Looks vs. Personality

United States
May 30, 2010 11:19pm CST
How important is looks to you? How important is personality to you? When it comes down to it what do you think is more important looks or personality? The initial attraction to another person usually stems from their looks. It's not until after you talk and get to know someone that you discover the kind of personality they have. Would you rather be with someone with a great personality or great looks, if you had to choose one. Would you be with someone with the best personality but the worst looks or best looks and the worst personality? =)
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25 responses
• United States
31 May 10
I think the more you enjoy the personality of another person, the better looking they become to you. Its like the old saying, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" i think that has a lot of truth to it. People may be attracted to looks at first but its the personality that will determine everything for the long haul.
@ohiocy (215)
• Malaysia
1 Jun 10
For me I would choose personality with a sip of looks.. Lol .. it's just like ordering drinks. But it's true, that's what I will go for because personality rocks on forever whereas looks is just momentary. And darn your option giving is so cruel..
@yumanal (143)
• China
1 Jun 10
Both looks and personality is important,a man with good personality always has good look.
• Indonesia
1 Jun 10
Hmmm...Hard to choose, coz no matter you think personality comes best in a person, but still. People nowadays likes to judge someone by their looks. For job interview, if you had a pretty face, it'll be easier for you to get the job. I'm not saying that ugly people won't get a chance, but it will be better if we keep pay attention to our looks. It doesn't hurt to be more attractive, right ?
@careguarden (5674)
• Philippines
1 Jun 10
I would rather choose with someone who has great personality rather than we looks because I prefer to have a good company with a good mind. It's the same thing like inner beauty. When I am sad or in trouble I often need a good heart and mind to listen and help me solve with my problems. I think the only way that good looks can be useful is when you have it with your friends... they will surely envy you having someone who has that admiring looks.
@emsxxx (75)
• Indonesia
1 Jun 10
add: in business point of view, buying look is buying an assets with exponentially decreasing value (people gets old and ugly) and buying personality is an asset that grows with time (price appreciation), people become wiser and mature and learn more as they gets older ^^
@emsxxx (75)
• Indonesia
1 Jun 10
starts with look, continue with personality in the long term, find someone with personality, and as for look, you'll just need one thing that you like from him/her (nice hair, eyes, complexion, etc) just one will do... ^^
@evepin (723)
• Philippines
1 Jun 10
i must admit that looks will get my interest, but personality is more important for my interest to be sustained. there are some people with good looks but are very shallow, no substance, or worse, narcissistic. cheers and happy myLotting!
• Philippines
31 May 10
...looks count, but personality is more important. Personality is something that would define you as a person. I would rather be with someone with a great personality and can carry a nice conversation than someone beautiful who talk nonsense...
@iamster (123)
• Philippines
31 May 10
For me what is important is the personality rather than the looks. Because sometimes how much good looking a person is if he/she can't handle himself/herself well he/she will just doesn't look good as well. Personality carries a person appearance. I'd rather be with the person with the best personality rather than being with the best look. Because with the best personality for sure there is no dull moment and we can go a long way.
@joepat (129)
• Philippines
31 May 10
I used to work in a 5-star hotel as personnel and recruitment officer. Of course, in our business we are quite particular with looks and personality - traits and assets that our front-of-the-house employees must have. Most often, we are confronted with your question, "which is better, looks or personality"? In my honest opinion and from experience, we initially recruit applicants with good looks. These recruits are then made to undergo personality test and a series of interviews. At the end of the day when all factors considered equal, the applicant/s with the pleasing personality gets the job. What then is "pleasing personality"? It is the totality of a person's character that makes him/her stand out from among others. One may have a great looking face but has an attitude problem. Or one may not be that good looking but he/she exudes a pleasing and happy disposition. Remember we are in the hospitality industry, so employees who are grouchy and temperamental have no place in guest-contact positions. As a professor in hotel and restaurant management, I always tell and remind my students that there isn't an ugly person, it is how one portray his/her personality as pleasing, smiling and happy as possible towards the guest.
@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
31 May 10
well It depends on person to person, How it feels when u meet somebody aur come across somebody.
• India
31 May 10
Hi eddyspaghetti, Looks is important but One's personality is more important likewise his/her character,discipline,honesty and so on.Its only after when is clean and positive only then comes the looks.Hence the person in question first has to have very good personality only then it matters whether his looks is bad or good. Looks are always and can be made over but one cannot just change his/her personality in a matter of time,even if one do so,it won't be sustainable in the long run,somewhere or in some circumstance the blood will spill over,and there one cannot hide it,the truth will come-out. At the end its only one's character,clean image,positive-personality which matters or count over his/her looks. looks is not a permanent feature its always in the process of volatility.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
31 May 10
I vote for personality above looks any time. Anyone can be attractive and beautiful. Looks are not everything. Your appearance is what people see from you on the outside. They cannot see deep into your psche and your soul and your heart. Your personality allows more of you to shine through. You can learn more of how a person truly feels through their personality. I would rather not have looks if it meant having a great personaality instead.
31 May 10
I think looks are very important for first impressions. Only when a person likes the looks of someone else, he or she will wish to know the other person more better. Looks are very important in a relationship, because the husband/wife will feel more liking feeling for the other partner only if he/she is average looking at least, especially as they might have to see each other's faces for an entire lifetime. Looks are what attract the partners to each other in the first place. The entire society also gives much importance to appearances, and the world will treat a handsome/beautiful person more better than an ugly one.
• Philippines
31 May 10
For me, both is important. I've met girls who are very gorgeous yet they don't have a pleasing personality. It's quite a turn off when it comes to people like that. I also go for looks cuz It's true to everyone. Looks is important as much as personality.
• China
31 May 10
its very important for me that person looks but personality also important for me if person looks great but when speak he dont know how to speak then neaning this kind of person if one time looks is ok but u have personality that's my way of thinking
• Philippines
31 May 10
It is the personality which matter most since beauty fades when one become old so what is left is the inner beauty. When still young and immature I tend to gives more importance to beauty and all pretty things attract me. Even in finding a friend or someone it takes me a lot of focus to find them though after spending a lot of time i get to know their real attitude so i lay low and find the more meaningful company without a lot of pretension or disguises. I think I am fed up of artificial behavior though sometimes i am superficial but i not always rely on t except when I like to be kind all the time though I never feel it. So far I hate hypocrites and those who are back fighter those who pretend to be good but when you are around but laugh or duly criticize when I am not around.
• China
31 May 10
its very important for me that person looks but personality also important for me if person looks great but when speak he dont know how to speak then neaning this kind of person if one time looks is ok but u have personality that's my way of thinking
@srganesh (6350)
• India
31 May 10
First impression is the best impression.But great looks don't assure good personality.For me,I believe in good looks but don't select them in a function or a social gathering where they dress up for the occasion.Just in an ordinary day,how they looks,counts.I like to be with good personality alone even if they can't dress up with good looks.