Does chivalry even exist anymore???

United States
April 20, 2010 7:25am CST
The other day I realized that I've held the door for wayyy more men than they have for me. Seriously-They'll let the door slam right in my face! I thought that was an age old adage? So my question is do you think manners, chivalry, and the like has kinda faded away? Does it still exist somewhere out there? Somebody please tell me it's so...I'd hate to think times have changed that much. Surely not in my town-I'd say one guy in every 100 would hold the door for you. All the rest expect you to hold the door for them
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@hollowheart (1572)
• India
21 Apr 10
Dearest Rachelle. A lovely topic and a great question asked. So here is my appreciations for u. Lets be honest..the human value has had a lot od depreciation over the years enough. Now emotions are almost on the verge of going extinct. Infact just yesterday afternoon i was thinking about terrorism and felt that even small children are seen playing games where they need to shoot and kill people and move through the different levels of the game to achieve their mission. The same way imagine this same kid in real life.. he sees a man get killed in front of eyes. I really doubt if he would feel anything. And thats whats happening. We have become hard enough like stone to feel anything. We get adjusted to pain almost instantly and can even turn the mind over a 180 degrees to take revenge. Thats the big problem. Holding a door for another person is manners, but who cares. No one thinks and no one seems to have the time to care for another. I hold the door for many too but only a few have been kind enough to hold the door a few seconds extra so that i could ebter before the door slammed flat on my face. U wish a person good morning.. probably u have to wait decades. incase the person would ever wish u back. In India i guess its even worse when it comes down to manners and chivalry. Its definitely faded out. Unfortunate but true. No one cares. U know since childhood i had heard that women have a softer heart and they care for others. Even if a man didnt. Thats a major reason why i respect girls more than men. The result...a million heartbreaks...till the heart litterally became powder. Now i have two hearts in me. One to do the blood pumping activities and the other to give love and respect to good humans like u and a few ,ore people i know. I really wonder why humans never try to understand their mistakes and rectify them. Who knows..if i have enough manners left in me or not.
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• United States
21 Apr 10
I have begun to think that too many people here are wayyy too rushed and that explains their lack of manners...they are all in their own worlds-on their cell phones, rushing late to work etc etc...it's sad to think that could be the case and reason...but I'm beginning to think that explains it.
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• India
21 Apr 10
Ya i think thats the reason indeed. People r too rushed. But the worst part is they have lost their emotions to such a great extent. But even then it does not mean that its completely lost. There are still some good people left on earth and u r one of them.
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@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
22 Apr 10
That's the way it is at Walmart here where I live! People are in their own little world and they run out in front of each other. They never say "excuse me", either. That's one reason why I dread going so much. I only go if I have to. Kathy.
@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
20 Apr 10
oh don't loose hope this man here still holds the doors open for the ladies, its not all lost out there. :)
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• United States
20 Apr 10
Glad to hear that one still exists! You're truly the needle in the haystack! :) and very appreciated!
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• United States
20 Apr 10
Its truly my pleasure. I am happy we can be in touch here and am looking forwards to your next topic posts :)
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@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
I this chivalry still exist but very rare, you are very lucky to find one in your lifetime now adays. I know some men still hold that chivalric attitude in them and I want to find one..hehehe
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• United States
20 Apr 10
Me too! I'd just like to find one guy that appreciates women and shows respect for the elderly-I've seen them slam the doors in their faces also-very sad. I'm very surprised-I didn't pay much attention to it until the other day a man let the door slam right in my face (and he saw me)
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@piya84 (2591)
• India
20 Apr 10
Welcome to the era of equality.LOL I am also seeing decrease in chivalry and romantic type of love.I think it does exist but on that large scale as it used to exist years ago.
• United States
20 Apr 10
I can hardly believe the reversal of roles going on here! More men moving in with their girlfriends and more women wearing the pants?!
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@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
20 Apr 10
Isn't it awful?! I hate to say this but I don't think good manners are as prevalent as they used to be. It's sad, too. I don't think I've ever held a door for a man, lol. There are a few men around who will still do it but not as many as there used to be. What I don't like is for somebody to pull out in front of me on the highway! That just grates on my nerves Kathy.
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• United States
21 Apr 10
The little town I came from in Illinois was like stepping back into time..we moved to FL when I was 8 and man did I see a BIG difference! The people in my old town were very different-very polite-very old fashioned....there was no crime, rarely any accidents...a very different world from what I've seen here. And revisiting-it hasn't changed much at all!
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20 Apr 10
Although the days of chivalry are long gone, there are still people with good manners out there. There are people out there who still open doors for others, and say please and thank you.
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• United States
20 Apr 10
Yes, but they sure are getting rare. I was taught to be polite..I don't know what's changed but there are so few with those simple manners-even the older generations seem to be lacking
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• Philippines
20 Apr 10
it still does exist but unlike before where it's a must for a guy to have it in order to be called a gentleman. nowadays, one could be a gentleman without being chivalrous. but there are excemptions. it depends also with the culture or the background of the guy. for example, filipinos still has that characteristic though not as high as the good old days. and for me, chivalry is an advantage for guys when it comes to the ladies.