Fairness in Love?

Philippines
May 5, 2010 12:29am CST
I met my old friend last week and she told me that she is married to a guy who is 23 years older than her. She is now 23 and the guy is 46. It seems that there is no problem when it comes to this situation, but what about the other way around, something is different, right? What is your opinion of a 30 year old lady marrying a 20 year old lad? or let us say, a lady much older than a guy?
6 responses
• Philippines
5 May 10
It only proves that love chooses no age. There are people who's attracted to someone much older than them and that's fine with me. But i like girls atleast two years younger than me to match my way of thinking.
• Philippines
6 May 10
Yes that is correct, the maturity of the couple can also lead to a happy life together... :-)
• India
5 May 10
love is the god,,,,,the god is love,,,,,,,totally free from lust,vulgarity,conditionss.even age factor is important from aaruvedic point of veiw,,,,but age diffrence beetween husband & wife is not at all ultimate criteria.if,there is an absolute pure{pious) and unconditional love ,,,age diffrence factor in the couple can be bluntly ignored........in case of a big gap,naturallymarreige life,,will be short,,in all respect...even in sexlife....for which both must be ready;which is difficlt too.contrary to this,if age gap is nominal or zero,,,but happy marriege life,,,,happiness in life,,,trust upon each,,diffrence in dex capacity,,,health,,wealth...maturity levels of both are vital factors...............a pair is confirmed in the heaven,,,,,,so each and every couple must make the life of each full of heavenly happiness. but how?a very simple key:what can i do the best for him/her?,,,,,,,upon self realisation you all will admit:we always think reverse;which is only the cause of pains,,,,failing happy marriedge life.
• Philippines
5 May 10
Love is blind they say... blind of the flaws of the person we love may it be physically, etc...as long as we know that we will be happy together... Cute!!! I wish many will feel and think this way, loving without finding fault from the person we love...
• Indonesia
5 May 10
I think age is not a big problem in marriage. The important thing is each individual would make an effort to understand their respective spous. And can make a way out of the best in the age difference problem
• Philippines
5 May 10
Nothing is impossible under the sun... It is always fair in love and in war! That is nice!
@Grat15 (416)
• Singapore
5 May 10
I guess it all depends on the couple itself. Sometimes we judge anything only from the outside. We don't really know that they are happy with it. I'm sure they've considered that before marriage, and knowing the consequences.
• Philippines
5 May 10
yah... if you will get affected by people surrounding you for sure... relationship will be ruined!
• Philippines
5 May 10
I believe that age difference should not be taken as a basis as to whether there is fairness or not in love. My husband is 10 years older than me. To others, it may sound acceptable because it is the male who is older than the female. But in some societies,some furrows their brow when it is the female who is older than the male. Others then start to question the relationship. For me, there is no difference at all as to who is older or not. Love and relationships should not be judged by age difference. Only these people know whether their love between them is genuine or not, and not for us to critic or misjudged. I have seen alot of couples who have unique age differences. Some couples still are happy living together now, but some have failed. Like any other factors affecting relationships, age difference is just one, and there are alot to consider to make one relationship as strong and lasting as we all want them to be.
• Philippines
5 May 10
I agree with you... the only problem one should face when entering this kind of relationship is the "TONGUE" of people around them. Thanks!
@joyzcare (31)
• Philippines
6 May 10
Relationship is a two-way traffic lane with love as the bonding agent. Its survival will depend on how the couple will handle every trials in their life. The social status as well as age do not have anything to do with it. Whoever is older does not matter as long as there is a harmonious relationship that exist (adjusting on each others differences) they will love each other till the end.