perfect family?

Philippines
April 1, 2010 8:52am CST
i can say that we are a happy family, i and my brothers are close to each other we are holding together trough different trials and obstacles, papa is good to us he is caring, loving and understanding father, he give us advices if we need sum advice, mama is a good to us only one thing i could say to my mama is that she is a good mother i know all of us having a good parents . but when my mother died 7 years ago i our happy family was gone. for almost 7 years did my mom died papa married again.papa is change it seems that he is not my father we really don't know who is he. he became violent, as of now i don't know what kind of family we had.do you have a happy and perfect family?
12 responses
@epicure35 (2822)
• United States
4 Apr 10
No family and no person is "perfect". "Happiness" can be transitory - it comes and it goes. But joy is more lasting because it doesn't depend of circumstance or feelings. It is hard to lose a parent/wife/child - anyone - and it certainly does disrupt family life, even tear a family apart. But, our life circumstances dictate triumphing over trials, and we all have many hard, harsh trials to go through on this earth. All we can do is bring as much strength, love, and understanding to our situations as we can muster, and learn to get the wisdom and discernment such inordinately hard times eventually bring.
@dzeanne (79)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
I never had a perfect family. There were a couple of times that we're happy, but never perfect. I think being a perfect family is just like so unreal. My mom and dad were always quarreling and they've separated numerous times since I was born. They were on and off and eventually, my brother and I got used to it. Well, it still hurts when I see them quarrel. At present, they're still separated, my dad doesn't live with us, but it's okay. I think it's better like this. At least, they're talking now. As for you, I understand that it's more difficult for you since you used to be a happy and perfect family as you said. I know you miss your family, and I think what you're going through is way harder than what i experienced with my family since I never knew what a happy and perfect family meant. I think you should understand your father a little more, maybe he's still not over your mom. When you said violent, did you mean violent like hitting you or abusing you? Since he's been a good father to you in the past, then it's not impossible to bring him back. Have a good talk with him, tell him how you feel and make him feel that you love him and will always be there for him. I know you and your family will get through this. Good luck and God bless. :)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
My family is far from perfect. I see the lives of my friends, and to me that is already perfect. It doesn't matter what their doing, or what's happening in their lives, what sort of problems they are going through. Anything different that my situation would be perfect. As a child, I wasn't exactly favored, and my parents didn't seem to see the importance of friendship or socialization. They believed in being conservative, keeping to themselves, and that kind of thing. Unfortunately, I'm a very social person ever since I was a child, and I got reprimanded for that. Something I don't really like!
@drshav (205)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
I am sorry to hear about your family, too bad that your mom has to leave you all so soon that's why everything has changed in your family. But in every family there's always trials and problems but in God's time everything will be fine. As for me, I don't have a perfect family and I don't believe that there is such a thing. But yes we are happy but we also encounter problems. I think its just normal for every family to go through problems but its how you solve and make it work for each member of family.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
2 Apr 10
Well, i have a happy perfect family too.. I have my great loving mom, our darling dad and adorable brother and my sweet lovable wife. What els i need and to add beauty i got a sweet angel 2 weeks before. I am overwhelmed!
• India
2 Apr 10
Hi friend, I to love my family very much. My family consist of my mother, father, brother and me. My father and mother both are caring. My brother is also very friendly with me, he shares each and every think with me. But sometime we do fight, but it is solved. I think i am really very blessed.
@hotsummer (10449)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
that is really great to hear that you have a very happy family. i wish that i can say that to my family myself. but we are not at all happy family. we have lots and lots of problems and we are not that close at all. but i wish that we can also be happy as your family are right now.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
For me yes we are happy family because we worship the only true God Jehovah God his loving spirit is present every time we had a problem by calling him he is there.
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
I wish i can say yes
@machivado (529)
• Indonesia
2 Apr 10
My family is just great as it is...I love being around with them but I don't know..for some reasons I just don't like being around them for a long time...I want to be alone for a while and it's good enough for me to know that they are still doing okay...Maybe that's because I'm a loner by nature...It's not that I'm not thankful for such a happy family...
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
I don't! :( I grew up in a broken family. They're always fighting and passing obligations to each other. They aren't that financially unstable that's why I don't get that part when they fight. I've always been involved to their fights. I was always the one whose being asked to testify. I hate it cause they should do everything to prevent me from being involved. Instead of protecting my emotions as a child,they left me with a lot of baggages and obligations given that I'm the first born. Well,for me there's an ideal family but there's no perfect family. Not being bitter here just realistic. I want a peaceful family. But it's too late. My emotions are forcing me to rebel. Even I can't help it. Happy blogging! :)
@mensab (4207)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
family is changing and evolving. it is both a fortunate and unfortunate phenomenon depending on one's situation. what kind of family we have depends on the willingness and efforts each member puts in to make it become like that. a happy family means each member is happy with his/her situation. but happiness is not a permanent reality. as long as we hold on to that happiness pledge, things will become better and turn out fine. make each day a family day.