My friend is no talking with me and now its been more than two months.
By piya84
@piya84 (2581)
India
April 21, 2010 9:48am CST
Hey guys we are a group of four who are of same age and we are together more than ten years.We are all school friends and till date we never had fight.
Then last year one of my friend got married .Her marriage didnt work and she broke up with this man.Naturally she was frustrated and i am was with her to share her pain.
Actually i was going through troubles as well.I was facing problems in my business and then in my relationship also.But as she needed me still every week i spent two - three evening with her keeping my problems aside.
We went out and let her talk her about her feeling for hours.We went out to many places and i made efforts she feel good and her mood cheer up once again.But months after month that just doesnt happen.She was in same mood and crying and was expecting me to spend time and money on her after 6 months.
Finally i was tired and told her that even i am facing problems in life and i cant give her that much time.Instead of being understanding and kind she told me that i am not her real friend and i am leaving her in worst situation.
Then worst thing happen which was completely unexpected.She call my other two friends and told bad things about me and told them to broke contacts with me.
I am just clueless what the hell is going on..I am really confuse.
I supported her more than six month and instead of being thankful she is saying i am not her real friend and i mean and all rha rha!
What to do?Do you guys think i should cut my friendship with her?
Or she is going through divorce and she is miserable and she will back with me when everything is ok?
Shall i wait for that?
Its very difficult to break ten year old friendship.
I am just clueless what the hell is going on..I am really confuse.
I supported her more than six month and instead of being thankful she is saying i am not her real friend and i mean and all rha rha!
What to do?Do you guys think i should cut my friendship with her?
Or she is going through divorce and she is miserable and she will back with me when everything is ok?Shall i wait for that?
Its very difficult to break ten year old friendship.6 responses
@piya84 (2581)
• India
26 Apr 10
hiii jen
I think we know each other already.Isnt it?
Actually i withdraw my support suddenly and she was kinds used to it after few months.But what to do i am myself kinda going through problems right now and i cant give her that much time.
Her problems which are kinds unsolvable are adding frustration to me and at one point whole things just got unbearable.
I had a talk with my other two friends and they said they dont trust her and they think she is acting weird under stress.So sigh....
Actually i withdraw my support suddenly and she was kinds used to it after few months.But what to do i am myself kinda going through problems right now and i cant give her that much time.
Her problems which are kinds unsolvable are adding frustration to me and at one point whole things just got unbearable.
I had a talk with my other two friends and they said they dont trust her and they think she is acting weird under stress.So sigh....
@Abhiillusion (69)
• India
23 Apr 10
yaaaa,its sad to know.when you have a relationship under stress that too a one which is like so close to you its normal that you will feel uneasy about it,but don't worry it will all be same if you will act with some responsibility towards the relation.
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
Her upbringing made her have that kind of attitude. If only that females get the example of men. I have read a dozen things about women already. From those who sell their virginity until difficulties with being friends and I don't see it ending. A woman tend to be fair and compassionate with her fellow woman but I think it only makes the person more abusive of that care. At this point though you can have a pause in your friendship and it's up to her to rekindle your friendship.
@piya84 (2581)
• India
22 Apr 10
I dont think so it was her upbringing why she is reacting like that.We are friend more than 10 years and she never behaved with me before like this.Infact we never had any fight.She changed a lot when she got married.From that point she is just miserable and acting very strange.
@mspitot (3824)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
you should confront her because i think her attitude is not good. you should also talk to your other friends and tell them what really happened between the two of you. tell them to take care of your friend because she doesn't want you to help her anymore. make all of them understand that your world will not stop even your other friend is having a problem too.
@caliya (1170)
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
two months is quite a long time for a friend not to communicate with you. i suggest that you confront that friend of your yours in a calm manner on what is going on but if she needs time then just give her time but let your friend know that you are just there and you are still willing to continue your friendship.
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
The best way to deal with this is to talk to your other friends. If you could, try not to open the topic first. just hang out with them like you used to. make it seem that you are unaffected because the dirt your friend dished on you isn't true.
after a hanging out with for a few days, ask them how your other friend is doing. This'll get the conversation going and they'll most likely tell you what she's been telling them. this is your chance to redeem yourself. However, if they don't tell you what she's saying them make it known to them how much you care for your friend.
It might sound pretentious, you may have to do some acting on this one, but it'll be worth it when you gain back your friends
