Adoptive Child Sent Back To Russia

@sassy28 (834)
United States
April 15, 2010 9:17am CST
I have seen on the news about the lady that sent her 7 year old adoptive son back to Russia. I can not imagine how anyone could do this. I adopted our oldest son, he is now 10, and could never give him back. He is our son no matter how bad he is or how mad we get at him. I am the one that has sat up with him all night when he has had a fever, cried at the hospital when he has gotten stitches. Just because I did not give physical birth to him, does not make him any less my son. I just do not understand how someone could put their child on a plane and just walk away. How do you feel about this, do you think she was wrong or is it ok to do this type of thing?
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@anuraa32 (2446)
• India
15 Apr 10
I was shocked when I heard the news. I felt sad for the boy who was made to go back alone on the plane. Disgraceful. I mean why oh why did they adopt in the first place. What are they trying to do. Buy the best in a market. Trial period and if not satisfied return it and money back gaurantee. Those parents need psychological treatment before they are allowed to have kids. What do they think? Do they think parenting is a joke.
@sassy28 (834)
• United States
15 Apr 10
I honestly don't think they should be allowed to have any kids. They apparently do not know the bad times goes along with the goods times. Our son has ADHD and trust me I have beat my head against a wall many nights with him doing homework. But as I see him growing everyday it makes it all worth it. If they are looking for the perfect child, I hate to tell them they will never find one. You take what the Lord has given you, love them, care for them, and raise them the best you can.
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@anuraa32 (2446)
• India
16 Apr 10
When everythng is perfect then what have we done as parents. There is no satisfaction in take care of the perfect. The perfect will grow perfectly even in the absence of parenting. It is when you take care of these supposedly not so perfect children and help them grow to be a perfect human being, now that is parenting. That is success. That is what gives us the satisfaction of parenting. And I can imagine what you go through with your child. I taught children with such problem, but trust me no one else gives as much satisfaction as these children's success does.
@Bl4ckc4t (12)
• United States
15 Apr 10
I find this very appalling, as the family had put the child through the trouble of taking him from his homeland, to the states. After this, they sent him back to Russia, because he was "trouble." In my honest opinion, it is easier to correct this problem than it is to send the problem away, because it only returns in the end.
@sassy28 (834)
• United States
16 Apr 10
There small trouble with raising this child has turned into a major problem. I feel these parents should have some type of criminal charges filed against them for abandoment. Now families who truly want a child can not get one since Russia has suspended adoptions to the US. It is just sad all around. I just hope this little boy gets the love and attention he needs and can excel to his full capability.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
15 Apr 10
I read about the American adoptive parents that sent their adopted 7 year old son back to Russia. I think they were extremely wrong for doing that. I know that the boy's self esteem will have been harmed. He might imagine that he is worthless. I have three children that I have given birth to. I know that if I did have a child that I had adopted I would keep him or her forever, cared for and loved. I know that your 10 year old so is in every way your child and you are an excellent parent to him. In the past I heard that an American lady adopted a little boy and a little girl from Russia. The boy was a special needs child and he tried the adoptive mom's patience. I think that lady should have sought professional assistance. An adoptive parent needs to be 100% committed to the child they are taking on. Some children that are adopted have challenging behavior. That is often because they have been neglected or abused in their birth home. I wish the 7 year old boy luck that a decent family will adopt him and work through any difficulties without sending him back to Russia.
@sassy28 (834)
• United States
15 Apr 10
I agree the emotional scares this will place on this child. Trying to figure out what he did so wrong to make his mother want to send him away. Can you imagine how he felt when he arrived their. I am not sure if she sent a note or anything with him. Now Russia has suspended any other adoptions to the US. So not only is this child hurt, others are being left without a family that wants them. Hopefully they can get this all straight and can find a loving and caring home quickly for this little boy.