from friends, becomes boyfriend

Indonesia
June 16, 2010 9:13pm CST
this my experience when i am living at bogor. there i have some closest friend. and he is a boy. seventeen years old. every i have a problem he always gave a help for everything. but as a friend i never felt anything about other. and i felt it just a feeling friend after all. but behind it all he turned out to love me. and i just call him only friend. how to explain this to him.
8 responses
• Malaysia
17 Jun 10
it's best to be as straightforward as possible. guys tend to mis-understand girls most of the time, so keep it as straight and honest as possible so that he doesn't mis-understand what you're trying to tell him
• Indonesia
17 Jun 10
yes i have try to make him understand. and he want to understand and. till now we were friend.
• Malaysia
17 Jun 10
honesty is the best policy good to know that you're friends...some guys even give up being friends after finding out that their feelings of affection isn't mutual
• Indonesia
17 Jun 10
you so funny, i need your respond my friend Stevens.
@abj163 (1038)
• India
17 Jun 10
i think he may feel now that u r not best friends anymore so he must not be talking with u..the thing is u like him but u dont love him .........just meet him anywhere and tell him that u r still best friends and will be in the future ......just tell him very clearly wht u feel about him......tell him to be just friend of urs and iam sure he will accept this all d best happy mylotting
• Indonesia
17 Jun 10
thanks for u, my friend. it may one solution for us. especially for me to make him understand.
@abj163 (1038)
• India
17 Jun 10
u r welcome........ thanks for taking my advice under suggestion ..... add me coz iam new to mylot.......
@abj163 (1038)
• India
17 Jun 10
i mean under consideration.........
@rabajar (134)
• Philippines
17 Jun 10
Ohh Well, you can tell him straight that he's only a friend to you. He's your friend, he will surely understands you. :)
• Indonesia
17 Jun 10
thanks for your advise . and i will try to him understand , but how if he angry and cut our friendship
@pkpb97 (28)
• United States
17 Jun 10
This is always a hard situation to be in because it can really screw up a friendship with someone you care about. Dont be too hard on him, just tell him you care about your friendship too much to risk ruining it by turning it into a relationship. Tell him how much he means to you, and that you would be really upset if anything was to come between the two of you. If he truly is your friend he might feel hurt at first, but he will understand.
• Indonesia
17 Jun 10
but, the some thing heavy is to make him calm, okay i will try it.
• Philippines
17 Jun 10
well we've been in the same situation before.. and i also ask mylotter friends.. well you just need to tell him the truth and try to explain that you love him but not that kind of love that he wants.. i think he will understand though how painful it might be for him.. truth may hurts but that's the only way to solve problems like this..
• Indonesia
17 Jun 10
yes. you are right. it's something to heavy to make him understand. until one day a call him for dinner. and there i explain all of in my heart and thanks, he want to understand me.
@med889 (5958)
18 Jun 10
I think you need to sit down with him in a good place with no crowd around then explain it to him over a cup of coffee, as you will get time to explain every single thing you feel for him though as a friend.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
17 Jun 10
you have to tell him the truth,your true feelings for him. it's bad if you have to tell him that you don't like to be his friend anymore,the best way to do is tell him what you really feel and since you are close friends,i know he'll learn to understand you in any way he can. if he really like/love you,he will learn to accept what you feel.
@mspitot (3834)
• Philippines
17 Jun 10
i think you should talk to him and tell him how you really feel. tell him that you love him as a friend but not as a lover. don't avoid him cause it will hurt him a lot. try to be as normal as you were friends.