The child with so many tantrums

@mackiejp (374)
Philippines
April 1, 2010 6:09am CST
There is a kid in our neighborhood that has so many tantrums, when his tantrums triggered, he caught all the people's attention in the village. And even I myself, started to think of possible causes why a child has tantrums and as per my research it was said to be part of normal developmental behavior for children aged 1-3 and over, but what if a child's tantrums are just too much to bear for their parents? There was a part that stated in an article I read that tantrums occur at least once a week and one 2-year old in five has at least two tantrums a day, but what if the whole day you hear the child whining, crying, screaming and stamping? And you see them kicking, hitting and throwing themselves. Call me fortunate because my kids have only rare moments with tantrums. I haven't seen them throw themselves on the floor like that of the child in the neighborhood. As I tried to figure out the causes, I found the answer to my question, perhaps, a child's tantrums become too much because he is lack of his parents' attention, I now, understand how the kid behaves, his parents are just too busy that even to give little compliments to their children are hard for them to do. Becoming parents entail big responsibilities, and sometimes we, parents are just the cause of their tantrums. And it is so frustrating that as parents we do not know that we have caused too much distress to our kids. I know most of you here are aware of the many ways to deter a child having too much tantrums. What I am asking from you is how would you possibly tell the parents of that kid about how you feel of their child's behavior that would not offend them? Your opinion is a big help for a child who have suffered too much distress...
2 responses
@Naxous (973)
• India
1 Apr 10
Hi mackiejp what I will do is that I will bring the child with me to my home and look after him all day..I am confident enough that the child will behave normally just like my children and from then onwards if the child throws tantrums again then I can tell their parents that they are not treating the child properly..I can suggest a few remedies in a friendly manner to the parents of that child which will be fruitful to keep down the tantrums to a minimum.
@mackiejp (374)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
I invited the kid at home to play with my children, but too frustrating when his tantrum triggered my kids were shocked. I wanted to talk to his mom but I am still finding ways to get in her way, she is just too preoccupied of earning more money that they forget being the parents to their children though it is too obvious that what they are doing now are for their kids benefit. But a child need more than that...LOVE & AFFECTION are some of those they need.
@Naxous (973)
• India
1 Apr 10
Now if that's the case then i don't think there is any rational way to reason the parents.It is really frustrating to see kids going haywire in front of you..but if the parents don't understand then the neighbours don't stand a chance.You can try out one more thing..get hold of a the most respected and widely known figure in your locality and ask him to come to your place and have a first hand knoowledge of the child's tantrums and then ask that individual to talk to the child's parents.Maybe that individual can persuade the parents and save the child.
@mackiejp (374)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
Very well said, thanks for that very good idea you have here...I will try the best I can to help this child.
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@grkelly (1206)
• Malta
1 Apr 10
I agree with you. My kid does suffer from an occasional tantrum, but this boy you are mentioning seems to be overdoing it and they do not seem to be such 'normal' tantrums. It is either that he needs more attention, most probably he does not feel loved that much, or else he has a more serious behavioural problem. Maybe he needs to be referred to a specialist for more examination, maybe he is hyperactive, autistic or something like that.