how can you tell someone that you dont like them without hurting their feelings?
By alocure
@alocure (370)
United States
May 9, 2010 1:50pm CST
because it seems like every time i do it they get mad and say my words is to harsh i try not to say anything out of line because i dont want the whole world mad at me but if thats the case maybe i need to tone down what i say sometimes or something...so what should i say without hurting anybodies feelings?
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4 responses
@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
9 May 10
Say nothing. Reduce the meetings. Keep quite. little by little they will understand automatically
@CJscott (4187)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
13 May 10
This is one of the most difficult and important skills anyone can bother to learn. I will give a rough guide here, and now, and if you want to ask about any suggestion that appeals to you, I am more then happy to in depth.
-The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
-Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say "your wrong"
-Begin in a friendly way
-Get the other person saying "Yes, yes" immediately.(This one is powerful)
-Let the other person do a great deal of the talking
-Let the other person feel that the idea is theirs(this on is hard to master, and more then worth it)
-Be sympathetic with the other person's idea's and desires.
-Appeal to the nobler motives.
-Throw down a challenge.
-Begin with honest and sincere appreciation
-Ask questions instead of giving orders
-Let the other person save face
-Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
-Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.(another hard to master and very powerful technique.)
All these things are from How to Win Friends and Influence People, a book I read on a semi regular basis, by Dale Carnegie about human relations. I am sure something will appeal to you.
Sincerely and With Appreciation.
@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
9 May 10
yes there are some states when you dont want to hurt a person but want to give a denial.
i think there cant be any straight way for any thing when you have a negative response.
i think you can say that you are a good person. and i have not think about you in that way as you expect to me. so currently i dont have any feelings which is true. and i think as you are a good person i should not tell wrong things to you.
@Gemini68nOhio (134)
• United States
9 May 10
If they flat out ask you, then just say hey, no i don't care for you as friend, but i must respect you as a person, because you're my neighbor, teacher, boss, etc,,, If it hurts their feelings, then ask them why did they even bother to bring it up, if they didn't want to know the answer? Some people aren't stupid, they can actually tell if you care for them or not. My body language always speaks louder than my words, because it'll scream out at ya HEY, I'M ONLY TOLERATING YOU, AT THE MOMENT! If i have to talk to them, it just comes natural for me to be cordial towards them.
