How many times have you been in love?

@JenInTN (27514)
United States
May 8, 2010 8:00pm CST
There are those lucky few that find that one love they were meant to be with right off the bat and then there are those that are not so lucky. I think that life is full of surprises and sometimes love comes more than once. What do you think? How many times have you been in love?
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@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
9 May 10
I agree with you, love comes more then once, even though its hard to tell when or how. I fell in love probably 3 times in my life.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
9 May 10
Love is a funny thing and sometimes timing is everything. Thanks for sharing.
• United States
10 May 10
It sure is, and it teaches you that much more each new time. Doesn't it? :) You are welcome
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
9 May 10
i've stopped counting. we love a lot, not only those on the other side of the gender fence. we love our pets, our friends and, of course, every member of the family, extended to those we know and interact with to the nth degree. so, it's quite maddening to do that. but, seriously, with what you may have in mind, i've been in love only a couple of times, the last of which was more than 25 years ago...
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
9 May 10
Your right..we do love a lot. More than what we realize we are capable of sometimes. I agree that it can be maddening. When there is more than one of those loves you had 25 years ago..well...that's a maddening of many sorts..lol...Thanks for the response.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
9 May 10
I really respect and admire that. I have not been that lucky but I do have someone very special and I hope that it turns out to be as wonderful as yours.
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@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
9 May 10
well, that love for 25 years is the one i hold dear and sacred for my wife... how about you?
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
9 May 10
I have been in life twice and at the same time! I was in love with a guy who planned to get in egaged to and then married. It didn't happen! At the same time I was in love with a guy who was 18 years older then me and was a father figure to me. I didn't know that at the time and I was very confused! That relationship,if you want to call it,didn't last either! I have been in love in over 20 years and do to the fact I don't date(long story) I never will be in love agian.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
10 May 10
I hope that you realize that life is full of trial and error. We learn from that though and that's how we do better. I know that you have had a rough time but there is someone for you. It sounds like you know what went wrong before and that is part of the journey. Take care and thanks for responding.
@kooltiger (848)
• Pakistan
9 May 10
i just fell in love once in my life.. i had a few misunderstandings with myself.. but later i found that which one was true.. and i found that i was in love for once..
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
10 May 10
There are a lot of people that are disappointed their first try. I think it's important to learn from our experiences but at the same time try not to become "damaged" from it. If we allow ourselves to become hardened..we might actually push away the real deal. Thanks for responding.
• Pakistan
9 May 10
and infact i got disappointed every time..
• Philippines
10 May 10
I been in love about 4 times. It is hard to let them go. Sometimes I miss them so much. Hope I had only one love and had it forever. But life is not like that. We love and we lost but certainly we will love again.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
10 May 10
I think that we all hope to find our true love right away but I think that in a way..we have to go through a bit of turmoil and learning so we can be ready for them. Thanks for the response.
• United States
9 May 10
I love this question. I have said, "I love you" and meant, "I'm in love with you" (as opposed to the kind of love that you feel for pets or family members or friends) to two different people. I absolutely meant it, too. For both of them. However, in retrospect, I know now that the first person I said that to, well, it wasn't actual "in love" love. It was my very first romantic relationship. I was a freshman in high school, and frankly, had no idea how relationships worked. I said, "I love you," absolutely meant it at the time, but it wasn't love. It was confusion, excitement, emotional stirrings, growing up, but not love. Not really. The second person I ever said that to was when I was sixteen. She's now my wife. :)
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
10 May 10
That's a wonderful story. I think that when we are kids that emotions are amplified a bit too. It might have been love but it was different. Thanks for sharing.
