what to do if your mom is mad at you?

@pwang41 (134)
Philippines
April 7, 2010 10:02pm CST
my mom is kinda mad at me right now. the fact is that the reason is not that big. i just went to meet my former classmates because were planning for a reunion. my mom is quite strict because she doesn't want me to go outside our house during late nights, though i don't have a problem with that. i went home yesterday at around 6 pm so it is not that late. i really want to meet my friends but my mom is mad so i have to stay at home whole day today. i'm a little bit frustrated because i'm not a kid anymore for her to act this way. i already graduated in college to crying out loud. what can i do so that my mom wont be mad at me? my attendance for our coming reunion in at stake and my friends are inviting me to meet them today.
4 responses
@nangisha (3506)
• Indonesia
9 Apr 10
I think the only thing you had to do is tell your mom 'I am sorry mom'. You and mom can sit together tell her what your feeling and you can say to her to start trusting you and promise to keep his trust. Heart to heart talk usually work for my mom and try to understand his point of view and share yours, maybe you both can find solutions thats good for you and your mom with compromize.
@pwang41 (134)
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
i'm not close with my mom because she is the one whose working so she isn't always at home. having heart to heart talk with her is not that simple. though over the years i tried to reach the gap our interests just doesn't fit. she just can't accept change so easily. she wants things the way it was like during her time. and sometimes she compares me with my cousins. which is really so upsetting.
@junrapmian (2173)
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
Your mom is just protecting you. Today's environment is not as safe before. I also have 2 daughters aged 20 and 22, and I never permit them to go outside the house during late nights. They have curfew hours at home, they should be home before dinner which is at 7:30pm, it has been agreed before and they are agreeable to that. If there would be unavoidable commitment that they can't go home on time, they should inform us their parents earlier and it should be valid excuse like overtime works or school related activities. Their father is always willing to fetch them in office and school. Going out with friends and classmates at night is not a valid excuse for us parents, we permit them if it is during the day and we know who are the friends that they are going out with. I always tell them to choose their friends, do not befriend those who they think will be a bad influence to them. I am not strict with my children, in fact they treat me as their friend, they tell me their secrets and even crushes, they are allowed to entertain suitors only at home and not on the streets, but they are not yet allowed to get into a relationship, not until they are emotionally ready and mature. I don't want them to get hurt at an early age when they can not handle their feelings yet. I know what your mom's doing is for your own good, so do understand.
@pwang41 (134)
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
i don't usually go out at night. almost all the time i'm just at home. it was just that time that i was out because of the preparation i had to make with my former classmates. i do understand her, that it really is not safe outside especially at night but i think she should have just said it in a calm manner. what really hurt is the way she said it. she sounded like i made the biggest mistake and that i always did everyday. i'm really trying to understand her but i think she should understand my situation as well. she knew all my friends and i was just hoping she would trust me more and stop treating me like a kid.
• United States
8 Apr 10
how old are you? and are you living with your mother? i am 21 and live with my mom. yeah i have a kid so i cannot run the roads when i want to. but when i was pregnant and before that, after i tunred 18 and still lived with my mom i respected her rules. maybe you both need to talk things out and find a middle ground. tell her you wont be out later than 1am or 12am. because anything later than that im sure your parents will worry. even though you are older you still need to respect your parents if you are still living with them. just talk to her and let her know you arnt a little girl anymore. i have to remind my mom of that like 2-3 times a week. parents dont like seeing their kids grow up. are you her only child or the youngest?
@pwang41 (134)
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
i just turned 22. it was just that time that i went out late. i never really had a night life and if ever i left home to meet my friends i usually go home at most around 7. the other day i was out at night because i met with my classmates before at 8pm and i went home at around 11 pm. so it was not that late but for her it is already so late. though i still live with them, i think i'm intitled with a little freedom. so sad because she won't listen to any explanation. i stayed at home the whole day so that she won't be mad anymore. luckily, she already talked to me so i guess, she is already okay.
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
I am already 25 years old but I am still obeying my parents' house rules, like I am allowed to go out but not beyond 7PM, and should be with their permission. I cannot just leave the house if they will not allow me to, so I have to stay home with them. And those are some of the reasons why I'd rather go back to work in another city than staying home with my strict parents.