Losing Friends or Gaining Friends
May 20, 2010 2:15pm CST
There is a stark difference between the two. I believe that when one gets into a relationship they lose friends but if one is not going to marry that girl or guy they are going to end up losing them as a friend in the end too. I had a friend who quoted me as having the most ideal break up, because me and my ex- were still friends. I hear my friends words resonating in my ears as last night my ex, whom I hang out a lot with saying she deserves more than being my friend. So I guess it's kind of like a friendship break up. I lost all my old friends in college because of her and today I'm going to see all of them again at a party. So, those are the good times and the bad times. I'll make sure not to wash my problems away with alcohol, as that will lead to me crawling up and shriveling up from all the alcohol consumption. It is not a pretty site. =P
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20 May 10
It's natural I guess. Being in an intimate relationship means devoting a lot of your free time to that one person. You are bound to drift away form other people you also enjoyed being around in some capacity. Sometimes it's hard to stay in tough. Feelings get hurt, people decide it may be better to move on. In some ways, technology has made it easier stay in tough with friends. But communicating through a Facebook wall still doesn't replace just hanging out.
20 May 10
I think everyone is different... I lost a lot of friends, and it did happen when I got into a serious relationship with someone, but it was not for that reason... it was basically because I wanted to grow up, and they wanted to stay the same etc... My ex and I were also best friends for 3 years after we split up, and now I can't stand him and I pretty much think he feels the same way... the reason being is because he has found new love, and he has dropped everyone, I'm not sure if this is something that he wanted to do or was made to do, but the fact is it has happened, and it is very sad because he was a true friend and sometimes i miss just being able to talk to him, and maybe he feels the same way. I don't know what causes people to stop being friends with those good friends when they have a new love in their life... I didn't stop being his friend when I got in a new relationship, I always thought it was down to not having enough time to spend with everyone that is important (friends and lovers), but now living through this experience, I am not sure anymore :( I hope that your renunion goes well for you though, and enjoy it... :)