May 8, 2010 11:53am CST
I've been single for 3 years now. My last relationship was very traumatic. I want to meet someone new and I want to date again but I'm afraid. I'm afraid that I might meet someone just like my last boyfriend. But I think I'm stronger and smarter now. I think I already learned all the things I have to learn about relationships. I'm proud to say that I've fallen but I survived. Thinking about the past still breaks my heart. I know that I have to forgive and forget but it's easier to forgive than to forget. Now's not the right time but I know that eventually, I can forgive.
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17 May 10
Is that you on the picture/avatar? With your good looks, I believe you can still find a new love, a new one that will help you forget the past, and move on happily ever after. Just don't lose hope. Maintain your positive attitude in life. Plus, renew your relationship with the Lord. Remember, it is written in the Bible, "All things work together to them that love God..."
27 May 10
do not let the past haunts you, moved on and give others a chance to share their life with you and at the same time, give yourself a chance to share your life with them. what happened in the past is part of the "learning process" we have to undergo to become who we are at present.. Life is beautiful, enjoy it..
• United States
26 May 10
Okay, so I have to keep it real with you. The first thing you have to ask yourself is are you really ready to date. There is a difference between wanting a relationship and being ready for one. Being ready in the sense of the past not having such an influence on you and your decisions in the guys you meet or want to meet. I've been there, I understand the anguish that comes out of an abusive relationship, but I also understand that all men aren't the same. I'm glad to hear that you're stronger and smarter. Forgiving and forgetting can be a task depending on the situation. But know that someday none of that's really going to matter because you have been brought to a level of evolution which the pain doesn't bother you. You can look back but you have learn from everything you've endured and keep it moving. My sister, you are beautiful. Continue to tap into your strength.Do what's best for you and keep in mind to not be afraid. Just let go and let flow.
22 May 10
Go on and move forward. I always keep that in mind. I really don't have this stable and very happy relationship with someone. They say I was giving more than enough. Anyway, just to share because you shared to get even. With your looks, it will not be very hard for you to find a guy, but it is very hard to find the guys you are wishing to have. Your not the only one who is wishing that guy. Pray to God, discern well. A guy who is willing to be with you forever will everything to make you happy. Even though, he is not cute, rich or famous, the right person will do things that a normal suitor will never do. Make friends first, then when you know him very well, it will eventually go to being together. Your heart will beat when ready, don't push your self. Takes time. Good luck to the both of us. =) God bless
20 May 10
I'm sorry to know your past experience but as you said experience will make us a better person.I also have about the same experience as yours and I've been single for 2 years after 4-year long relationship.Until now I still can't forget the relationship but I always see it from a good side.It's not just relationship with our loved ones but the experience help me improves relationship with my family, friends and new people.So, we need to convince ourselves that we will get a better person after a loss but never ignore forgive and forget or give and take.Hope you will have a better life then...
19 May 10
look around baby look at my eyes. hehehe just kidding well seriously i know the feeling being down and hurt that's life you must go on. be with the flow. don't look for any relationship i am sure you have lots of friends here doesn't matter if you single. by the way we can be friend can i ask your number then ? lol ^^
15 May 10
we're the same. im single now for 6months .. and like yours, my past relationship with my ex was also traumatic. he's a liar! he's been lying to me ever since we started our relationship. i never knew that he was married already. he kept that secret for almost 3years. and it hurts! too late, i got pregnant.. now im looking forward for a new life...
• United States
15 May 10
Don't worry about it life will get better. I was beaten and cheated on and hurt to the core. I am over it and looking to live my life. You don't want to get to old age and regret having happiness. Do what you need to do to let this go and be in love again.
9 May 10
Well, I have been single for almost three years after my traumatic break up. It took me a year to get over my sadness. Six months ago, I met someone new, and I thought he could be the one. But something happened when his friend came to me and told me that he is not a good man and he separated from his wife two years ago. Nothing`s wrong actually about his failed marriage, but he hadn`t told me previously! Honesty is the key in relationship. Then after that, I am single again. I got bored actually, especially all my friends are already married with kids. But I have to be strong. To be honest sometimes I feel ashamed with my status, especially I am 33 years old!!But it would be better to be single rather than be in relationship with the wrong person or be in relationship just because of family or friend`s pressure.
9 May 10
Have you heard of the song "I'd Rather"? It's a good song but it's really not applicable in reality. Why would you stay with someone you can't get along with right? It's better to stay happy being single than spending bad times with someone. But sometimes love conquers all, it's p to you to see if those things are there to strengthen your relationship or break it up.. Good luck on your search for another one. Someone will come along surely and hope you find a better one than your ex.
9 May 10
I often miss being single, so much less to worry about. Don't date if you are afraid, instead, make friends' with everybody. If you make friends first, and be friends for a time, it is less likely to encounter someone that you do not already know well enough to be surprised by. Smarter and stronger always. ..No one ever learns all the things we need to about relationships. They are different for every one, and there is so much to learn, and each person is different. There is a song about surviving after love, it is quite good. I don't know what it is called or who it is by, I do know it is quite old though. It is always easier to forgive, and it is never a good idea to forget, when you forget you open yourself up to repeating the mistakes. Instead, learn and grow. Forgive yourself, "I am sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you" When you finally do verily forgive your self, the guilt/heartbreak should be lessened. With Appreciation.
• Czech Republic
8 May 10
Sometimes is better to be single than to be with a wrong person. Its not always easy to find a good person now a days, so as u say, its better to be carefull. I don´t know, but for me..i think that when we fall in love we start doing mistakes again. We think we are smarter, but as soon as we are in love we fall again. Thats why in the beginning we should choose carefully the partner. See all minuses and pluses. Because once u fall in love u r again in troubles if the partner is not trustfull and good. All i wish for u is u choose a good partner for ur life :)