How do you deal with your problems?

@annierose (17415)
Philippines
May 17, 2010 2:44am CST
Life is a roller coaster as what they say.Sometimes we are on the top and sometime we are under.People have different ways in dealing with their problems. Some have this inner courage to face their problems and some do not have. I notice that some people always go to bar, drink liquors or take drugs just to escape from their problems. Other who cannot carry the burden just commit on suicide. On the other hand, some people run to their trusted friends or family where to confide their problems. What are your different ways in solving your problems?
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17 responses
@johnpillai (2083)
• Germany
17 May 10
When I was young i did need friends or relatives to comfort me. Now i am very lazy to explain my problems to others because others understands only half of the problems. I used to pray to God the day long. And continue my rutine life.
@annierose (17415)
• Philippines
18 May 10
God is our best friend and we can assure that if we tell Him all our problems, our burdens will be lighter.I do that too especially if I feel that I am most of the time being misunderstood by the people around me.
• Germany
18 May 10
I hope you are on the right way and ,I am also on the same way.
• United States
18 May 10
Sometimes in life you need someone to tell your problems to because you can never hold them in, one day you might snap the wrong way and may not know why, and when you finally do it will be to late you just have to find that person that will sit listen and see if they are able to help and understand you.
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Hi Annie!! How we deal our problems is a probably different thing to all of us. It really depends on how you do it and how you think about it. Having a positive outlook really helps in making things right. Just be happy and don't get it into you. Just think that there are lots of people who are going through lots and worst things than you. Just be thankful of what you have now.
@annierose (17415)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Thanks yresh. Learning how to appreciate little things around you will ease the burden. Counting your blessings is what we sometimes forget to do. I don't know why is it negative things attract people more than positive things.
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
20 May 10
Hi annie!! I'm not really sure why. I think thinking negative is a much easier to do. Sometimes doing so is a defense mechanism for most people.They just don't like getting disappointed.thinking positive gives them vulnerability and they are very worried that they might fail.
@annierose (17415)
• Philippines
21 May 10
I also have this attitude sometimes. The disadvantage of thinking too much positive thing sometimes is that once you failed with what you are expecting, it hurts so much.Whenever I took up an exam, I think that I can pass it,yet I do not expect much so to be ready whatever result may come.
@veejay19 (3592)
• India
18 May 10
I have been through many problems in my life and have faced them squarely and bravely. I have never run away but tried to find a solution for them. If i could not then i have accepted them as my fate and carried on as though nothing has happened. I have learnt from my mistakes and tried my best not to repeat. My demeanor is always calm whatever the circumstance or situation in my life. The strength and will power has come from the spiritual disciplines which i have been doing for the past several years.I am never stressed nor do i ever despair but always take things positively.
@annierose (17415)
• Philippines
19 May 10
You speak so intelligently. If you are male, I can say that you are a man of experienced. There are times that no matter how much we want to change a certain even, we cannot do it, and I guess it is really our fate. I believe so that problems makes us a stronger individual. In addition to that, it gives us lessons in life that we may not forget.
@veejay19 (3592)
• India
19 May 10
Yes annierose, i am a man.
@rhodalyn (251)
• Philippines
17 May 10
most of the time i just laugh on them..i make myself busy for me to forget them..hanging out with my friends..then when im feeling much better,i start to settle things..
@annierose (17415)
• Philippines
17 May 10
Filipinos are optimistic people. They still look at the brighter side of life despite the difficulties that comes along. No matter how heavy the problem is, they still can afford to give a smile.
18 May 10
hahah, yeah i have to agree; being a Filipino myself we always tend to laugh about our problems. it would be awesome i other people around the world were also like that, noh? :)
@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
18 May 10
Hi Annierose. For every problem there is a solution and no problem carries without a solution indeed. But question is whether one understands the nature of issue and its intensity. Sometimes problems are minor and can be solved lonely whereas even major problems can be tackled wisely. I sometimes resolve the issues, particularly at my workplace helding discussions with colleagues reliable enough to give sincere opinion :) Sometimes with Boss (if he is in good mood lolz. Likewise trust in GOD makes every problem easy. Thanks
@annierose (17415)
• Philippines
19 May 10
If there is a problem with a certain person,it is the best way to make a calm conversation with that person. That way, it will make it easier for understanding to take place. When I feel that a problem is too hard for me to carry, I just pray it to God and let Him manage it. I trust Him and I know He will never leave me, just same for you and for everyone else.
• Philippines
18 May 10
if i have a problem, i really go insane..but it depends on what the problem is..about love, nah i go gaga over it..always crying, not eating, and most of all think of the possible ways how to be with my guy again..crazy! hehe if about money, i also go insane, thinking of ways how to earn it..about school,, hehe i always laugh with my failing grades..the way we handle our problems depends on how big our problem is.. ;)
@annierose (17415)
• Philippines
19 May 10
Well, I think your being insane is not that serious or else you might not be here anymore. I love how you are able so smile even you have a problem. When it comes to people, once they got some problems especially the one dealing with love, they almost want to end their life.
• China
18 May 10
when i face a problem. firstly i will clam myself down, and think about all the problems, you know, most of the time they are not difficult to deal with, if you want you can manage them propely. if they are really big problems, and you can not settled them, just wait,one day they will left you.
