Dating Advice. . I haven't date in 7 years so I need help
By Aurone
@Aurone (4755)
United States
March 29, 2010 4:58pm CST
So I am recently divorced (it was final in September) and its been like 7 years since I dated anyone so I have a question to put to you gals and guys. I know a lot of graduate students in a town about an hour away from where I live. I attended the school several years ago and know many of the students who are graduating this summer. Consequently, I am invited to many of their social events. I met a newer graduate student at one of the recent parties, I find him very interesting and would actually like to get to know him better and perhaps date him. Here are the questions/problems. He is 7 years younger than me (he is actually younger than my younger "baby" brother. I am in my 30s, he is in his 20s, is that going to be an issue? Secondly, is it okay for a girl to ask a guy out? I gather he is rather shy and I might wait an eternity for him to ask me. Thirdly, when should I ask him out and how? I don't have his phone number but I am friends with him on facebook. Its seems so cheesy to ask someone to coffee or something on facebook, am I being old fashioned? And lastly, I expect to see him at a party on Saturday, should I wait until then to flirt with him and see what happens or should I ask him to coffee sometime this week (keeping in mind I have to drive an hour/hour and half to have coffee with him (I do have other friends in the area and could see them before or after as well--and I am on Spring Break this week so I actually have the time to do something like this, this week.) What do ya'll think? Help?
3 responses
@kainalu55 (364)
• United States
29 Mar 10
i think it is great that you are going out and socializing, which is always a great way to meet new people. I see no problem in your dating a younger guy. Do you think he feels the same towards you as you do towards him? If you think there is a great chance that he does, than i would go ahead and ask him to coffee. Maybe you could just start writing to him on facebook, and see how things go from there. maybe mention hanging out some time, and see what he says. i think you'll be able to get a good idea on his feelings through conversing with him on facebook. And if nothing is set up this week, strike up a conversation when you see him at the party on saturday, go with the flow, and see where things lead. All the best of luck to you! Would love to know how everything goes!
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
30 Mar 10
Seven years isn't a big deal unless you were 20 and he was 13. It's absolutely fine for a girl to ask a guy out. If I were you I would hang on until this weekend's event and try to see where he's at with the whole thing at that time. If all goes well ask him then if he'd like to do something later in the week. You don't need to use the 'date' word, just keep it casual if that feels better. And if you don't get the opportunity to ask him at this event then at least try to get his number, if you can't get it then I think it's fine to ask him to grab a coffee via Facebook.
@angel_kaycee (1112)
• Philippines
31 Mar 10
congratulations! finally after long time you're in to dating again. i am happy to hear that from you. don't worry too much about it. it will go well. and about dating younger men, it does not matter. as long as you're not hurting anyone, there's nothing wrong with that. everyone deserves to be happy. and if it makes you happy don't bother too much. and with asking him out, i think if you two go along well and your good friends it will not matter whether who first asks to go out. what matter is that you're having a wonderful time together. good luck to your dating. and happy mylotting!
