Do you LOVE HER BECAUSE YOU NEED HIM or YOU NEED HER BECAUSE YOU LOVE HER?

Singapore
April 28, 2010 4:15am CST
It is often said that it's pretty hard to break into a realationship because one loves the other and really needed him/her to stay. But what really hurts is when you heard that you need her/him to stay not because you love him/her but just simply you don't want to lose her/him.
5 responses
@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
28 Apr 10
There is some irony with the situation here I guessed you simply can't let go of your loves ones because you can't bear the fact that they will able to love other human beings. Like you can't stand the fact that they are capable of loving other person and not you. This is pretty selfish emotion because you are trying to keep that person a slave to your love yet you can't no longer give your love in return. If you don't love the person what's the use of keeping him or her in your side. Utterly unreasonable to me.
• Singapore
28 Apr 10
There really is an irony in it. Sometimes, when love is lost and you could no longer give or even share your love in return, but you really want her to be by your side because you are afraaid of losing her with all those memories that you have shared, your dremas together etc..
@meirhu (367)
• Israel
29 Apr 10
I'm not sure I understand. From WHOM did you hear that you NEED her ? What is wrong with not wanting to lose her ? One sure way of being miserable is to check all the time what your "true" emotions are. Just go with the flow bro. You want to be with her. Great. She wants to be with you . Even better. What more do you want ?
@brina27 (17)
• United States
28 Apr 10
To love someone is to need that person by your side forever,if its really love and not just selfish thinking.
28 Apr 10
I think loving a person can lead to needing him/her..and when you love a person you start to being selfish that you always want having the person with you all the time.. :)) (I'm sorry this post is rushed.. :) )
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
28 Apr 10
hi ther harold_paz, in love section I am responding to a discussion which says who do you prefer the person you love or the person who love you.. hahahah well in our discussion it seems already inthe relationship.. Love the person because of who she is and not because you need him..because someone that need will vanish and what will happen to your relationship. it seems here in mylot know. discussion are full of love. have a great day and Goodluck to you happy mylottnig