How to Spank Effectively

I don't agree of spanking as one way of disciplining a child. Being violent will not help to the child because it will only hurt her/him more so it may cause trauma to the child. There are lot of ways to discipline a child rather than spanking her/him. Like, talking to him/her and telling him/her that what he/she had is not right and that God get angry to him/her.

I think that you absolutely have to spank children. Pain is a primal instinct that is embedded in our subconscious minds. Pain leads to fear, which leads to acknowledgment of wrongdoing. If you can show your child that what they did wrong will result in them receiving pain, they will be much less likely to do it. Once the child reaches a certain age, it is best not to spank them. In my opinion, children should be spanked from the age of 3 to about 10 years old. After that you can start taking things away as punishment. But at these ages, children just don't have a firm grasp of the value of things, and therefore the best way to get through to them is to cater to their instincts.

I think you should always give a spanking with your hand when it comes to children

to train the children you don't need to spank or do things that can cause trauma to the children, children need love and care, and sometime they need advice or attention they will listen if you will talk to them as they are grown up and you must show them respect even kids, if sometime they show bad attitude and to spank will before do it you need to let them know why u need to spank, so next time they have limitation for there attitude.

Please don't hit your children... really. There is no proof of whether it is better or not, the fact is that you can raise GREAT children with spanking and GREAT children without. The fear I have when people hit their children is that parents do it when they lose control. To be a good parent you have to be a roll model, you have to be in control, your children have to trust and respect you and want to follow in your footsteps. I have been hit on very rare occasions, and because of the rarity I appreciate the message so much more. If you get into a habit of spanking, then it will lose it's impact - unless you start to hit harder. It is not difficult to see that this leads to pain. Please think about your children. Take parenting tutorials if you fear that you can't keep control over your children without hitting, no doubt it can be hard, but if you are not ready for the challenge then re think having children. I don't want to sound patronising or insultive of parenting methods. I just want happy children! Children love their parents, that is a far more ingrained instinct than any form of pain. Please use that rather than hitting. please. And if you do hit, make sure you are in COMPLETE control when you hit. I love how you ask for advice on how hard to hit, you seem to me as someone who would be FAR more in-control than many other parents. I feel happy for your kids! If only more were as self aware and conscious of their actions as you! All the best for you and your kid(s)!! ENJOY!!! Hope my advise is appreciated.