How do you control?

When I am angry I try to keep my mouth shut. I realized that when I am angry I tend to say hurtful words that I usually regret afterwards. I try to be alone for awhile to suppress this intense feeling I am having and take deep breaths. I try to calm myself for when I am calm I can think more rational and not let my feelings get over me. My husband often tells me that when I say something as if I am always angry. I always say words in a very defensive manner and sometimes raise my voice to get my point. I say to him that’s just the way I speak. Anyway, I said to him that whenever I get angry all you need to do to pacify me is hug me. Hugging usually works for me to melt my anger.

Few years back, i was so anger and behaved with no patience. But the situations changed me totally. Patience comes into my life in the form of experience. Now when i get angry, i just simply smile and going through my works. Our angry is our enemy, i learnt this from my own life. have a nice day, thanks for sharing. All is well.

Walk away, just try to stay calm and controlled. There is little point in escalating any situation into a fight, but try and put some distance between yourself and the situation

Just imagine what will happen if you start fighting with the one you are mad at? Will the other person fight back? If the other person doesn't fight back could that person sue you? Will you end your friendship with that person if you misbehave with that person or fight? Will you go to jail if you assault your friend? In jail you might have to fight even more since some people in jail are psychos. Just think of the consequences first.

When I'm angry, I tend to hurl bad words, so if you don't want to be cursed, just go away. If he insists, then, I'll turn my back and leave that person. When I'm calmer, I'll try to talk to that person and explain to him why I acted like that. I want to reiterate to that person that what he did was wrong and it will really turn anybody mad. So if he doesn't want to have enemies, better understand the situation and change his ways.

I will confront my friend about the things she just said against me. I will tell her not to do that again because I get offended. If she still do the same, I will close my eyes, take a deep breath, utter a short prayer and then starts to smile again the moment I open my eyes. I won't let any useless mammal ruin my day.

The best way to control is to go away from them, if it is impossible, then you tell them directly, problems can be solved by mutual discussion. But i know some situations are really difficult. I had roommate that constantly irritates me, telling him was no use, he likes doing whatever i hate. So i had to spank him instead of controlling myself, then he started to control himself. But if you are afraid you will get spanked instead, you better learn to suit him.. lol.....