@annierose (17415)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Having the logic to solve problems will make you solve them right away. Well, while some problems are easy to deal with, some are not. A person really needs someone to be strong when that time comes. Maybe you are still young to understand that but I believe someday will come that you will understand what I am trying to say.
• United States
17 May 10
I am a big believer that things work themselves out. For me, I try to stay positive and focus on the things in my life that are right. A couple of years ago when my now ex-husband and I separated, I had nothing - my friends and family deserted me (for a time) and I had no means with which to live. During that time I learned that no matter what happens, I always have me. I am the one constant in my life and as long as I trust myself to get through whatever is going on, things will be alright.
@annierose (17415)
• Philippines
18 May 10
I am glad that you were able to overcome your problem. Everyone around us may at one point walk out on our lives, but one thing is for sure, God always walk in while everybody walks out. His love for us in unconditional. I admire you for having the strength to stand on your own.
@med889 (5958)
17 May 10
When I am in some problem then first of all I do not think about the solutions which is common for many people so I just think of the problem and the source of the problem and I try to get deep in that to be able to overcome it successfully and I also succeed in doing that.
@annierose (17415)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Trying to find out what is the root of the problems we are facing is one good way to keep the same problem coming back to us. Sometimes, it is just a matter of learning from our past mistakes. Once we find out what cause us that problem, we will now find ways on how to avoid it by not doing things we had done before.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
17 May 10
I try tp deal with life's problems as calmly and rationally as i can. Any other effort seems futile. Dealing with a crisis can be aq burden. The ways we approach our provlems says alot about us to others.
@annierose (17415)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Dealing with our problems in calm way and open mind is better. We must look at problems as challenge to improve more of ourselves. Instead of thinking of it as a burden, take it as a challenge. The word "challenge" suggest positive meaning rather than "burden".
@megamatt (14332)
• United States
17 May 10
I really just take things one step at a time, one day at a time. If I try and tackle everything all at once, that is when I start to get burned out and start to feel depress. Life can be difficult sometimes. However, the way that you try and manage it should not be difficult. There are just some times where a deep breath and a step back is all that is needed to take care of the most difficult parts of life. Then, I just focus on what is positive in my life. There has to be something right that it is going on, even though the problems negate that sometimes. After all, in the end, things could be worse. That is a positive a lot of the times, even though it is a rather twisted one from time to time. Just got to really think what is going right in life. Then that gives me strength to deal with whats going wrong more times often than not.
@annierose (17415)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Problems and difficulties are the shadows of life. We cannot live our life with pure happiness. There will always be problems to make us a stronger person. Staying positive no matter what your problems is, is a good sign that you are a mature and strong person.Not every person can do that thing especially those persons who are very weak in spirit.
@jamed28 (1910)
• Philippines
17 May 10
As my mother usually says, problems are given to us because we have enough strength to face it. Just always face it. Because if you don't face it sooner or later you'll face it, and believe me when you face it late, it is much worse.
@annierose (17415)
• Philippines
18 May 10
That is indeed true. If you can find solutions to your problems right away, then do it. The sooner, the better. For example, if a person feels something bad about his body, he must not ignore it. He must talk about it with his family, friends or with the doctor.If he do ignore it, it might cause him even more trouble.
• China
17 May 10
When i face trouble or face any problem then i just think how can i solve it. I try to find out the clue to solve the question. And i think what i had get at past and be happy. I also think about my parents who really loves me. Then why i will destroy my life only for some time. Because problem will not stay for forever.
@annierose (17415)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Problems come and go. It will not be given to us if we cannot handle it. You have a good view point. Thinking of the people who loves us will give us courage to face any problem that comes our way.
@arabian (41)
• Indonesia
17 May 10
ithink with grateful when we are above and be patient while we are under
@annierose (17415)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Thanks Arabian. Can you explain more of your response so it will be give better understanding for the readers? Happy mylotting!
@weasel81 (2502)
• Australia
17 May 10
when everything hit the fan bout a month ago with me, i ended up lunging the horse and thinking allowed. horse riding is my escape when things go wrong, it gives me great pleasure.
@annierose (17415)
• Philippines
18 May 10
That is good that you know how to deal with your problems. When my heart is so much troubled, I keep myself busy so to forget what is causing me heartaches. Chatting with friends, playing musical instruments and meeting new people are some ways to cope up with our problems.
@verptc (247)
• Philippines
17 May 10
I always stay on top of any problem that is facing me. I have to analyze what is the main cause and put a solution to the nearest one. I have to ponder to it over and over again until I have succeeded finding the solution. I never used to run away from the problem by drowning myself with liquors but instead advice from matured and well respected elders is what I search for. Never give up to any problem whatsoever If I failed I try again for the better one.Search for any means until all is being settled.
• Philippines
18 May 10
if i have a problem, i really go insane..but it depends on what the problem is..about love, nah i go gaga over it..always crying, not eating, and most of all think of the possible ways how to be with my guy again..crazy! hehe if about money, i also go insane, thinking of ways how to earn it..about school,, hehe i always laugh with my failing grades..the way we handle our problems depends on how big our problem is.. ;)