How do you deal with rude people?

Philippines
June 9, 2010 12:45am CST
Everyday, we are surrounded my tons of rude people... So sad to say that... :( but it's true. The question is, how do you deal with them? Will you also be rude when people are rude to you, or will you do the opposite and treat them in kindness. When I'm in no good mood and your rude to me, I'll me ruder (haha, is there such a term...) but that's a rare occasion. Often times I shrug my shoulder and just brush off that rude person as if that person doesn't even exist. I know there is always a reason for being rude, and when you think of it that way, you may even do the opposite and treat them in kindness...
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20 responses
• India
9 Jun 10
thats real one can,t do anything with these peoples but only we have to been patiance
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• Mexico
10 Jun 10
Hi bharatreddy: I agree with you. We have to be patience with these people instead of increasing the conflict level. We don't know how many problems a person can have so that could be the reason why he/ she is acting in an agressive way. Thanks for asking us this question. Have a nice day. ALVARO.
• Romania
9 Jun 10
Best way to deal with such people is to just ignore them...pretend that theyr not there! That way both you and them save a tone of energy and nerves!
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
That's true! Our energy should be used to something productive than dealing with these kinds of people. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. :)
• United Kingdom
9 Jun 10
The plain and simple truth is, I don't have any time for rude people and those that take pleasure in belittling others! They obviously have something going on in their own lives that makes them like this and it's something they have to sort out for themselves. I guess I kind of ignore these people that are rude for no obvious reason! By ignoring them there's no chance of getting into any serious conflict. Still, you are not always lucky like this and the perpertrator will continue to harrass you and bother you and become really irritating! I guess it's then that I may give the person a piece of my mind and put them in their place! Generally I'm a quiet natured person and I don't like being rude to others and I certainly don't like hurting others in any way. Sadly, the world is full of different characters and I suppose this is a good thing but not all characters are nice! Andrew
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
Hi Andrew. It's true that something might be going on in their lives that makes some people rude and it's just best to simply ignore them. Thanks for sharing. :)
@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
9 Jun 10
Hi santosmarichris! I could have laughed or screamed in return. I could have been 'ruder' or be the opposite. When you are in no good mood you'll be no good too. When you know why they tend to be rude you are more able to bear and shrug it off your shoulder. When I deal with rude and angry people, I use my heart more than my brain. And I certainly have a choice regarding the attitude I would embrace. Whether I walk away or snap at in return it doesn't make me less of the person I am. Thanks for the post!
@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
9 Jun 10
@evepin (723)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
i just dont mind them because i dont want to stoop to their level. however, there are times when i do feel assertive and talk to them that in a way puts them in their place. but usually, even when i am in a bad mood, i dont bite back. it's their problem to be rude so i dont want it to be my problem. cheers!
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
You have a very nice perspectve. It's always good to know that there are people who are willing to put this rude people in the right place. Thanks for sharing1 :)
@keeponit (45)
• China
11 Jun 10
Above all , i wish i would never meet with such rude people in my lifetime.If i have to deal with those people ,definitely i would ignore them .Picture this, if you've been bitten by a dog then what should you do, bite it in turn?you would reply no,so that is the answer.
• Mexico
10 Jun 10
Hi santos mari chris: In general i try to speak in a peaceful ton in front of a person that is being rude to me but if his behaviour it's really rude I think I'll ask this person to not talk to me that way or I won't talk to him/her. That in the case that this person is not an authority. I think a good technique is to ignore the agressivity because if you answer in the same way it can be worst. Thanks for asking us this question. Have a nice day. ALVARO.
• United States
10 Jun 10
I try to avoid a rude person as much as possible. There are so many negative people in this world that I want to keep a positive attitude. I don't need these kind of people.
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
I run from them! LOL! Well, honestly, that is one situation I don't want to happen to me. Meeting rude people. Talking to insensitive people. My initial reaction would be to be silent and not mind them at all. Silence, for me, is the best weapon. Because if we fight back, they will retaliate and then begin the never ending exchanges of hurtful words and actions.
@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
10 Jun 10
santosmarichris, If they are online, I will just think of them to be another one of those television channels that I had selected wrongly and would not hesitate to move along to another channel. In real life, the simplest will be having that "do I know you" attitude and walk away than stay for a session. I still prefer to have my saunas in a more quiet and private place.
@icegermany (2524)
• India
10 Jun 10
i know there are a lot of rude people in and around, i just see the person how he is and behave accordingly. if the person is fine and not rude even i behave the same way and it really goes on well but if i find that the person is rude i think i will speak to him very rare and just try to complete the task or job what i have and then move from there, yes even there are people who are strict but not rude here also i manage to complete my work and have a healthy talk and i think that is all what we want and with the people who are joyfull i think we can have a good friendship and take a break from all this strict behaviour and share talks and spend a little funny time.
@bettydeng5 (1709)
• China
10 Jun 10
I found many people with tons of rude when speaking, I don't like them, however when they treated me in rude, I don't treat them in kindness, because the kindness isn't useful for them.
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
if it's the first time i was treated rudely by that person, i'll just shrug it off. but on the second time, i will definitely act more rude. you just don't test anybody's patience, because there are bad days too.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
9 Jun 10
Rude people think they can bully you and have power and control over you. The best way to deal with someone rude is to treat them in the opposite way they are treating you.
@clouds0327 (1390)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
well, this is like so normal forme. People tend to look down on you when they feel they can't benefit from you. There's a lot of rude people around me... They make me strive more to become successful and just dont mind them... I dont want to think they exist and make them regret what they are doing to me..
@Alan70pct (173)
• China
9 Jun 10
I will be ruder to him,then tell him,"hey,u are now experience the feeling other ppl have experienced from u."If he don't make a change ,I will treat him as gas later on.
• China
9 Jun 10
Rude people has problem in there tune. well it depends on the situation and what rude person tell me. If he doesn't say anything wrong then i am very kindness to them as i know they have a problem in there tune. But if they say something wrong then i reply them very rudely.
• China
9 Jun 10
Firstly,I don't agree that we should treat those who behave rudely as they do. Disgust should't be the reason for us to behave rudely like them.If we does,then what's the difference between ourselves? I will not preach to them ,because I think it is a totally waste of time,rudeness has almost become their habit.If they want to correct ,they would have already done it formerly.But I will hehave more kindly and gracefuly in front of them.I want they can see what is the real civilization is.I think it can make them feel ashamed to some extent.But if my behaviour does not take any effect at all, I won't regret my deed,because I have shown my attitude and manner to them and made my efforts.Whether they would change or nor is just another cup of tea.
@qianyun6 (2069)
• China
9 Jun 10
I remember there was a similar discussion here, and I keep my idea. Try to forgive him/her if only one or two times, everyone has the time he/she can't control him/herself. But if someone always be rude, I'll keep away from him/her. Don't argue with the rude people, that is a waste of time and emotion.
@ada8may21 (2419)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
That is the reality in our society, others did not notice that they are being rude to the other people. What I am doing is just shrug my shoulder with them and ignore them as if they did not exist just like you. But if I could no longer stand with it, I will also do the same thing, I will be rude to them as well but I will make sure that I will not create any commotion in the group that would lead me to degrading my dignity.