How Do You Walk Away from Someone You Love?

@rosie230 (1674)
April 26, 2010 5:23am CST
Your in a relationship with that special someone, who you love with all your heart, but you can't trust this person, and you know that they have already cheated on you because they admitted it, and you know deep down they may still be cheating, so how do you walk away from that person when you love them so much and just want them to come to their senses and stop messing around and be faithful to you, and when you have a 1 year old with this person. How can you do it, and carry on?
11 responses
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
cheating only means breaking the trust. trust is very important coz you're investing your time and affection for that person. its just so sad that people are blinded by a glimpse of the future they wish to share to the person., they dont know that in the long run theyll suffer more. so my advise is to take all your courage and dumphim/her and do yourself a hard favor... move on.
@pcserver (395)
27 Apr 10
It is always hard and you don't have to. if you love someone you would do everything you can to keep that person, but sometimes the break-up is inevitable despite that love. Have a nice myLotting
@ebuscat (5951)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
For me I pray to Jehovah God that you can move on to your life without him and stop calling him,communicate and better to live with your parents until you can stand at your own and find another man who deserve to love.
• United States
27 Apr 10
i think i reallly love this one guy a whole lot. i dont think i can jus walk away because hes all i think about, all day and sometimes in my dreams i wake up to. its juss hard letting go. i want him, hes my everything and no one else culd ever be him. i'd rather have no one if it ment not having him. i jus cant even begin to think what it'd be like without him..
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
Hello, Rosie.:-) I can say that we are in a similar situation. Been betrayed and tried to walk away. (You can see my posts about my life). But I am telling you, my dear, it is not as easy as we think it is especially because we have kids to consider. Aside from the respondents advise here, I am often asking myself ,sort of evaluation, if I truly have the strength to walk away from him and our life together, I can honestly say Yes I can but not away from my kids. In your case, if you are emotionally, physically, mentally and financially ready and prepared for it, then, go.Pack your things and leave the house while he is out. Don't wait for him to come and don't expect him to bade you goodbyes.Just don't think of anything else but your freedom from pain.Don't forget to bring the kid with you. But if in your heart, you are feeling even a single hint of love for him then, I must say you stay. Learn to adjust first. Focus on your kid instead. Eventually, you will still notice him and his fooling around but the pain isn't that much as it used to be. Learn to let go of him first. Then and only then, you'll be ok to walk away from him... Goodluck and God bless you...
@Nessa314 (58)
26 Apr 10
It is very difficult to walk away from someone you love. But at the end of the day that is not the only person in your life. You being so unfulfilled in you relationship is going to hurt the other people you care about and who care about you as well. Every person is special and if someone doesn't realize that about you, they don't deserve to be with you. Make sure you have someone you can trust and someone who will be with you no matter what. I think your child will also be happier seeing you happier once your away from this relationship.
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
Love yourself first, if you love yourself, you will not permit this kind of behavior and instead walk out of his life, you can raise your child alone, it takes a lot of sacrifice and tears, Better yet find another man. The best predictor or present behavior is past behavior, believe me.
@sender621 (14971)
• United States
26 Apr 10
It's a difficult decision to walk away from someobe you love. You have to believe in your reasons for the breakup and stand behind them. If you don't follow through, you are not true to your heart and feelings. Sometimes staying with someone you love is harder than leaving them.
@Ravenladyj (22994)
• United States
26 Apr 10
Having a child with the person needs to be either irrelivent OR the reason yu DO NOT stay..NEVER EVER stay in a bad relationship "for the sake of the kids" because that is more damaging than leaving is... If you can't trust your partner and they have ALREADY cheated and admitted it and you didnt break up with him you basically just gave him the "OK" to do it again or continue to do it...NEVER assume that he will stop just because its out in the open especially if it was a more than one time thing..Cheaters can be very sneaky ppl and even though they may SAY or act like they'll never do it again, if they got away with it for a long time (rather than it being a one time mistake) they'll more than likely do it again....i know becuase I have been cheated on AND I've cheated... How do you walk away? Well ask yourself these questions...Do you LIKE being treated like crud? cause thats EXACTLY what the partners of cheaters are being treated like..Do you WANT to take the chance that your bf may pass on an STD to you? Do you LIKE being the joke within yours and his circle of friends? Do you want your child to grow up thinking its okay to stay in a relationship with no trust, respect or faithfulness?? If the answer to any or all of those questions is "NO" then you end the relationship..Sure it will hurt, yes it will be a change for you but for the time being its the best...
• Singapore
26 Apr 10
I'm in this situation, only that I have a three-year old. I love this person and have known him for more than half my life. It's really tough and I'm still with this person unfortunately. There are some differences though. That other girl has stopped contacting him and I hope it continues that way. If he continues to cheat on me, I would know. I have set up my own measures to alert me if she is contacting him again. At this point, I made it clear to him that he make one false move and I'm going to kick him out. He tries to meet that girl and if I find out, which I will eventually, it will be over between us. He realises that he could lose both ways, so he's sticking with us at this moment. In the meantime, I told him how much he has hurt me - what he did, his lies, etc. It was meant to make him feel guilty. At the same time, I told him to go to that woman if he doesn't love me anymore. I made it clear I will live, with or without him. If he still leaves, then he is not worth it. I told him that I'm not afraid to lose him anymore. My heart has been hurt too much, nothing surprises me anymore.
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
26 Apr 10
That is just the thing sweetie, you can't. If you don't have that will, forget it. But, if you really love that persna and you know he will cheat again, leave now and get it over with. Otherwise you never will leave at all. TATA.