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• United States
10 May 10
I agree with that. The part about young love being amplified. I remember an episode of "Sabrina, the Teenage Witch" (random reference :)) where Sabrina's boyfriend had to go through a series of tests to keep Sabrina alive, or something like that. Anyway, at the end, the only way for him to win was if his and Sabrina's love was true love. He wins, of course, but the part I remember specifically is that one of Sabrina's aunts says to the other, "Well, of course. Because at sixteen, it's always true love." I always liked that. Like, yes, it was a bit condescending, because it's saying that kids don't know enough to know that it's not really. But the flip side is yeah, when you're a kid, you absolutely know and feel, with every fiber of your being, that it's real and true and forever.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
9 May 10
i had been in love for 4 times... 3 times with my boyfriends and 1 with my high school crush... out of my 3 boyfriends, 1 becomes my hubby and i feel so fortunate and blessed to have him as my hubby... take care and have a nice day...
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
10 May 10
Hi lingli! I am so glad to hear you married your love. It really only becomes one in the end.Thanks for responding.
@HADDOWZ (1469)
9 May 10
Hello, I fall in love every morning when I get up and look in the mirror, LOL, ONLY JOKING. I dont think anyone can really tell how many times they have been in love as sometimes you maybe in love with someone and not even realise it. What I mean is, you may know someone, maybe through work or a friend, and then grow attracted to them but, not actually think you are in love with them. If you dont see this person for a period of time maybe you start to think about them and wish you could see them again, IS THIS A CASE OF LOVE. You might have guessed I am not very good at putting thoughts into words but I hope you understand what I am trying to say. Relationships can be far too complicated at times. Anyway, enough of me rambling on, have a funtastic day. Enjoy.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
10 May 10
That's the kind of love that never goes away I do understand what you mean. Thanks for responding.
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
9 May 10
As a teen I was always in love, I would just transfer it from one boy to the next. Looking back I would say I was in love with love. I would say I really loved only three times in my life.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
10 May 10
Hi savypat! Love is a beautiful dream for a teenage girl. Real love is a tricky character and sometimes timing is everything. Thanks for sharing.
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• United States
9 May 10
i mean now that i acutally kno what real love is, i can honestly say once. and luckly i was blessed enough to marry him and have two beautiful children with him.it almost feels like a dream sometimes.I can't describe how beautiful a feeling it is whe nyou find the right person for you. i could only hope that everyone has the oppertunity to experience it for themselves.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
10 May 10
That's wonderful! I am so glad to hear that you have found your one. I hope you continue to have a life like a dream. Thanks for sharing.
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@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
9 May 10
If you talk about me. i was in love once and that was really a very different but beautiful feeling. i was very honest to her and used to like even her bad things. but time showed me the result and at the end we got separated. but now when ever i try to find the same state i am unsuccessful. no matter who is there in front of me. but i am not able to get those beautiful feelings again. Dont know why.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
10 May 10
Sometimes it takes time. There is always that "one" that sets the standard but then there will be one that blows it away. Thanks for the response.
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• Philippines
9 May 10
Romantically, I have never been in love since birth. I only have crushes and it's just merely admiration. I don't know when I'll be in love but I hope when that happens it would be for the right guy, the one that I'm gonna marry someday. Nevertheless, I've been in love since birth - with my family and with friends - and of course, with God (though I admit that I'm not a perfect daughter to Him).
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
9 May 10
No one is perfect my dear. I hope you find your true love the first time around. It's tough and sometimes hit or miss..lol..I'm glad you have family, friends, and God to fall back on if things don't work out. That can make a big difference in our quest for love. Thanks for the response.
• Philippines
9 May 10
its my second time to be in love actually . i have my first boyfriend when i was in 4th year high school. being in a conservative family we only get to have a boyfriend at the age of 17. i meet him at my school .well, we're classmate actually. he courted me for about 2 years . at firs i wasn't sure if im ready for it but as time pass i manage to handle my studies and relationship at the same time. we broke up a few months ago. and found a better a man .now i know how to handle heartaches because i already deal with it in my pass relationship. im hoping for a better and brighter future with my boyfriend right now.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
9 May 10
Sometimes things don't work out the way we think they will. Sometimes I think that love is a lesson. I hope things work out for you and your new boyfriend. Thanks for sharing.
