what do you do when people around you are judgemental?

Oh sweety, I'm really sorry to hear that. And it sucks that those people have not grown up past elementary school. To be honest, those people, the judgemental, overly-critical, narrow-minded people, they exist everywhere. And trust me, it doesn't matter if you're obese, or thin, pretty, successful, poor or geeky. They will find something to mock you with and try to bring you down. The saddest part is that they have no self-confidence. That's why they feel the need to bring you down to make themselves feel better. So if you think that when they insult you, it doesn't reflect badly on you, it reflects badly on them. It exposes them as the true self-haters, and also just generally shallow people. You seem to have a lot of true beauty and strength. I know you're trying to find your inner strength and I'd encourage you to keep going. This might sound weird, but y'know how in the olden days kids used to have to write lines for punishment? That's because it works. If you add a routine of writing a simple phrase like, "I am beautiful" or "I am strong" five times a day while saying it out loud, you will start to believe it. I had to use it to get through some tough times and it works. *HUGS*

I have never figured out the proper way to deal with judgmental people who are family members. It's hard to distance yourself from them, because they always want to make it a guilt trip if they haven't seen me in a while. I'm on a diet and exercise routine as well. I think they only talk about my weight behind my back. Everything else is upfront and wide open though. Good luck with your physical self improvement You shall be a victim no more.

Hi maxen07 I am obese too, and I could relate to you 100 percent. I've been through a lot of painful judgments from others due to my size. These people are mean, they really are. They just don't know how it feels to be mocked, to be discriminated, to be not respected. It's painful, it's frustrating. But dear, let's talk about the brighter side, please don't feel ugly and not good enough. You are beautiful. I am telling this not to boost you, but I am telling you this because it's the truth. Each human is beautiful in different ways. If you think you're ugly, then that's how you would reflect to others. Dieting and exercising are not bad, they're very much positive resolutions for health reasons. But most importantly is the attitude and confidence. First step, is to love yourself for who and what you are. Feel good with yourself and be happy. Then it would reflect in your personality, and people will see it eventually, and would change the way they see you. Don't be too hard on yourself. They're already being hard on you, so why you add it on to yourself. you are the driver of your ownself, never let others pull you down. Boost your confidence, feel good with yourself, grow up, and live life to the fullest. Don't mind others, they're just being bugged. Stay happy, be strong. You have the same rights as the slim ones have. happy mylotting!remember, BIG IS BEAUTIFUL.

If you can't beat them, join them... So you won't be hurt, you need self acceptance so you will be accepted also. They will not mind you at all if you have a self-confidence. Be proud of your self, they will be speechless. Chubby girls are sexy. You are not born to please them.

The only thing you should do is to be yourself and do anything you wanna do.Don't care others' ridicule.Just remember you are who you are.Once I was very fat,others laughed at me too.but I didn't care.Then it took me about two months to lose my weight.I succeeded.This is my experience.I hope it's helpful to you.

Honey,number one - people are forever going to be judgmental about other people. Even when you lose the weight someone will have something else to point out about you. Like I tell my daughter, if someone has to talk down about you, it is really because they want something that you have that they don't. It could be that you are a great dresser, always a nice person, etc. They could just be using the weight thing to get under your skin. But they can only get under your skin if you allow them to. If you want to lose weight, lose weight for yourself, to be healthier. Not because the girl next door yells "hey thunder thighs!" every time you walk out the door. Practice on loving yourself and embracing your body and all its beautiful curves. Believe me - there is someone out there sick in bed wishing they just get up in the morning and walk. I say focus on your blessings and what you want more than what you don't want.

People should never judge a book by its cover. Inside might be the best literature ever written. It would be boring if every person in the world looked the same. I know a man that is very thin and he wished he could put on more weight. I have a friend that is obese and I know she is a really lovely person. I wouldn't ever say anything hurtful to someone because of his or her weight. I had my baby daughter born ten months ago. Due to the poor health I had after her birth because of a severe blood loss I have stayed overweight since my pregnancy. I hope to be able to lose some weight because I have back ache. I would like to go back to my usual weight. Whether a person is happy or unhappy with their weight they don't deserve nasty comments. You should be taken seriously and not accept any mean comments.

When people are being judgmental, i wonder why they are the way they are, and then I start thinking about myself. Have I said something like that before? yes. So me talking badly about someone that is being judgemental is kinda silly, cause I am too sometimes. Everyone does it, we only notice it when someone else is doing it. Skinny people are, fat people are, old people are, young people are. Everyone is. Usually if people are saying alot of things like that around you it means they feel comfortable saying it around you, because if you stop and think, maybe you say things like that about people.

No one in this world has no problem. Stay in what you want to do. No matter whatever the other people said, you must do what you want

you know what, just dont mind them. i believe that those kinds of people who judge you and ridicule you have inner insecurities too and maybe they feel superior when they do that to people. just dont mind them. i know its hard but just think that you;re not doing anything wrong and you're trying your best to be healthy. i was thin eversince but when i got married and had a kid i kinda gained weight. i'm still not considered big but certain people remarked that i'm a "fatso" already and made fun of my belly, arms, and thighs (note, i'm 5'2 and weigh 108 lbs!). i just told them once: i gained weight but i am not fat so just stop it. after that even when they still tease me i didnt care anymore. again, i know its easier said than done, but just dont mind them. if you want to lose weight, do it for yourself, not for what others will say. cheers girl, and stay strong always.

Don't blame yourself when people criticize you because of your physical appearance. It's not your fault to have a body like that, everyone dreams to have a perfect body but it seems only a few have that. People who are judge you just because of your body are the ones who has no breeding, less educated and most of all stupid. Don't feel ugly just because of that. There are hundred of reasons for you to feel beautiful because God created you in a very unique way. It would be your fault if you would allow yourself to feel that way forever knowing that you can be beautiful in some other things or some other ways. Good luck in your diet and I challenge you to post your pictures once you see changes because of your will to have a great body. I know you can do it and make it as a top of all your priorities. Perseverance will lead you to success and I know you will be there soon. Don't speak to people about your diet plans because they might criticize you more and that might lead you to quitting. Wishing you all the best!