how much do you value yourself?

June 12, 2010 5:49am CST
It's sad sometimes, to think there are so many women out there who view themselves from the eyes of others. They fail to see the real them, how special they are just because they exist. They refuse to give themselves the value they deserve thinking, they are not worth it. How about you? How much do you value yourself? How much do you value the women in your life? Do you appreciate them for who they are or criticize them for what they are not? Are we suppose to degrade ourselves just because other people believe we are less than who we really are? Is it wrong to love yourself first before you reach out to love others?
8 responses
• Philippines
13 Jun 10
I value myself that i do not like other to hurt me physically even verbally. I hate those who betray me and say bad things in my back. I better to have enemy who treat me fair than betray me in unfair manner. I value not only myself but also my loved ones if others hurt them then expect me to be their enemy too. If ever my loved ones have their own mistakes then i would not side with them i only side those who been unfairly judged.
22 Jun 10
thanks for your comment neelianoscet ^^ it is important that we value ourselves and that we demand respect but so shold we give to others. more power to you!
@shibily88 (205)
• India
13 Jun 10
your thoughts are real. i valued my life more, as a human. in my life, women having some values based on the relationships. the degradation results spoils the self confidence. i think right, love myself and try to love others. thanks...........
22 Jun 10
yes shibily88...everything always comes from within. you have to find it and share it. you are God's wonderful creation. celebrate it and they will celebrate with you!!
• Philippines
12 Jun 10
hello.. yes you are right..i've seen a lot of women who did not value themselves.. this is suck for me.. how can you give respect to others if you dont respect yourself and how can you give love if you dont love yourself at all.. people value and respect you the way you are to your self.. how about you women here in mylot?
22 Jun 10
precisely my point..and since there are a lot out there who deosn't know how valuable they are we need to let them know. thanks for your comment jessicaryan18 ^^ have a blessed day!
@sublime03 (1811)
• Philippines
12 Jun 10
We should all value ourselves before anything else. It is important that we do not forget ourselves. I for one, lost myself back then and only realized that I had to take care of myself when I was so down and out. It is very important to take care of ourself because only we can do it and no one else.
22 Jun 10
that is very true. when you feel like all else is lost, we have to remember there is still US...the self and that is more than enough reason to go on. thanks for the comment sublime03
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
12 Jun 10
You have to have value for yourself. Everyone is worthy and deserving of what life has to offer. If you don't vaue yourself, how can you expect others to do so? We can be overly critical of ourselves. We can be our own worst enemy at times. We have to have faith and self confidence. Without it, we lose our drive and stamina and determination. Self value is a motivator. Believe it or not!
12 Jun 10
thanks for your response sender621. you couldn't have said it any better! goodluck!
• United States
12 Jun 10
I am one who tends to love others more than myself. I had to work on this after I had my surgery. I lost a lot of weight and feel really good. I am in love with a man who I know does not deserve me but I don't want to live without him. My daughter is doing good right now. But over all she disrespects me all the time. It is up to the woman to love herself. It can be hard to do but it is much needed.
12 Jun 10
you are so right giftsandbagscom. it is our duty to ourselves and respect ourselves. i am sad about your daughter but i'm sure whatever her issues are she'll resolve it in time. just continue to be positive. the more you love yourselves, the more love you can give to others and they will see that in you and love you too.goodluck!!
@juggerogre (1659)
• Philippines
12 Jun 10
I love my girlfriend the way she is. I don't criticize her for something she is not. I accept who she is and who she is not. I don't think we should believe everything that other people are saying. The only person that only know who we really are is ourselves.
12 Jun 10
good for you juggerogre...and i am very pleased to know that there are men out there who respects women and acepts them for who they truly are ^^
@cip116 (1011)
• Romania
12 Jun 10
All people have value that can not calculated Small children should be taught that they are Unique in the world I disagree with parents of children who say bad words They say they have "right" The first lesson of psychiatry says something very simple When a child says something stupid to be answered -You said something stupid If you say that child -You are a fool (in his mind ,child or adult,this is repeated many times and after a while he thinks that is a fool)
12 Jun 10
i agree with you cip116..it should start with children, we must teach them how to value themselves but if some of us were unfortunate to have parents who are not very supportive, we can make it an effort to discover ourselves and make a change for the better. thanks for your opinion. more ppower!