What would you do if your 25 year old son wanted to date a woman twice his age?

@mssnow (9484)
United States
May 16, 2010 1:57am CST
I said son because for some reason people accept younger females with older men easier than younger men with older woman. At least from my point of view. So if your 25 year old son came home and said he was dating a woman who was 50 and he loved her. how would you feel? I have a 25 year old son and he if he came to me one day and said he wa s dating someone around my age. I would probably not like it at first. But I would accept it because he is my son and i want him to be happy. Also he has to learn from his own mistake. if it were a mistake that is.I would probably tell him I loved him and glad he was happy. How about you?? Would you or could you accept it and either way how would you handle it?
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
16 May 10
I would accept it no questions asked It is his choice, he is old enough to know, he makes his Life, he is not stupid so he would know what he is letting himself in for You can not control your Heart, if that is what he wants I would support him all the way Yes I would have a chat with him, so that I could detect he is very sure But I would support and be there for him all the way
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
16 May 10
Great answer Gabs it is his choice. But wouldnt you feel a little weird seeing some your age dating him
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
16 May 10
Well double his age she would be older then me lol Yes I suppose it would feel strange at first but that is something I would handle and deal with
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 May 10
I don't think I"d have any choice but to accept it. Mothers who try and break up their childrens' relationships tend to drive them closer together, if anything. btw I know of at least one relationship where there was a larger age difference than this (the woman was older) and they were good together. You just never know.
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
17 May 10
Yep, that is a fact. And i also know of one like this they seem very happy
• Philippines
16 May 10
hi mssnow, i think i would feel sad about it, as i would want my son to go for someone he's age or even a little older but not that old. Not to mentioned he would have to face different reactions (good or bad)from friends, relatives and the society he's living in. BUT this is just what would a mother think and feel. At the end of the day, he would have to make his own decision and live with it, be it wrong or right.
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
16 May 10
Yes its his decision and his choices
@med889 (5941)
18 May 10
To be honest then I would have been a bit shocked as I will probably not accept totally his choice, maybe he is really in love and if it is so then I might make an effort to understand him but if the woman is trying some trick to get something out of my son which some women do then I will have a serious talk with my son.
@karen1969 (1779)
17 May 10
I agree, I would be wary but at 25, he is old enough to make those kinds of decisions for himself and I would be there if it went wrong, so he could come and talk to me. When I started going out with my now husband, I was 27, separated & had 4 kids & he was 22 & had never had a girlfriend before, so his mother was very suspicious of me at first, but it all worked out fine and we have been together 13 years now.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
17 May 10
yes, iwas five years older than my last husband and had a kid. So I know what thats like