How to discipline a child without shouting?

May 22, 2010 1:14pm CST
Hey guys can you give me some tips on how to discipline a 4 year old child (boy) without shouting. I have a 4 year old son he is my first baby, and first grand child. I used to work when he was 8 months old. My mother-in-law took care of him when I'm not around. I decided to resigned last year coz I noticed that he became a naughty boy.
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• Philippines
29 Jun 10
disciplining a child, no matter what age, is the most challenging when it comes to motherhood. not all techniques will work but you can try different ones and see which works best for you. i have 3 kids that are all boys, aged 13, 10 & 6. so you can just imagine it's a complete madhouse at home and i really get pushed to my limits. occasionally, i still shout at them because, let's admit it, we may be mothers...but we're only human too. we can only try our best not to. to avoid shouting, it's best to leave the room first and calm yourself. breathe and tell yourself what to do, that is, that you will face your child and be firm. give him a punishment like standing in the corner or face the wall for 5-10 minutes. note that he probably won't obey you for awhile. if he keeps leaving, just put him back regardless how many times you go back and forth until he stays and completes the "time out". as much as you think you're observing him, note that he's also doing the same. he's testing out your patience and checking if he can get away with it. if he finds out you're serious enough to keep imposing the punishment, your child will eventually listen to you. hope this helps and good luck :)
29 Jun 10
Thanks for your advice. I am starting imposing punishment when he doesn't obey me. Happy lotting.
@johnpillai (2083)
• Germany
26 May 10
That is a very big process. I am sure shouting will not work any how. It will spoil the situation. Set simple rules. Small children like to follow rules. You could have ask How to Guid my child. There is a very big difference in between guidence and discipline. If you guid your child in every situation, you need not to discipline him. I hope you can get some information in my website named 'our children' in my profile.
27 May 10
I read your blog and I learned from it. Its very informative. Thanks.
@ellie333 (21029)
22 May 10
Welcome to myLot Micaruss. Every child is different and even the best behaved can drive you to the point where you want to shout at them. I have a six year old son and he can be a handful at times and what I try to do is to take a deep breath before talking to him very calmly and saying if he does that again I will put him on the naughty step (recommended time on step one minute per year of age so for your lad it would be 4 minutes to calm down) At first they will cary on the tantrum the when they realise you mean business will sit quiet until they can come off. I will then ask them if they know why they were on the step and if not explain because of your behavioir etc. As my son is slightly older and goes out to play I will count to three for him to stop doing something or behaving or shouting at me whatever the issue is and if he hasn't stopped by then I will stop him from playing from then and the following say. He soon stops and says sorry. Good luck. Th more noise and tantruming my son makes the more I ignore until he calm then I will talk to him. I have found this works. Welcome to the Lot. Huggles Ellie :D
23 May 10
Thanks for your advice. I hope it will work.
• India
25 May 10
By being a child. Only then you will understand a child. No kidding, its the most difficult task to do for the grown ups.
@tolted (191)
22 May 10
hi micaruss, i will also be interested in knowing this especially for younger children. I have a 7 months old now so will need tips. I hope some experienced people response. Cheers!