do you set standards in finding the right one?
June 7, 2010 1:03am CST
I dont set standards because as long as we love and understand each other then thats it...how about you?is it really needed to set standards to find the right one?
12 Jun 10
Likewise. It is hard to set standards because most often, if you set some standards or rules in finding the right one, it does not come. Thus, we end up waiting for the person who does not exist. Besides that, love cannot be chased. It freely comes and finds you. Moreover, the person you desire sometimes is not the person you end up with.
10 Jun 10
unfortunately, i was not able to set the standards since when i got pregnant for the first time, i had a quite good option however i did not use them well so i ended up with a poor but very good guy. still not very satisfied with him since nobody is perfect even a poor guy is not perfect. tho he loves me and my kids very much and i think that's what matters to me most.
8 Jun 10
When I was single, I did set some standards. Some of them: God-fearing, have to be of the same belief/religion as I am, good sense of humor, has a goal in life, and lastly, a musician. And I had reasons for these. - God-fearing - well, so that he doesnt do some crazy, scary stuff =) - Same belief/religion - My parents were of different religions and that was tough on me. If you have the same beliefs, you more or less have a common ground in terms of values, objectives, etc. AND I dont want to raise confused kids =) - Good sense of humor - no need to explain - Goal in life - we all need one. I needed someone who can lead a family - Musician - because I am too! Me and my husband play together in church. It's good to have something in common. In general, I would say that it depends on you if you want to set standards. I've seen some people who didn't set standards and they are happy. But I also know of some people who DID set some standards and they are happIER. In all honesty, you need more than love and understanding. It can be a driving force to keep you together as a couple but there is a lot more.
7 Jun 10
it is not like that. love is the feeling that keep you nearer to some one. it is to be felt from the heart. keeping a standard and love according to it is not possible in my opinion.if you are finding that she should be better for by keeping any standard and love her , it wont be real love and remember that love is not a thing like vegetable which can be selected according to some standards. the first standard to be a lover is to have a lovable and understanding personality which cannot be measured.it will vary from person to person according to their thinking
7 Jun 10
I do have my own set of standards but i dont try to impose all of them all at once. I mean theres no such thing as finding the perfect one but hey at least one or two of those characteristics will be fine with me.The rest will be manageable,for as long as we will get along pretty cool and we will be able to help each other to become better persons then im willing to take that step and trying my luck with that person.And one more thing i dont put up too much high expectations on people too hehe it ruins everything believe me