badly. well that doesnot stop, i will get back one from him in return. Just imagine it will be like WWF, lol.. but i cant do it to strangers, we need to control anger.
@tsurjan (25)
• India
29 Mar 10
no its not good because it will worsen the situation so be good.peace is morepowerfull than violence though it takes a little more time to work
• Japan
29 Mar 10
i ll try too:)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
hi. you see every person has his own limit. his patience has its end point. but the society we dwell in would ask us to keep our manners. that is why i would slap a person. i'm educated so the best thing if you get angry try to leave the place where the trouble occur. remember she is your boss. better settle things when you are not mad already.
• Japan
29 Mar 10
like you said i was home early last night cause don`t want make any trouble myself:)but i talk about one of my friend at work my boss just watching doing nothing that is why i said no work:( to talk to him and i have to handle my problem myself:)thanks
• United States
30 Mar 10
dump him at once
@netcoder (275)
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
im not a physical kind of person so i really didnt just slap nor kick nor hit someone coz i dont want to hurt some one physically coz i know its hurt and i dont want them to do that to me also. but if someone really hurt me then maybe i will give not just a slap but i will grab her hair and pull her down.