@alocure (370)
• United States
9 May 10
i been in love for truely 3 times and two out of the 3 was not very good they got boring and bossy but when i meet mt third true love i knew that person was right for me.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
10 May 10
I am glad you are happy now. Sometimes it takes a couple of bad experiences to appreciate the good. Thanks for responding.
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@naka75 (795)
• Singapore
11 May 10
I have been in love only for the very first time in my life! I'm turning 35 next month and all along I've been pessimistic thinking that it was quite impossible to meet someone I could live my life with. Almost all of my friends about the same age have become married with children. It was thus very disheartening and I doubted my own abilities. One day I talked to my supervisor and he told me straight in the face that my failures were due to my lack of courage. Indeed I was worrying so much about rejection that I did not even dare to take the first step to get to know female friends. He advised me to start from building up confidence slowly, training in my abilities because I am special in my own way. In that way, I will be able to attract like-minded people. I took his advice and true enough I came to know a nice lady in November last year. We get along so well that we want to share everything with each other. It is indeed a surprise for both of us, but it does not mean we're going to take for granted. I believe genuine efforts must be put in to foster the relationship. Wish me luck!
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
11 May 10
Oh naka! I do wish you all the best of luck and I am so happy for you that you have found someone that suits you. Sometimes it takes a while to take the plunge and I do think it might be because of our opinion of ourselves or even a lack of faith. Good for you! Best of wishes and thanks for the input.
@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
9 May 10
I am sure that love can come along many times. I think that I have been in love 4 times, but each was so different. The strange thing is that only 1 was one of my 2 husbands.
• United States
10 May 10
OMG.....you don't even want to know. I drove from OH to FL nonstop, except for the bathroom and gas, to get him the beginning of Feb. By the beginning of March, I realized that things weren't going to work out and he was gone the next day!! I was amazed that he had somewhere to go in ONE day!! BUT........he ended up somewhere in IN and then moved within the state and is now back in FL!! The man gets around and I just talked to him about some text he got!! LOL He just can't lose me! We are still friends, just will not be a relationship together. Cool that you remembered!!
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
10 May 10
Strange how things can be. I agree that each love is very different and sometimes the timing factor makes a lot of difference. Speaking of love.....is he back from Florida yet?
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
11 May 10
Sometimes things just don't work out. Movers and shakers are hard to keep in one place. It is good that you two are still friends and that no one got seriously hurt. You sound very ok with it all and that's great. Take care.
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
10 May 10
just once, and i try to said to myself that i will keep it till i die
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@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
10 May 10
i had married, sometimes i feel tired to keep it, but i know there is a lot of benefit to keep it than to let it go..
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
11 May 10
Good for you!
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
10 May 10
You will always keep it. It stays even when you don't want it to. Are you married now? If so...I hope you do keep it forever. Thanks for the response.
@shibham (16977)
• India
9 May 10
well jen. dont misunderstand me. honestly i had in love for more than 10 times but still alone or single bcoz none of them were the girl that i need or can support me as well. i have given up the search for another one. time will decide later. have a nice day.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
9 May 10
Hi shibham! It's not uncommon to have to try a few times before finding the right one. I think there is someone for everyone and sometimes timing plays a part in it too. Thanks for responding.
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
9 May 10
I think love happen only once a time in life.. and i also realize this.. but unfortunately i didn't get success in love... but people says that they been in love with many girls.. so i think it is not love.. it is a game which they play with someone emotions ..
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
9 May 10
There are a lot of people that believe in a once in a lifetime love. There are those that are lucky enough to find it but then there are those that have to spin the wheel another time or two. There are people out there that play games so we do have to guard ourselves a bit. Good luck finding your love. Thanks for responding.
• India
9 May 10
I have been in love for once..dont know what happened later!! And I have been loved by mm..6 girls(lol) till now..But i dont like them..so i have not found my true love till now..
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
9 May 10
Good luck in your quest! Thanks for the response and go easy on the girls.
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