breaking up heartaches
April 29, 2010 3:07am CST
I'm currently in the process of breaking marriage with my husband of almost 6 years. We have a 2 and a half year old daughter and i'm also 5 months pregnant. This last pregnancy was unplanned but we both want to keep it. However, we simply can't stand each other anymore. Things are complicated because we live near his parents house. As much as I want to stay put with my child, I don't want to see his parents also. I really want a fresh start. I don't know if it's possible but I feel that it's probably best for me. If I stay in the relationship I just know that we'll breakup again somehow, if not now certainly later. I feel that the only thing holding our home is our kid and the soon-to-be kid. I'm not sure what i feel but I surely don't feel the same about him and I'm sure he doesnt feel the same way about me anymore. I hope you can give me some advice on how to go through this kind of ordeal. Thanks.
2 May 10
I know exactly what you feel. I've been in that ordeal before and I thank God for saving our marriage. I am not advising you to stay with your husband and feel unfortunate for the rest of your life. What I would like to say is to give your marriage a chance for the sake of the kids. I know it is hard but you don't know what can happen after your second child comes. Maybe things will change. As of now, I think the best way to resolve your differences is for both of you to undergo marriage counseling. With the way you are talking, I feel your situation has to be dealt with by professional or third party who understands all about marriage. There are online marriage counseling but I suggest you look in your place a personal counseling for more intimate interaction. For now, I suggest you visit http://howtosavemarriage.org/ Hope this site helps you consider giving your marriage another chance.
3 May 10
Thank you for your advice, i really appreciate them. God has decided to intervene and made us calm down and give our marriage another try. I feel great now and so relieved. I know that God will continue to guide our marriage and our family as we both learn to adjust and understand each other. Thanks