Why pretend to believe in God when it's fake?

United States
March 30, 2010 5:16pm CST
I was at the store in the checkout line and I had lots so I saw the woman behind me with lots of Easter Candy and little trinkets for children and said that she must be looking forward to a lively Easter with the kids. She replied "oh yeah, right, I have to deal with my kids and his and on top of that I have to sit thru Easter Mass. That's why I bought the wine to help me get thru it." I was stunned into silence which is quite rare for me!! The shocked look on the cashier showed she was also taken aback. I just said well at least the kids will have a fun day. And thankfully the cashier was done checking me out. And I left rather angry with the woman since I really hate when people go thru the motions of being a Christian. In my opinion, God knows the difference so why bother going to church only at Easter and Christmas? If one is a Christian, one is that way all the time. This woman was far from that based on what her attitude was today. And I don't think one has to go to Church every week to be a good Christian as long as one has God in their daily life with prayer. I just don't get what the point was? She had two little children with her so she wasn't even trying to pretend the Easter Bunny was real even tho they were both under 5. She clearly did not value going to Church so her kids are going to know that too. What do you think? Would you have said anything to her about her attitude or been diplomatic like I think I was?
4 responses
@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
31 Mar 10
I wouldn't have said anything to her because it wouldn't be any of my business as to what she does and does not believe in. It's just ashame that she had such a rotten attitude with her kids right there. She just sounds like she is a miserable person anyway.
• United States
1 Apr 10
I think in hindsight that if I has said anything to her, she'd have gone off on me. for all I know maybe she's normally a delightful person but was having a truly awful day. It's not my place to judge. She really shocked me tho with her negative attitude and you are so right that it's sad that she acts that way in front of her children. If they hadn't been right there, my reaction wouldn't have been so strong. I adore children and always try to show them the best of me. And we wonder why young people have no manners and little respect. It all begins at home. I decided to pray for her and her kids and God will know what is best. Thanks for sharing! Take care!
• Singapore
31 Mar 10
Well, the first step to being a Christian is to acknowledge that everyone is sinful and we are no exceptions. So that's why we shouldn't really judge other people and think that we are superior. In this acknowledgment, we also recognised that man is imperfect, therefore makes mistakes. Hence, it requires the fellowships from fellow Christians in churches to encourage and correct one another when we make mistakes. Arrogance often sets in when we think that we can maintain the faith all by ourselves and this often drifts us further and further from the God. Easter sunday and Christmas are just two special occasions that we want to really commemorate the revival and birth of Jesus Christ, it doesn't really make normal sundays or days less important. More importantly, it's a good time to spread the gospels since people can relate themselves more easily to Christ as they may want to know the significance behind the events.
• United States
1 Apr 10
I understand where you are coming from overall, but the bible also cautions us who to associate with. I avoid spending time with negative people and she was an extremely negative person. Since I am disabled, I don't always get to Church as much as I would like but saved up so that I can take a cab this weekend. My city does have a van for diabled folks like me but it doesn't run on the weekends. And I know I will have to get there extra early to get a seat since it will be very crowded. Last year, I had to stand for Christmas Mass and it was horribly painful but worth it. I think that might be part of why I felt the way that I did when she made the derogatory comments about having to sit thru Mass. I've noticed that on the big holidays, my Church is packed but not at all on the regular Sundays and that seems hypocritical to me. But as you said, it's not my place to judge. For all I know, maybe she works most weekends. I decided to pray for her and her children and God will answer as he sees fit.
• United States
31 Mar 10
You gotta give her a little grace, it really is possible she doesn't know what you know about God or Christianity. You can pray that she'll come to know that God is there and loves her just like he loves you...
• United States
1 Apr 10
Thank you! I took your advice and added her and her children to my prayers. We all have bad days and maybe that was a horrible one for her. I doubt she realized that I was trying to be nice when I made the comment about a fun Easter day with the children. I adore children and wish I was lucky enough to have some to spend Easter with. Maybe she'll stop and think later about what Easter really means and she is going to Mass so maybe God will be able to open her heart then. Take care.
@Draeke (324)
• United States
30 Mar 10
skipping the religious aspect of the holiday, I would have said something about her additude and lack of real caring about the celebration. I don't see the point in faking your way through any sabbat, it hurts the one faking and those around them.
• United States
1 Apr 10
That would have been a good option. I was so stunned at her bad attitude especially in front of her children that I didn't really have time to think about it. Sadly, she'd likely have gone off on me if I'd said anything about a negative attitude. I decided to pray for her and her children, that God will open her heart and help her as he sees fit. Thanks for sharing!