I am just so mad! what would you do?!
By jennifer611
@jennifer611 (2514)
United States
March 31, 2010 9:36am CST
Ya know, I am not perfect and don't claim to be at all.
but I just can not believe some people!
since this past weekend it's been planned that on Wednesday (TODAY!)
I was going to pick up my cousin and bring her to this place that helps people with food.
I have a family of 6 and I just can't keep helping her because it hurts us and then I am the one struggling. so today was the day I was going to drive her.
I got up at just after 7AM, got myself ready and my 17 month old up out of bed and ready and called her (my cousin), saying were about ready to go.
she says "oh ok, I'll get up and get ready"...well, I'm ready to walk out of the door and go get her when she calls back and says "ummm, I'm not going to go because I want to sleep"..excuse me?!?!?!
I JUST had to help her with food because she has NONE and then she has a chance to go get a good amount of food from this place, I get up out of bed and wake my son up from his sleep and she don't want to go because she wants to sleep?!
I wanted to sleep too!
I am just so fed up! her mother (my aunt) is doing the same stuff! mooching off of my mother, living in my mothers home and my mom has told her that she needs to hurry and find a place, but why would she move when my mom foots the bill for everything?!
she buys her all her food, has paid for her eye exam and glasses.
were not rich!
I have 4 kids to provide for and my mom is retired!
now my cousin says to me, she is going to go to my grandpa's and do yard work for some money..my grandfather has my sister and her daughter (though she does help out at least) living there and he lives on social security. she doesn't have to count on him to help when she can get up and do for herself!
I am just so mad right now at how dumb some people can be.
I'm sorry but the next time she calls me for help with food, I will NOT help her.
it's just her and her boyfriend so they can start worrying about themselves.
they have dogs who they feed real human food to instead of dog food, if they'd get rid of their 3 dogs maybe they could buy food.
she doesn't even let the dogs go outside! she has them go to the bathroom IN THE HOUSE! just gross. they all need a mental evaluation!
what would you say or do if this was your situation?
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5 responses
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
2 Apr 10
Well i would suggest to take more care of your kids and your life, its your hard and hard money, so use them , save them for the betterment of your life!
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
1 Apr 10
Hi, jennifer611. I am sorry that your cousin has been so thoughtless to you looking out for her. I wish that I had a cousin as generous as you are. Sometimes, I can't even get my 1st cousin to do one simple favor me at all. Your cousin just does not know how lucky she is. If that had to have been me, I would have been the one calling you and asking you if you are ready to go. Not the other way around.. It is sad that some people just don't appreciate what other people will do for them. They take others for granted, and that is very unfair. If I had a chance to get some food for my family, I would have jumped hard at that opportunity! Your cousin should think very hard at how she is living her life. She also should make a place for her dog to sleep outside so that the dog mess will not scent up her home. I hope that she will get it together sooner or later.
After a while, if she keeps this up, she will have no help and then she will "REALLY" feel sorry then.
After a while, if she keeps this up, she will have no help and then she will "REALLY" feel sorry then.2 people like this
@mz_Ira (1090)
• Philippines
31 Mar 10
I understand if you're so mad BIG time! with that kind or cousins and aunt, nobody would ever stand with them. They are so mean to abuse you and your family, You're being so nice and have been really helpful to them but then I can sense they do not even appreciate it nor keep in mind atleast to pay respect.
I cannot blame you if you stop helping them and limiting yourself by putting a border line to her. Im sure if i were in your shoes I would as well do that! Save more of your patience and keep strong!
@epicure35 (2814)
• United States
3 Apr 10
I understand and sympathize with your situation. Looks like we all have them! Nobody's perfect and neither is any family. Re the specifics of getting her food and her ungrateful response, I agree that you should stop taking her at sufferance to your family and yourself. While we all want to help others, especially family, there comes a time in certain situations when you must "dust off your shoes", quit in the interest of all concerned, and hope that those involved will realize their own responsibility.
