How are you going to tell your bestfriend that she has a really bad body odor?

Philippines
May 25, 2010 4:12am CST
Without hurting her feelings or humiliating her, how would you tell your best friend that she smells so bad? Of course I dont have any bad intention at all, I just don't want her to know that because it's really embarassing when people around her talk about her because of that and no one dared to tell her.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
25 May 10
Just tell her the same way you told us. If you can tell a bunch of total strangers about a problem your best friend has then you can tell her. You want the best for her...why would you NOT tell her???
• Philippines
26 May 10
I don't understand myself what's making it difficult to tell her. I think she already know, what I want to know is why the smell don't go away. I was thinking if it was some medical condition that's bothering her. Thanks for responding
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
26 May 10
Your comment to my response prodded my memory a bit. Some Middle Eastern and other folk smell totally rank to me. They must be aware of it and they must be used to it...probably the whole family smells that way. It's quite possible that your friend uses a deodorant but it is less powerful than the herbs and spices and other foods that make up her diet. The oils and other fluids that create the horrid smell are probably coming out through all the pores in her skin so it's a part of her. For the smell to go away she will probably need to change her diet.
@amelly (1554)
• Malaysia
25 May 10
i got one gal friend..she smell so bad only when it is too hot..ya know when people started to sweat and the odor will be worst..i'm not sure how to tell her..i think she should ask her parents about herself..ya know if there is similar issue to her aboutme...my mum will be the first one to tell me and i would not feel embarrased rather than my friend ask me to wear a deodorant or shower more..it's actually hard to tell her
@amelly (1554)
• Malaysia
26 May 10
yes..even now she is kinda far from me and she already entered university..hopefully the guys won't give her a hard time..
• Philippines
26 May 10
Yes, it's really hard to tell her straight to her face.
@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
25 May 10
I just tell them in private. If its your friend, then they would want you to tell them, before other people smell it. You just don't do it in public for everyone to know their business.
• Philippines
26 May 10
I think that sometimes she already had the hint, I just don't know if it's a medical problem or what. She just does not want to share. Thanks for sharing.
• United States
26 May 10
Explain that you want to help her, because that's what friends do. If you had a problem like that you would want her to help you. In order to help she needs to talk with you about what the possible problem could be.
@BART78 (2927)
• Canada
25 May 10
how about trying a reverse psycology approache, like asking her/him you smell bad and do you need to wear perfume or cosmetics, try it will work without hurting her feelings
• Philippines
26 May 10
Hi Bart! I think I have done that, nothing has changed with the way she smells. Thank you for sharing =)
@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
26 May 10
I will just talk to her one on one and tell her that she smells bad..we are very frank with each other so it's not that difficult. Good thing my best friend doesn't smell bad. You should just talk to her in private about it..it's for her own good anyway..
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
15 Jun 10
I will talk to her/ him privately. Then tell the person that Ive been noticing that her deodorant may had let her/ him down. Telling her that I was once like that.. and it embarrassed me. Now, Iam telling her the same thing for her/ him not to be talked about.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
25 May 10
I suggest taking her swimming. In the changing room saying I have a really great deodorant and that I just bought. It was a buy one get one free so I could say to her here you are. Then I could say that she smells so delightful that everyone at work is going to notice. Every day I could check that she is wearing the deodorant. If she didn't wear it I could say to her it is hot weather and it is horrible to feel sticky so it is best to wear this special looking deodorant to avoid having body odor.
@ankit_620 (496)
• India
25 May 10
try just approaching her casually without any hesitation just talk to her about it and thats it.You know if she is really your best friend she really mind hearing that but make sure you both are alone when you tell her that. It is not that she is having some unique problem so she will get embarassed about it, it is just a common problem and there is no big deal. Just do it.
• Philippines
25 May 10
If you don't wanna embrass her then tell her in private. You can say that she smells a little off then make her smell herself. If it didn't work then just let her be. Someone is bound to smell it and react. You just need to sit tight and relax. You won't be involved. :)