How to prevent others from saying me bad words as a single girl?

China
June 15, 2010 9:34pm CST
Although I am single now,but it not represents that I will be single all the time.What's more,I can deal with my own thing by myself and I don't need irrelevant people to govern my marriage and my love.Sometimes, I even don't know who and when and where introduce me a boy as a Mr Right.I even collapse,what should I do ?
7 responses
• India
16 Jun 10
Hi, What I reckon from your statements is that people are giving unwanted advice and are trying to impose their thoughts upon you. If that is the case, its really unfair practice. One should have the liberty to choose what his or her life is gonna be like. The amount of pressure they are putting in may ultimately ruin everything. I think you should directly (but politely and with logic) state that just because you are single there is no reason to think that you are vulnerable, and that you understand the gravity of the situation itself and will act accordingly when the time comes. If they still don't stop, then its best to be defensive. Don't pay hid to them. Go for some outing for a few days. Try to pull yourself together in solitude. Solitude is really necessary for productive rumination, but this solitude has to be absolute. Try to reason with them again. Thanks God bless you
• United States
20 Jun 10
i know this is off subject but i have been wondering since i joined mylot....how do you get the blue star with the number in it?
• India
20 Jun 10
@safirpurim Read this http://www.mylot.com/o/faq/faq11.aspx
@jasmeena (850)
• Indonesia
27 Jun 10
Just don`t take is seriously..being single is not a sin, rite?people can only judge, but they don`t really understand what is really going on
@vanity666 (260)
• Spain
20 Jun 10
they don't have the right to critize what do you with your life, love will come at the right time for you, not before not after...don't bother with other people's opinions, i'd tell them to mind them own business, and don't try to live my life.
• United States
20 Jun 10
dont worry about what others say about you. dont let this foul society pressure you into a relationship. many relationships dont work out mainly because people get together for the wrong reasons...like because they dont wanna be single, or because they are tired of people badmouthing them etc. dont worry about that. in the end, you will be the one who endures the relationship and has to work with the person so listen to the cautions in your own heart. our concscience is the realest voice we may heart, more than hearing anyone else, because we all have different paths in life. it is more important that you know yourself, than getting to know someone else. when a soul finds their true path..the heavens is gentle towards them, even if people are harsh and cruel. be strong...and be sure of every step you take, because however anything goes...you are the one who will deal with it..and not the people who say the things they say. dont lose yourself for the sake of others. after all, only you are responsible for yourself in the end. and your actions should be enjoyed by yourself foremost...not people who criticize
• Philippines
20 Jun 10
hi there! first, you should never ever think that being single is a bad or different. who cares what people say about you being single you have to understand that there are a lot of people who are better off alone. those who are in relationships, not all of them are happy. just look at the advantage of being single. be happy, because a lot of married women out there wish to be single, and they act as if they are. ;-)
@med889 (5958)
20 Jun 10
I believe it is high time to tell those people that you have your life and you are the sole owner of it, you can decide for yourself and no one else because they have their lives too and you do not interfere with theirs so why should they interfere and intervene with yours. Be bold and more stronger too.
@ahinora (57)
• Bulgaria
20 Jun 10
Hallo! Do you know this proverb: "It' better to be alone than with bad company." That's why i am agree with you. By me current situation is temporary for you, maybe you need time to the right person for you, who 'll make you happy. Don't worry I was in the same situation, but I don't live about the others, my life is my life- with my mistakes and proud. Be sure after not along time everything will change.